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scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, January 24th (Friday)

Wow. I did it. I set a consult day. Cover story in place. Sorta. I have all documentation ready. I have all the financials.

I did ask a question that has me faltering. How much is the retainer? Initial consult is free. But the retainer is 3k to 5k. Omg. Where does that come from?? I don't have rich family. No assets to sell. No savings. He has killed every extra cent we had. I thought I was doing well that I squirreled away $400 in three months. At that rate I'll have retainer in three years?!?? Obviously divorce is for the rich and
Wealthy. Idk what I'm gonna do. I'll go. See what they have to say. But if they need that much up front I think I'm trapped....


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, January 24th (Friday)

You'll be ok. Get as much info as you can at the consult. You'll feel in control after you have information.

I put my retainer on a credit card and in the D settlement had it written that ex-shat would pay 2/3 of my attorney fees (I was a SAHM at the time).


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4656 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
sparkysable
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Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, January 24th (Friday)

See if your city has a legal aid bureau and see if you'll qualify.

Other than that, I would suggest credit card.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3364 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, January 24th (Friday)

Thanks to the WH all credit is maxed out. Not available. I'm ginna have to explore other ways. Maybe legal aid. My issue is that we are totally maxed on credit. Totally upside down on everything. He is not real bright when it comes to money. He spends way more than we have.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
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