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SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:03 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Just opened the envelope with the court stamped doc - I've been free since Saturday!

My colleagues cracked open the champers and my girlfriends are planning a freedom party for me on Friday night.

Almost 2 years from DD and 18m from final S. I've been waiting for the papers since October.

Finally!! WOOWHOO!!


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 2:06 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Many, many, many whoops of joy for you!!!!!!!!!!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9307 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
PhantomLimb
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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!


BS / D

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:36 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I'm about to go to bed and saw your post! Yeehaw!! I'm so happy that another one of us can officially start their new beginning!! Enjoy your freedom party!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2117 | Registered: Oct 2012
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Woooohooooo!

Congratulations.


Its a fucking marvelous day when those papers arrive .


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:30 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats SBB! Here's to your new beginning.



"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1284 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 5:17 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats!!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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copout
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Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Very nice!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!


Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.

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copout
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Very nice!! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!


Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Woo hoo!!!! Congratulations, honey!


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

WOOT!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2570 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Abbondad
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Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Many congratulations, SBB. You have waited long and endured much. Breathe many deep sighs of relief and freedom and look forward to your life.

[This message edited by Abbondad at 8:19 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1572 | Registered: Dec 2012
Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I''m happy for you, SBB. Congratulations on losing all that weight (that big hunk of dumbass dead weight!).

You deserve a happy, fresh, new beginning.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1695 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

How did I almost miss this?????

WOOOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!

Way to go SBB - FREEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDDDDOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMM!!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Dobegirl
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Hip hip hurrayyyy!!! So happy for you!!


Me- BS 44 Always faithfull
Him- WS 44
2 mo. EA/PA with 25 yr. old slut that stroked his ego, online profiles, CL ads
Married 8 years-No kids together
DDay-11/21/12
False R many different times fromJan/13 till Dec/13
Divorcing

Posts: 148 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northern Indiana
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Where is the happy dance icon???

CONGRATS!!


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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haysuth01
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congratulations!!


XBS
Divorced 5/07.
DS-7! What?!
Happily remarried, B/G twins (5).

Posts: 219 | Registered: Jul 2010
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Yay!!!!!! Happy New Year, my friend.


Me: 43, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5611 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
cayc
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Great news!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3003 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
littlefoggy
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats!!


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 486 | Registered: Nov 2013
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

YAY!!!! Happy New Beginning!!!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats!!!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Happy for you, SBB!! Such a long process and I'm sure it's satisfying in a way to see it over. You've already started on a new beginning but now you have the paperwork to prove it.


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 176 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats! Whoop! Whoop!

Onward to better things!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Lola7
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Yay! Congratulations! :)


caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!

Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I did shed a few tears last night but it was the first night my girls were away and I do that the first few nights they go anyway. I wish they were here so I could hug them.

This melancholy has been around for a few days because I'm hating this week-about business. Ironically I've been listening to a song called "Free" non-stop for the last 3 days (this version is beautiful - starts at 0:40 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dRcRhWErjjo)

I had the best nights sleep last night - some of it was the 2 glasses of champers but a lot of it was peace. Blessed peace.

Y'know - before I was married I thought the marriage certificate was just a piece of paper. I used to tell people I was surprised that I did feel 'different' once I was married. There's something about standing in front of everyone and making a statement like that. He felt like family, my family felt like his, his family felt like mine. Connection.

I do feel 'different' again now. On Friday night I'm going to stand in front of 20 of my girlfriends and make another statement. One of freedom, of connection with myself, my friends, my family, my amazing little girls. Then I'm going to party like its 1999.

Thank you for all the support you give. I don't know anyone IRL who has been through this so I can't fully express how grateful I am for all of you.

(((SI Family)))


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Bravo to you!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

What a relief that must be. Congratulations!

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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats, SB!!!!

See if you can find a mechanical bull to ride on Friday!


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 731 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Woo-freaking-Hoo!!!!!

Cannot wait to raise a glass of wine in your honor tonight.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
mof2
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Member # 40287
Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congratulations!!!! On to bigger and better things for you....while karma will bite the ex in the ass!


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 312 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

See if you can find a mechanical bull to ride on Friday!

OMG! Worst/Best idea ever!!!

