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Hurtandhealer
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Member # 41022
Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, February 1st (Saturday)

Today is the one year anniversary of d-day #1. The day I was 5 months pregnant with our twins and I found out my husband was having what he claimed was only an EA that hadn't gone past kissing. We stayed up all night long fighting then trying to work it out and he claimed he would end it. Obviously he lied. Tips for surviving today? My husband is so tired of hearing about the A because he wants to move on and put it past us, but it's all I can think about sometimes.


2/1/13 - 1st Dday - WH claims it is only an EA with coworker and it will end
6/19/13 - It never ended, it turned into a PA, but NOW it's really over.....he says
Married 7 years, together 11 years
3 children - 4 years, and 13 month old twins

Posts: 23 | Registered: Oct 2013
Crushed15Feb13
Member
Member # 38846
Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, February 1st (Saturday)

Peace and Strength to you today, Hurt.

I'm 14 days away from my 1st Dday anniversary. I'm going to try to something to keep busy and try to keep from thinking about it.

It's still pretty much all I ever think about also.


Me: BH, 54
Her: WW, 54 4 yr LTA
Married 31 yrs, 2 college age boys
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - LTA 2008-2013
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - ONS, same AP 2007 - turns out it was a 5 yr LTA
Trying to understand

Posts: 247 | Registered: Mar 2013
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, February 1st (Saturday)

(((Hurt)))

Please do something nice for yourself. Read a favorite book or magazine, eat your favorite dessert, read the positive Recon stories in the link below.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=439392

When I was feeling super low, I would read every Stupid Pic Friday thread down in F&G. That little snippet of infidelity free funnies, helped briefly transport me to a brighter place. Where I could let go of my pain for a few moments and remember what's it was like to laugh.

Sending you strength.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:56 PM, February 1st (Saturday)]


Posts: 35411 | Registered: Mar 2011
Hurtandhealer
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Member # 41022
Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, February 1st (Saturday)

Wow. Thank you all for the kind words. I don't think I'll be focusing on much else this evening though. Just heard from my brother in law that he had his own d-day last night with his wife. The ultimate irony: his wife has the same name as the woman my husband cheated on me with. This day will not be a good one for anyone in my family it seems.


2/1/13 - 1st Dday - WH claims it is only an EA with coworker and it will end
6/19/13 - It never ended, it turned into a PA, but NOW it's really over.....he says
Married 7 years, together 11 years
3 children - 4 years, and 13 month old twins

Posts: 23 | Registered: Oct 2013
jo2love
Moderator
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, February 1st (Saturday)

(((Bil)))

I' m so sorry.


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