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broken <3
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Default  Posted: 2:28 AM, January 24th (Friday)

I'm common law here in bc and need some advice from members here on separating while common law or some kind of an agreement that stands up in court. I'm not 100% yet that I want a full on separation or a trail one. Please send prayers and advice. I'm so lost.


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
roarlouder
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Default  Posted: 4:08 AM, January 24th (Friday)

I think common law rules depend on your province. Hang in there.


DDay-sept 2013
1LTA(5yrs) plus many ONS
Divorcing.
No kids

Posts: 356 | Registered: Oct 2013
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, January 24th (Friday)

Hi broken
I'm from Ontario.
Common Law for 12 years.
There are online separation agreements that are pretty general. I think I found one that did not say husband and wife.
He didn't want to sign it anyway.
We did not go the lawyer route.
We had pretty much separate finances except for the real estate.
We have twin DD's that were 7 at the time of DDay.
He did not want to have a set visitation schedule since he was travelling to Europe to see MOW.

You are considered common law if you have been living together for 2 years, you are both unmarried (actually if you have kids together you are still common law even if one of the parents is married to someone else but cannot be living with them)
It's complicated.

Try looking online for BC forms specifically. I found a lot of info online.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 7:09 AM, January 24th (Friday)]


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1364 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, January 24th (Friday)

http://www.familylaw.lss.bc.ca/resources/fact_sheets/separation.php

That might be a place to start.

If you have children, you will want to get something in writing as soon as possible in regard to visitation and child support.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2507 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
Lilypad
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

There was a change in BC March of 2013, which should benefit you.

See this:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/common-law-couples-as-good-as-married-in-b-c-1.1413551

There is also F&Q section on this new thing in the link that GS gave you!


“You can make mistakes, but you are not a failure until you blame others for those mistakes.” -John Wooden

Posts: 121 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Canada
broken <3
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Member # 35098
Default  Posted: 5:07 AM, January 25th (Saturday)

Thank you so much for the links and advice. I've looked into a lawyer. Before I go ahead an throw money at him that I can't afford, what steps should I take? I see someone mentioned separation forms that their ex?? Stbx (sorry I'm still very dazed) didn't want to sign? Where can I find those? And if he agrees to sign what does that mean exactly?
I'm so lost. Thank god for my dad being here with me! And of course SI.


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
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