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LostSamurai
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Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I told my WW I am forgiving her and moving on...meaning I am detaching from her and I am not going to waste the energy spying on her. The last thing I am going to do is make another request for texts from our phone company, check to see if there are any numbers appearing multiple times that shouldn't be and just going on from there.

If she wanted to be back in this marriage, she would be doing it...not me. I am checking out.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1029 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
Brandon808
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Member # 35619
Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Agree with everything except the request for the records. If you''re moving forward with truly detaching then don''t ask for then unless you require them for legal reasons


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 3670 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
suckstobeme
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Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I'm sorry that she's not fighting to save your marriage, but I'm glad you are now fighting to save yourself. There sometimes comes a point when there is no choice but to throw up the white flag and move forward.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2712 | Registered: Jan 2011
DazedWI
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Member # 41432
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Cheers to you Samurai, I will pour you a scotch tonight so you can join me. Definitely a moment when you see the picture in front of you.


ME (29) - BS
Her (29) - STBXWW
Dday - 10/25/2013
Married - 7/2007
Been Together - 9/2003

Posts: 83 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Midwest
RegretfulHusband
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Member # 41873
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Very sorry to hear, LostSamurai.

Thinking good thoughts for you.


Me: FWH, 34
Her: BS, 33
Married: 6 years
Together: 10+ years
Kids: 2 Boys under 5

DDay1: 7+ years ago
DDay2: 1.5 years ago

"The truth shall set you free, but first it will make you miserable."


Posts: 129 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: United States
4everfaithful83
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Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Glad you're standing up for yourself!

wishing you some piece tonight...


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
phoenixrise
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Member # 41745
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I think thats big of you...me too Im getting to the point where it is just getting too exhausting and need peace...its a great step and hope it elevates you


"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul

Posts: 212 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Dante's Inferno
PRNDL
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Member # 41927
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, January 11th (Saturday)

I will never forgive my wife. Ever. For what she did and how she went about it. Im 9 months from d-day, separated, and headed for divorce.

She destroyed our future. She destroyed the last 14 years together. She destroyed my son's family.

I will carry this to my grave. Its horrible.


BH: 35 (me)
WS: 30 / OM: 30
Son: 11
Affair: 1.5 year long 2012
ONS with stranger Feb 2013
D-day #1 March 2013
D-day #2 April 2013
D-day #3 Sept 2013
Affair continued.
Limbo 7 months
Moved out - 180D - NC
Divorced
She recently ended it with OM

Posts: 191 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Tampa Florida
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