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ShatteredPagan
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Member # 35475
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

We are in the middle of A season with our antiversary fast approaching. Its been alomst 2 years since DDay and we have come a long way.

So my FWS responds to a story I was sharing about training someone today with "well, he might have a past like me." I was floored. We dont talk about his A anymore. I know it all, or as much as I want to know. He is extremely remorseful and I dont have the desire to rub his face in it anymore. So I was speechless when he made referrence to it. He then held me and apoligized again for hurting me.

Now this in itself made my heart sing. But wait... theres more!

He then told me about a girl who does checkout at the retail job he does. He said that he had gone thru her line several times when he started to feel that there was a little too friendly conversation happening. The next time he went thru he made a point to talk about me and the girls to her. He then said that after that she was still friendly but not the same.

I Am proud of him for 1) telling me about it and 2) having good solid boundries. He respected my wishes in all of it!

I had to pass on a good story. :)


WS (him) 48
BS (me) 39
Together since 5/13/2005
Married 10/13/2012
No kids together. 3 total between us (17, 15, 13)
Affair started: 12/19/2011
Sobriety birthday: 1/11/2012
D-day: 2/17/2012
R-day: 3/1/2012
"The next time you think you a

Posts: 56 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Leicester, North Carolina
trying1
Member
Member # 40954
Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

So glad to hear it. Its nice to hear that he came through for you!!! Thanks for sharing.


Me: 40 (BS)
Him:37 (FWH)
Married:11 years
4 kids
DDay 7/27/13
LTA: 3 years

Posts: 58 | Registered: Oct 2013
SisterMilkshake
Member
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, January 16th (Thursday)


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
AML04
Member
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

Love it!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
meplusfour
Member
Member # 38958
Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

"like"


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 387 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
ziganska
Member
Member # 41690
Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

That's a great story and one I needed today! Thanks!


Me: 42
Him: 49
DD: 12/2/2013
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring

Posts: 123 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: New York
ok2014
New Member
Member # 42060
What?  Posted: 9:53 PM, January 16th (Thursday)

THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Not too many happy stories here. I so needed to hear happy ending after talking to a divorce lawyer (very depressing meeting) I like to read betraydwivesclub blog but right now I feel like I belong here since WH is not ready to reconcilate.


ME BS
HIM WH
2 teenage kids
Separated
Calls OW a leech......I just wonder what he calls me..


Posts: 28 | Registered: Jan 2014
HardenMyHeart
Member
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 2:24 AM, January 17th (Friday)


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5695 | Registered: Aug 2007
greengiant
Member
Member # 41196
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, January 17th (Friday)

Thank you!


ME - BS - 33
fWW - 33
Married 8 years, together 15
3 kids: 6, 4 and 2
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW

Posts: 145 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Quebec, Canada
lostcovenants
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Member # 40637
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, January 17th (Friday)

Thank you for sharing this - I was looking for positive stories today and this was a great help to me!


BS 60; fWH 59; 2 children, 1 grandchild; Married 37+ years, he is my only; D-day 7/8/13; MOW, PA 2009-?. Broke it off about a week before I found out. Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me. STATUS UPDATE - SEPARATED :-(

Posts: 167 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
Skan
Member
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, January 17th (Friday)

How lovely! Yeah!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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