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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, February 4th (Tuesday)

About 3 weeks ago, my gf of 4 years and I were getting back from visiting our parents. She had been texting her best friend all day, so when we got here, I was curious and went through her phone to see if I was mentioned anywhere because she had been acting a little distant lately. I read a message that stated that things were good between us, but she felt guilty. She was flirting with a guy from her new job, which she had started about 3 weeks before. She broke down in tears because she told me she was developing feelings for this guy, and it should never have gotten to this point. I was super extremely hurt and asked her to fix everything, but she said she needed time and space to think things out. Last Thursday, I decided I would give her her space, and went to sleep at my cousins for the night. I wasn't gonna text her the following day so she could have the day to think and stuff. I'll come back to this in a bit.. Last night, she confessed that she cheated on me, starting 2 weeks ago, and the most recent being yesterday. 3 times is the number I got from her. One of the times being the Friday that I didn't hear anything from her after the Thursday I left. When I asked her, if she used a condom, she said that she never had sex with him, he's just kissed her.

I feel completely trapped because she's been hinting that she wants to get married, so we went to pick out a ring for her, and now I'm stuck with it because she says she's not ready to get married. We have literally had the best relationship before this. We are best friends. She's just been so distant lately and I don't want to lose her. 4 years, building this life together, I don't want to throw all of this away. But she's not 100% in this relationship right now, her words, and she doesn't want to keep hurting me. She's so lost right now, also her words.

I could really use some advice from anyone. I don't know what to do anymore.. I just wish things were like they used to be one month ago, I know things weren't perfect, but we were both happy with each other :'(

How do people work through these things?


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norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 4th (Tuesday)

Do not keep planning a future with her right now. Yes, you invested four years; but you can still walk away. Maybe she will come around, but any talk of marriage needs to get off the table. And frankly right now she is actively cheating on you so you don't really have a partner to work with! You can't hold the relationship together if she has already exited.

I'm sorry for your pain. Take care of yourself and follow your instinct to detach. The space isn't really for her though--it's for you, to get some distance and perspective. You deserve someone who is 100%.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

We are best friends

I understand this feeling but she needs to follow up to her transgression in a way that a best friend would do. I fear you are ready to sweep things under the rug to return to the way things were.

She is not into this relationship right now then you probably need to pull back from this too. Any chance that you can return the ring?

As for working through these things, you can't do it alone. So if she isn't interested in working on your relationship then all you can do is work to heal yourself. Read up in the healing library as well as these forums.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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ClearEyes12
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry! Is there a return policy on the ring?

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

I believe I have 18 days left to return it. The thing is that we bought it together, so she would have to go with me to return it and I feel that would be really awkward.

I need to know now if she's into the relationship or not, so I was planning on telling her stuff today after she gets out of work on the lines of I will not just sit around and be actively and openly cheated on while you are making decisions. I don't know if I should move into my cousins for now or not.

I've been reading up on the 180 surviving infidelity list, does this list still apply to me, or is the relationship pretty much over? I'm not sure if I would be able to pull this off because I'm not sure if I'm staying in the same apartment with her for now.

I wish the answers were right in front of me.


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

The 180 isn't a way to get her back but to help cut ties that keep you in pain.

I don't know if this relationship is over but if you are not sure that you are ready to be engaged in the next 18 days then I suggest that you approach her and ask her to either buy out your share or that you jointly return the ring. You need to be honest with her on where you are. If you aren't into dealing with conflict then you will be trapped at her mercy. Conflict avoidance isn't always good.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

Hey there hurts123. So sorry you are here and hurting. MovingUpward nailed it. You need to return that ring. If it's going to be awkward, let it be awkward for her. I know it's painful and hard, but you have to do it for YOU. That is what the 180 is about. YOU. She's actively cheating on YOU. Protect yourself. By protecting yourself, sticking up for yourself, and returning the ring, you are going to push her off the fence a bit as to whether or not she wants to be with you. You will get some answers for yourself by doing all of this for yourself. Then you can make some better decisions on what YOU want to do about her. Not the other way around.

I'm pulling for you hurts123.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

hurts123,

Sorry that you find yourself here. We all know the pain you are feeling right now.

There are thousands of stories of married couples who find themselves in the incredibly painful and destructive situation of adultery.

A most common thought among them is: "If I could only go back in time before marrying this person. If I could have seen the signs."

