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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

FWSO's friend passed away recently.

Tonight he went to friends house where his wife and family had people over... Besides wake... What would a meeting like this be called?

His wife called it something when she invited FWSO over... but I can't for the life of me remember.

FWSO thought he was going to a viewing, but it was in the couples home... so I don't think that's what it was.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

A 'visitation' would be the only other word I can come up with. That's what we call it here in my neck of the southern woods, lol.


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bbee
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Well, I'm from the South, and we call these things "visitation," but they are generally not at people's homes.


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

It was just family and friends... the deceased was not in the house.

Up north when you say a "viewing" it's head at the funeral home and the body is there.


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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

Celebration of Life

It's a get together of friends and relatives of the deceased to share memories, etc.


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, January 9th (Thursday)

A vigil? Although that's usually with the body, like a wake.


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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 2:35 AM, January 10th (Friday)

Are they Jewish? Was it after the funeral? If so, they are sitting shiveh. It's done from 3 days to ore depending on the family.


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Kodi
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, January 10th (Friday)

Did she call it a repast?

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, January 10th (Friday)

They're not Jewish.... The funeral was today.

Shiva's a sat for 7 days, not 3 days...

I'm Jewish, when my Grandma died we sat Shiva for 7 days.

I think she may have called it an Open House...

I don't know... I guess it doesn't matter now.


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Vigil, viewing, visitation, memorial... are his friends Jewish? Are they sitting shiva?


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Open house was my first thought.

We had open houses for everything in Michigan. Seriously, everything.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

Around here, shiva runs anywhere from 1 to 7 days. I guess with modern efficiency, we can get through the mourning more quickly.

I wonder how well that works....


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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

It is customary for family and close friends to have a gathering of this nature (usually after the funeral, but it can be at any time). As far as I know, it does not have a formal name or designation, probably because it is optional and it is generally an invitation only event.

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

We call it "visitation".


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, January 11th (Saturday)

Thanks....

Sisoon.... I was describing a Shiva per the religious instruction I received. I didn't know others had shortened them to suit their own convenience.

I am pretty sure she called it an "open house" in the text message she sent... but like I said... in the long run I guess it's nit picking.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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