User Topic: I can't take much more..
Member # 31938
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

I can't take much more here... Dealing with all this bullshit with her, my sons still dealing with it, youngest had surgery on Tuesday and is in a lot of pain (getting better but still sore) and now I get to go back and have my leg cut back open to remove whatever infection or issue going on inside tomorrow (all came about today). I can't fucking win..I can do it and have gotten help for tomorrow in place already but fuck me... Oh well it's not like she would have looked after me anyway if she was here!! When do they quit serving all these shit sammiches in life!???!

Me BS 42, STBX 40 renamed numero cinco
OM#2 puppylove from HS
EA 10/07 thru 5/08
PA 5/12,13,14 and 7/26 of 08
Admitted to calls/email texts 08/08, TT until D/Day 10/10
OM#1, 9 mos after "I do"
She walked out on me and her kids 1/1/14 (

Posts: 314 | Registered: Apr 2011
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

(((brokenfyrman))) Sorry your youngest is in pain from surgery. That really sucks. I'm glad you got things set-up for after your surgery. Hope they get everything out that they need to. Take care of yourself and your kids. Hopefully you can heal and then get on with cleaning the shit outta your life!

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

short answer: that kitchen is always open. It's got a faster service window for those of us who have been betrayed by someone we loved and trusted.

You can get through this. It won't be easy and it won't be fun, but you can find the parts of yourself that are strong enough and use them until the rest of you catches up. Good luck with your procedure tomorrow! and let us know how it goes?

Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 661 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)


It can seem relentless at times. It sure sounds relentless in your post. But you've got this. You are handling it all beautifully. Keep on walking, fyrman.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 26122 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

I took off after I got to this point.
I had a ticket to go to Myrtle Beach and I used it.
Is there anyplace you and the boys can go for a weekend? Someplace that won't trigger you and will create better memories down the road?
Honey, you NEEEEEED a break and soon!
(((brokenfryman & DSs)))

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2498 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Brother. Sorry it pours when it rains , but that is when we have to dig deep. Now is the time that separates the men from the boys. You will get through all the shit sandwiches because you have no choice. Stay strong

"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 706 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

After the storm will come the rainbow. Keep your chin up during the storm so you are looking for that rainbow!

I know it seems like the crap is never ending, and it is so easy to let it swallow you up. But keep plugging along and soon the shit part will be over. You can do this!

divorced the Dooosh
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.

Posts: 3628 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
New Member
Member # 41718
Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

((((brokenfyrman)))) I am so sorry about all you and your son have to endure. You can do it, you sound like you are a strong individual who is taking good care of his family. That's definitively not something she can say!

Posts: 18 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

Hugs my friend, you got this, you know you do. It is just the inequity of it all. Why do the WS seem to just glide on unscathed while everything happens to the BS?
Because....I have no idea. No words of wisdom just prayers for you to find the inner strength to get through this.
Your sons are proud of you and how you are handling this of this I am sure. Take care...

Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.

Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 31938
Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, January 23rd (Thursday)

My oldest texted to ask me about his brother's progress and asked if número cinco had come by to visit or check on him. I told him what she said about just calling. So he tells me this...

yea i know ive talked to him he doenst think she wants much to do with us

Why the fuck is she doing this to them?? They so don't deserve this. Oldest and I were discussing how things were going and we ended up talking about how she doesn't want to be my wife anymore and doesn't "just" want to be their mom.
Oh this is so frustrating.

Me BS 42, STBX 40 renamed numero cinco
OM#2 puppylove from HS
EA 10/07 thru 5/08
PA 5/12,13,14 and 7/26 of 08
Admitted to calls/email texts 08/08, TT until D/Day 10/10
OM#1, 9 mos after "I do"
She walked out on me and her kids 1/1/14 (

Posts: 314 | Registered: Apr 2011
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