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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, January 12th (Sunday)

I am starting to loose myself. I work full time and b/c of traffic, my commute is usually ~1hr each way. My kids are 8 and 11 and have multiple activities which they love and I am a part of. I am engaged to a wonderful man, but he is an hour away also. I usually see him when the my kids are with their father, sometimes more. But I am running ragged. I worked Christmas Eve and Day and New Years Eve. I also worked last weekend. I have no vacation time because I spend it on kids days off of school. I was running (ran a 1/2 in October) but haven't had the time or energy since DST. I have been in a funk the last couple of weeks and I'm pretty sure it is because I'm not doing anything for me. But to tell you the truth, I'm too tired to do anything. I used to be social w a lot of friends, I hosted many get togethers. But I haven't done them in the past two years, money, time and energy. I feel like I am become a mom and a partner again, where is me? I got in this funk before, but I had a husband that allowed me time and the $$ to do some stuff (nothing major -> like hosting a cookie exchange) or sailing w my old high school friends (haven't done that in two years as I have my kids) or running with my running club. Now that I'm a single mom work full time I don't have the time for me.

Sigh, I know physical activity will help. I need to start back up w my videos until it gets light outside again.

I thought of a class, but it would have to be Tues nights. Yoga?

Any ideas?


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, January 12th (Sunday)

It sounds like you know what you need to do to "find" yourself and feel better. It is so hard to find time for exercise and friends when you have kids who need so much of your time. It would help if you had a partner at home to watch the kids while you went to the gym...can you hire a babysitter? Have a friend you can trade "kid free time" with?
You have to carve out time when you are a mom, a worker and a partner...you can't wait to find it, you never will have it. Would exercise help your tiredness?

It got easier for me when my children were middle school aged. Their activities increased some, but on days when they had no activities, they could stay home by themselves while I went to the gym.

I think it is hard to be more active this time of year. It's dark out and we want to stay indoors. Maybe we need more sleep this time of year...isn't that what humans did before electricity...go to sleep when it got too dark to see?


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3219 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, January 12th (Sunday)

Maybe we need more sleep this time of year...isn't that what humans did before electricity..

I don't even have kids and I sleep more in winter.

I'm up at 5:30 and if I don't get at least 7 hours, life just isn't any fun.

Sleep as much as you can. It's a great healer.

((mp))


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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