Thank you all - I'm beaming today. Absolutely beaming.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

Congrats on the end and the beginning!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

A word of caution.............

Your face/cheeks might hurt from all the smiling. Try to remember to take breaks from incessantly grinning throughout the day.

I think my dimples have wrinkles now


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I am so stealing the freedom party idea! Hell - I might even hire a band if the L doesn't take it all!


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
thebighurt
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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday)

I'm beaming today. Absolutely beaming.

Exactly how I felt when I got mine. I went out to eat with some special people and I got a fortune cookie with, "All good things will now come your way." as my fortune. A few days later, I received the D decree in the mail, official when I got that fortune. And it has been so true! Well, except for what xpos continues to do to me. Everything else has been great.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2188 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 2:58 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Your face/cheeks might hurt from all the smiling. Try to remember to take breaks from incessantly grinning throughout the day.

I have RSI of the cheeks!


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
velveteer
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Member # 30997
Default  Posted: 3:34 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Well done SBB - enjoy the new start! I hope to be not far behind.....


Divorced

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Vulcanized
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Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)

OMG! Worst/Best idea ever!!!

Only if you fight the bull. I can privately send you a link to the video that crippled me for ... 5 fucking days.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 731 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:25 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)

^^ Yes please!!

I'm still sore from the mummy sized jumping castle on Saturday. I'll do warm ups before next time.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Wow, SBB, I'm so happy to read this.
I was under the impression that you were waiting for the sad clown to file after the 1 year waiting period.
It's done. Congrats.

Now go get that bull.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1311 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

@Lola, I was waiting for him to file (let him do the running around and pay the $800 - its his fraud to complete, not mine!).

He sent me the doc to sign in October then sat on it for a month or two waiting for me to ask him about it for some big fat juicy ego kibbles. He got skinny crickets instead.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
yestopants
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Member # 41631
Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

congrats!!


Me: 34
WH:37
Married 11years together 13 years
OW
"I don't love you anymore" 17/11/2013
DD 9 DS 7

Posts: 254 | Registered: Dec 2013
rainagain
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Member # 14917
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Congratulations!

"skinny crickets"


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17

Posts: 1290 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
need_hope
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Member # 23989
Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Congratulations. I'm glad this part is over for you.


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


Posts: 1729 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
Thefly559
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Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Congratulations to you sbb. You are so strong and inspirational to all. Enjoy your total freedom and new beginnings. All the best.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 611 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Congrats SBB!!!


Divorced 1/3/14

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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, January 24th (Friday)

Congratulations SBB!
...And thank you for all the support and wisdom you share with this site. I always enjoy reading your posts.

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: In a better place
NewMom0220
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, January 24th (Friday)

Yay! Congrats!


Me: BS 36
Him: WS 37
14 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Posts: 329 | Registered: Apr 2013
SBB
Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:49 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

I'm thanking my lucky stars today that I don't suffer hangovers - I seem to sleep them off.

My freedom party was awesome and my speech was hilarious and brilliant (even if I do say so myself).

I thanked everyone there for the kind of support they gave me - support that I never knew I needed but I so did. I am grateful to every single one of them.

Those who ranted with me, cried with me, hugged me as I sobbed, rage walked with me, sat quietly with me in contemplation, spoke gentle words to me, said prayers for me even though I'm not a believer, roared at the moon with me, put me back into line when my white hot rage started besting me, patted my head to comfort me, spooned me during the darkest times, laughed so hard our stomachs and cheeks hurt, recommended beautiful books, songs, films and works of art to inspire me.

I am so unbelievably blessed to have this army beside me IRL and the SI army here too. So blessed.

I hope to god I never have to repay these kindnesses big and small but I am ready to do it in a heartbeat.

Divorce is not what I ever wanted - it did become what I needed. I am more sure of divorcing that guy than I ever was about marrying him.

Strong But Broken was my original name here. If I signed up today it would be Blessed and Free.... and Whiskey/Whisky proof.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5440 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
SusanR
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Member # 29368
Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

(((SBb)))

"Divorce is not what I ever wanted - it did become what I needed. I am more sure of divorcing that guy than I ever was about marrying him."

This.

Thank you.


Posts: 1930 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Midwest
careerlady
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Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

I''m glad you''re free and that you had a great time. You deserve it!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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