Recovery for the most part is going well but when we go out there are times she will wear a tight outfit and I will catch her glacing at other men . This doesn't seem healthy BS-(52)
married 28 yrs
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rachelc Member Member # 30314
Posted: 11:06 AM, January 28th (Tuesday)
My WH looked at other women for a year! I called him on it every time. Our MC called him on it. He posted a picture of himself on facebook coming out of the ocean looking like a bronzed adonis. You have a right to be concerned. STILL looking for external validation. his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
4 kiddos in lower 20's
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kalimata Member Member # 42104
Posted: 12:51 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)
You need to tell your WW to stop dressing in such tight clothing because it makes you feel uncomfortable when other men look at her. She needs to stop, period. She obviously hasn't understood this.
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wert Member Member # 34478
Posted: 12:56 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)
What a great opportunity you have. Tell her how you feel about it. Tell her it seems she is continuing to look for external validation from men. Then see what she says. Her reaction should be telling regarding her progress towards authenticity.
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Aubrie Member Member # 33886
Posted: 1:01 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)
I agree with wert.
Tell her how you feel about it. See what her reaction is. Defensiveness = trouble.
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