User Topic: Weather trigger
Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

It doesn't snow a lot here, if y'all aren't familiar with the weather in SC.

So, today we are waiting on the SC version of SNOWMAGEDDON!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I saw 3 flakes earlier and it's apparently coming soon. )

The last time it snowed here of any consequence was almost exactly 3 years ago. We were doing our month of in house S hell. I wasn't sure if I'd be able to leave work, then wasn't sure I'd make it home. JM did not care. I think back to the conversations that day and it makes me sad. Because he didn't care one bit if I came home or not, if I made it safely or not. I ended up staying in town at a hotel where our administrator reserved a bunch of rooms. JM wouldn't ask his parents about letting the kids spend the night, so I had to call them. And my FIL hung up on me after saying, "Well, we figured that!!"

The one positive thing I remember is that I shared a room that night with our supply clerk. We ended up talking half the night. I will never forget how kind she was to me. How encouraging. She told me not to settle for being treated like crap. That I deserved to be cared for and treated right. I saw her today and I told her thanks again for her kindness. She said, "Hey, that's what us women are for. We gotta stick together!"

Things are totally different today. When the forecast was uncertain, JM insisted he would come and pick me up so I wouldn't have to drive in bad weather or stupid traffic. (Synonymous, really, around here.) There is no doubt that I am cherished and taken care of.

It just makes me sad when I realize how little I was willing to settle for a few years ago.

Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2824 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Member # 36130
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

(HFSSC). I am so sorry for the crappy trigger, but glad to hear you are NOW cherished as you deserve to be.

excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

Posts: 1003 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)


I hate the triggers you have no control over. Those are the worst. Hope you're having a better day.

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Member # 33842
Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

HFSSC- I'm in SC too and watching everything ice over. This storm has triggered me too. Last time we had an event similar to this H was away on business, couldn't care less, would say I was overreacting, could handle it alone, etc. Really it seemed this was the theme for any stressful event such as extremely sick kids, myself, anything that might damper his plans to see OW. So today of course, I'm home again and he's off on business. He is more interested now, concerned, but I still feel that anger like I have in events from before. Knowing I'm dealing with who knows what and 3 kids and he's out to dinner drinking wine.
Anyhow didnt mean to make that all about me, just want you to know I'm here in the bad weather and with you in the triggers in brings. Hugs to you and stay warm!

Me: BS 36
Him:WS 36
DDay 9/8/11, 3yr LTA
Her: super classy coworker, 44, involved in many A's including several other coworkers.

Posts: 424 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: The beautiful south
Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

Thanks, y'all. It is wonderful to post here, knowing there will be people who understand exactly.

Hope, I'm not sure if I knew you were in SC too.

It's beautiful outside now. Benn snowing for a couple of hours. If I didn't have to go to work tomorrow, it would be great.

Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2824 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
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