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thecaves
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Member # 38062
Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, January 10th (Friday)

So my BW is pissed today because I couldn't make the MC session. We have been going 2-4 times per month for a year now and this is the first time I had work issues come up and couldn't go.

I suggested yesterday that we reschedule but she wanted to just go herself and I am happy she wanted to. I was hoping things would be good at work today so I could go but it was just too hectic and I was under massive pressure to get a project completed.

So I guess I am just wondering...
How often do you attend MC?
Do you both always go?
Have you ever needed to cancel on short notice and how do you handle the fallout?


Me: WH
Her: BW
Kids: Yes
Married: 20+
D-Day: 12/2012

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Posts: 173 | Registered: Jan 2013
Simple
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Member # 18814
Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I applaud you going to the MC sessions continuously. That's always been hard for people even those truly working on R.

MC is supposed to be for both people. I think her anger has more to do with the feeling that yet again she is not a priority. That work emergencies trump her, that it is more important than her.

The number of times you attend IC/MC is dependent on what you both need to work on. There was absolutely no way that we would both miss it when we plan. We either go together or the BS makes the call of what's ok.

Hope that helps you.


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Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
foolishlycluless
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Member # 41404
Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, January 10th (Friday)

We have been going once per week since our first session in mid-October - with the exception of when we are travelling (together). When WH has a business trip that conflicts with our MC (like earlier this week), I still go for an IC session.


BW 55
WH 59
M 30 yrs, together 33 yrs, no children.
D-Day #1: 9/23/2013, EA 15+ months, PA with 34 YO business assoc
D-Day #2: 11/27/2013, OW, EA for 2-3 yrs (2005-2007), PA
D-Day #3: 6/6/2014, found the sex video
Status: Putting on my bitch bo

Posts: 120 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Washington DC
RegretfulHusband
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Member # 41873
Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I second Simple's response.


Me: FWH, 34
Her: BS, 33
Married: 6 years
Together: 10+ years
Kids: 2 Boys under 5

DDay1: 7+ years ago
DDay2: 1.5 years ago

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Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: United States
heforgotme
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Member # 38391
Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, January 11th (Saturday)

Do you both always go?

No, although we shoot for that.

Our MC is very popular and books up way in advance. So we have to schedule sessions way ahead, often without knowing one or both of our schedules. When there is a conflict, the other person goes alone.


D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
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