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Lifechange
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

Ahhh.... It's time for Valentine's Day card shopping again.

Stood at the card display for 30 minutes today. Thought I would try and make a selection before they got picked over. I'm very selective about this, you know.

Some of the cards are so close to useable, yet there is always at least one line that I cannot commit to in a card to my FWH.

If I ever "overlook" a line for the sake of convenience and in the name of forgiveness, FWH takes it and runs with it.

Again, this year it will be a simple sentiment with a cute picture and humor.

Been doing this for 7 years.


Posts: 129 | Registered: Jun 2010
Razor
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

me too.

I usually opt for cards with a funny picture and nothing written inside. That way I can write something bland and mostly meaningless that will give me a pass through the day.


Forgive and forget = Relive and regret.


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Lifechange
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

That way I can write something bland and mostly meaningless that will give me a pass through the day.

This made me chuckle. But, I can relate.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

The card-writers really seem to exist in fantasyland - worse, they try to drag us down into their effed up fantasies with them.

Blank card all the way....


fBH (me) - 70, fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9944 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

Cards are bullshit.

I got my husband a birthday card, got up to the register and it was seven bucks...wtf? Seven bucks for a folded piece of paper with words from some stranger on them.

I told him it was the last card we were going to buy. If he needs to share some kind of sentiment with me on a "special" day he can grab himself a crayola and a piece of paper.

Screw Halmark and their effort to make the population feel as though every relationship they have can never measure up to perfect.

Boycott all cards...screw it.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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hurtingfool
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

thanks karma, I evidently needed a good laugh.


Me: BS 31
Her: WS 29
10 years of marriage
12 years together
3 kids
DDay:January 16, 2014

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Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

I don't do valentines anymore. He was looking for hotels for their romp and when I found the search he said it was for us. Yes cheap hotels near our house.
What the hell did he think I was such a fucking idiot. Plus he made a card and sent it to both of us. Motherfucker.


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
JustSoSad42
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, January 28th (Tuesday)

This will be my first time buying a v-day card for my husband post infidelity, so I don't know what it feels like yet.

But I feel your pain on cards having so much sentiment...My mom is an unpleasant pain in my ass who loves cards, and it's SOOO hard to buy her birthday/mother's day/whatever day cards because they are always so lovey and talk about what a wonderful mom she is blah blah blah...so I always go with a stupid funny one with Garfield or something.


BS: 26, SAHM
WH: 29. Together 10yrs, married 6
3 kids 3 and under
DDay 11/21/13 Husband had ONS Aug. 2013 while living across the country temporarily for work.

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