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User Topic: Limbo....on steroids
dumbndumber
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Member # 25700
Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Been in Limbo for almost 4 years now. neither I or my BW really want to split. That said, she has shown me little or no warmth during this time, I have been out of the house 3+ years now. We have both been through other relationships we figured out that until we figure US out, other people just don't work. Our lives are totally intertwined with kids and friends. I finally have convinced her to go to IC ( I have for some time now). Divorce sucks and i would do anything to reconcile and try. But limbo sucks even more and life marches on...and on. Many times i lose hope and just want to finalize things. We had done mediation sessions and actually came to an agreement. But then we both wanted to step back. She may be just scared of D and like that I'm there. I don't think so though she is struggling with this just like me. My only choice is limbo or divorce right now. I can't find my way to the right path and...it's really killing me.


WH 45 turned into BH
BS 39 turned into WS
dday 7/8/09
3 awesome kids

Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: NY
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

I wish I had some advice, but I can't get out of my own limbo!

Are you in MC? (My short term memory isn't the best!) do they have any helpful tools or activities to help with the decision making process?

I agree divorce sucks.

Maybe the decision that needs to be made is deciding what is keeping you apart and working on that full steam ahead?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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