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User Topic: why has he never said anything bad about OW?
SusanR
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, January 10th (Friday)

He has sais he doesn't want to see her anymorre but he willnot say anything bad about her.

Makes me think he might be hoding couching his bets.

He has said he never thought I would find out so he didn't think I would get hurt. F'in 3 times! What BS that is. He saw that it damned near killed me and he sid it again but,He wants me to think he has seen the light.

If so, why can't he admit she is a horrible person? She told him she had several A's with married men before him.

I also asked him how he knew she wasn't cheating on him. He said he "just knew" she wouldn't do that. Why, because she has such outstanding moral character?

I would like to, just once, hear him say she is a bitch. SOBIs still playing a game!


Posts: 1931 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Holy crap, this is exactly what STBXH said to me.

He has said he never thought I would find out so he didn't think I would get hurt.

My STBXH also had the pleasure of seeing me collapse under the pain of his cheating. Pain he never thought I'd have. (there aren't enough emoticons for this type of emotion)


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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Posts: 1646 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Mine said she was a nice girl, and assured me there was no way she would cheat on him so I didn't need to get tested for STDs HA!! Nevermind that she sent such a hateful message to me, outing the affair, including little details that were unnecessary and very painful (like he called her his "one true love" and drove straight to her house after he got back from our honeymoon. Even after he kind of got over her he still never says anything bad, he's just silent. Oh well, you can't really expect much from someone like that.


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SusanR
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Member # 29368
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, January 10th (Friday)

I got checked for STDs twice. I didn't the ladt time because he said they had not had sex yet. He was just sending her pics of his penis! I don't know why I believed that. I should have got myself checked, again. After all, it is such a pleasant experience and not humiliating at all!

Posts: 1931 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, January 10th (Friday)

Because if he admitted that he would have to admit that he is also a horrible person and most WS will never admit that. Some are prepared to do everything necessary to save their marriage/relationship. Others want to protect the OW and their relationship. I guess you have to determine which side he is sitting on.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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