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User Topic: Reluctant to hash out financial data
Smashedat58
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Member # 41705
Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, January 26th (Sunday)

Hi all, I' m on my way to getting a collaborative divorce, with no regrets. I have let go of the false future I thought I had. My problem, now, is that I can't bear to see WH to get our financial information documented. I know I have to do this, but I know I'll be nasty to him. He's such an unbelievably selfish pig, that he still thinks he's a great guy for helping me get the information that I am entitled to. It would be so much easier if he showed the least amount of remorse. I had to put him off today, because I didn't sleep well last night, and I told him I was sick. He came over, anyway, to his mother's house next door, and I'm just waiting for him to leave, so I can do what I want to, today. Anybody else ever feel this way, trapped, or in a rut?

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, January 26th (Sunday)

I don't understand the dilemma. Maybe I'm not reading your post correctly. You say you're going for a collaborative divorce, but then say you don't want to share the data necessary to make that happen. Is that right?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9856 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, January 26th (Sunday)

I read it as Smashed doesn't want to see her STBXWH in order to get the data.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6587 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Smashedat58
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Member # 41705
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, January 26th (Sunday)

That's it, I feel sick at having to see the WH. I'm stuck on this.

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 26th (Sunday)

Then may I suggest scanning & emailing the data? That's how most of the data I got from my ex came. Scanned into a pdf and emailed.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9856 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Smashedat58
Member
Member # 41705
Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, January 26th (Sunday)

Trying to do this as we speak.

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
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