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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

saw this and thought it belonged here .

*I am allowed to be vocal about my pain if it helps me heal

*I am allowed to be sad in places other than my own head

*I am allowed to express my anger/sadness/hurt in ways that do not hurt other people

*I am allowed to speak my truth even when it makes others uncomfortable

*I am allowed to take care of myself, even if it makes people who hurt me uncomfortable

*I am allowed to create my own rules for self-care, as long as it doesn't hurt others who have my best interest at heart.


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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steadfast1973
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Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

Yes.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
PhoenixRising88
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Member # 35214
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

YEPPERS!!!!!

And I would add one:

- I am allowed to not be okay with being treated poorly.

[This message edited by PhoenixRising88 at 7:13 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)]


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 427 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
cl131716
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Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

I like the sound of that!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
EB1541
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Member # 42143
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

Thanks! This really hit home for me.


D-day Jan. 2, 2014
Just married Nov. 3, 2013
My age: 22, his age:26
One wonderful son together - 11 months old

Posts: 87 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
Coachdig10
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Member # 41706
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

I have to keep telling myself these things. I am allowed....


BS- 42
WS- 36
Married 16
Kids- 3
DDay 1/17/13

Posts: 52 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: California
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37256 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
brokendancer7
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Member # 39911
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, January 21st (Tuesday)

I am allowed to like that post!


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 192 | Registered: Jul 2013
Jennifer99
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Member # 39551
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I need to print this to keep with me!

Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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