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Itsgoingtobeok
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, January 28th (Tuesday)

Recovery for the most part is going well but when we go out there are times she will wear a tight outfit and I will catch her glacing at other men . This doesn't seem healthy


BS-(52)
WS-49
married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery

"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty


Posts: 216 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Los Angeles
rachelc
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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, January 28th (Tuesday)

My WH looked at other women for a year! I called him on it every time. Our MC called him on it. He posted a picture of himself on facebook coming out of the ocean looking like a bronzed adonis. You have a right to be concerned. STILL looking for external validation.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

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Posts: 5344 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
kalimata
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Member # 42104
Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

You need to tell your WW to stop dressing in such tight clothing because it makes you feel uncomfortable when other men look at her. She needs to stop, period. She obviously hasn't understood this.

Posts: 191 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
wert
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Member # 34478
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

What a great opportunity you have. Tell her how you feel about it. Tell her it seems she is continuing to look for external validation from men. Then see what she says. Her reaction should be telling regarding her progress towards authenticity.

take care...



Posts: 1436 | Registered: Jan 2012
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

I agree with wert.

Tell her how you feel about it. See what her reaction is. Defensiveness = trouble.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

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