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User Topic: how do i reconcile?
whereismylove
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Member # 41794
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, January 31st (Friday)

I want to reconcile with my husband, don't know if it will work but I want to try. Here is the problem how do I deal with the issue that he kept on with her after d day. On the bday dday when I found him at her house.. I was insane with anger and grief because he had said it was over a couple mos earlier yet I found out later (via texts he wrote down to save for himself!)that after I kicked him out he spent the next three days with her having a love fest . The other issue is that he only stopped because she moved away. I'm coming to a place where I want to try reconciliation but can that happen with someone who only stopped due to ow leaving him? Help!!

[This message edited by whereismylove at 6:42 PM, January 31st (Friday)]


DDay: Nov.6th, Dec 24, Dec.27(2013) Jan 10th(2014) & texting during false R until July 2014.
Me : BS, 36. awesome doting wife & former stay @home mom now back 2school and work.
Him: WS, 43. EU spouse. 7 months long "accidental" affair. Fol

Posts: 68 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Northern California
Keepcalm
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Member # 36234
Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, January 31st (Friday)

You can want to reconcile, but does he? Is he willing to do the work? Is he TRULY remorseful?
Actions will speak louder than words. I would give it a try, but be alert for obfuscation.


BS Me 57
WS Him 55
Married 30 yrs
DDay 1/28/2012
I have no idea what is going on

Posts: 178 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Virginia
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