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RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

So, my WW moves out (I told her to leave) almost two months ago. I've 180ed pretty well, and I do not contact her. Yesterday, I left my phone at home. She tried to call yesterday evening, then texted, and then Facebook messaged me. I did ignore them when I got home because she was just asking "are you OK". To me, she just wants some "ego kibbles".

Anyway, in another Facebook message this morning, she says "Assuming you're ok because messenger shows when people see messages. I hope you are doing well. Why are you ignoring me?"

Are you freaking kidding me? Maybe because you had an A, are completely unremorseful, blame shift all of it, have lied endlessly, gaslighted me to no end, refuse to admit you did anything wrong, and you still talk (and God knows what else) to the SOB!

Thanks for reading, I just needed to vent.

[This message edited by RealityStinks at 8:41 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)]


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Nest2007
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Vent away my friend, vent away. Time after time, these deluded WSs and APs blow my mind with their insensitivity/stupidity.


BS 35
WS 31
DD, only child
DDay: 06/09/13
End of TT/Full Disclosure 07/08/13

Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.

Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.


Posts: 230 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Here and there...
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Wow, after all she has done to you and you aren't rushing to respond? Seriously, they just don't get it....or rather they don't want to get it.
Continue ignoring away.
She will eventually leave you alone, and you don't need the drama of her contact!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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Kitty70
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Member # 41939
Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Stay strong my friend. But, remember she probably feels guilty. I know that's know solace though.


Me: BGF, 43
Him: WBF, 35
Together 9 years, moved in 8/15/2013

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4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

I commend you for staying strong! What a dumb questions! "why are you ignoring me?" your answer made me laugh a little because it should be so obvious to her! Sometimes it seems like they really just don't get it. It's like they have talked themselves into believing that what they did wasn't that bad.


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Vulcanized
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Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

"Why are you ignoring me?" Translation: I need attention. I need attention. You're still my back-up plan, right?!?

Arrgh. Sorry you are going thru this. Ignore her & carry on.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

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justjim
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

Wow. My WW has another twin.

Either that, or there is a handbook that they follow

Stay strong!


Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013
RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, January 15th (Wednesday)

I really want to reply to her and say that I'm not ignoring her, but that I'm not going to have anything to do with her until she kicks the OM out of her life 10000000000%.

But, she knows this. I think she just wants to make sure that I'm still waiting around.

I made my R conditions perfectly clear the last time we spoke face-to-face. I don't know what's hard to understand about "I am not interested in talking, much less R, until you 1. Cut OM out of your life, 2. I get access to everything, 3. You account for ALL of your time, 4. You agree to go to IC for you and MC for us."

Honestly, I'm to the point that I don't even know if I want to R at all. Trust is huge, and it's just not there anymore.


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