I am not very far in the process of working on myself, but one thing I try to remember is that "where it hurts" is where you need to start.
Like if you went to a Dr. the first thing he would do was to talk about what was bothering you. Whether it be head, arm, leg, stomach its where he would start.
So as you are going through the process, where is the pain? It stinks to feel broken in horrible, but it does reveal where the work needs to start.
Now, what to do after you figure that out? Not sure, but if you figure it out, let me know!