These people are not only married but also have children together. Children who love their families more than anything else in the world. Children whose intact family provides them the foundation of their stability and safety. Now, this is all destroyed.

The aftermath is unbelievably painful. Far, far more so than what you feel now. The hurt you feel for children of adultery is extreme and intense.

Look, take some time to really reflect and get some perspective of your potential future. This woman has shown you something incredible.

She has given you a gift. The wonderful gift of time travel. She has shown you the future.

REALLY LOOK AT IT.

Not married, no kids, no assets, no joint accounts, and only four years together.

Imagine how you would feel if you had spent 25 years married to this woman AND THEN she did this. Imagine feeling the last 25 years were all a lie. Imagine what your children would be going through. Imagine dealing with extremely expensive divorce attorneys, custody hearings, division of assets, alimony, child support, and the devastation of being betrayed by the one who was supposed to protect the family you had built.

There are many, many stories here just as I described.

Again, not married, no kids, no assets, no joint accounts, etc...

The likelihood of this woman betraying you again is very, very high. That is simply the truth.

I would literally bet a million dollars that they not only had sex but that they also did NOT use any protection. They almost never do. It adds too much reality to their fantasy.

She has demonstrated that she is not committed, is irresponsible, and is full of excuses.

It won't be difficult AT ALL to do better than this.

I would highly suggest you thank her for the good time up until she betrayed your trust and wish her a nice life.


I Divorced Her.

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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

^^^^ What keptmyword said.

Despite what you feel now, and believe us when we say we understand and know the pain, you are quite lucky she showed you who she is before vows were exchanged.

When they show you who they are, believe them.

I can't think of anything more appropriate to break things off with her and making it very real than returning that engagement ring with her.

This OM is no man. No real man makes a play on another guy's woman knowing that woman is already in a relationship. But then again that is the question, did she let him know that she was in a relationship? If not, then you know how weak her boundaries are.

You don't want to marry a little Princess. You want to marry a Queen.


Me- BS (44)
WW (41)
DS - 9, 12
M - 16yrs

Divorced - 5/23/14


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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

So, return the ring, and say it's over is what needs to ultimately happen then?

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

Hey there hurts123. It doesn't quite work that way. You are going to get a lot of different opinions here. Note above. You need to take a look at all of it and decide what works best for you. Ultimately you have to be the one to make the decision.

Clearly you can see from everyone in this thread that they personally, based on their experiences, would all have you return the ring. That includes me. She is actively cheating on you as you started this thread. She's "not 100% into this relationship right now." Pretty much tells you what you need to do. Clearly she doesn't want to get married or she wouldn't be doing this to you, or the two of you as a couple. I know it hurts and that is why you are here seeking advice. We will continue to help guide you through, but ultimately you have to be the one to make the decision yourself.

I would return the ring and take her with me. Make it awkward. Show that this hurts for you if you need to. Don't give into any sort of comfort that she tries to give you even if you want to. She has no idea how much damage and pain she has caused you yet. By doing the 180 you will be protecting yourself and working on getting yourself stronger. It's never too late to implement a 180.

I guarantee that you probably don't even know all of the truth yet. Depending on her commitment you may never get all of the truth. She's already broken your trust and proven she is a liar by having the affair. Do you even want to know the truth? You can still get out. What do you want? Sounds like she's already gone and she doesn't sound all that remorseful.

Not to scare you, but this is a necessary evil...have you slept with her since OM has? Just kissing? Might want to tell her that she owe's you the truth as testing for STD's are in order if you slept with her since OM may have (or may not have). That's a tough one but necessary for your own health and piece of mind.

This is a tough road to go down my friend.

I also agree with keptmyword on some levels too. She gave you a gift alright.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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whattheh
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

The reason you're dating is to get to know each other before you make a lifetime committment. Now you know who she really is and that she is not truly committed to you.

Cheaters minimize the truth so don't blindly trust the details she gives you upfront.


BW- mid 50's (me)
fWH-late 50's
M 33 T 35
DD-Early 2013
In R but I have PTSD...

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

I want to thank you all for your kind words. As I was waiting for her to get home, (about an hour late mind you), I was just thinking what in the hell is she doing. She finally gets home, and I ask why she's so late, and she says cuz I am, then I ask her if she was with him, and rudely says here we go with the 20 questions. :( When I asked her once more, she said that she was giving him a ride home, and I asked if they kissed and she said yes. At this point I was done with her, I left my promise ring, and the engagement ring with her, and got my stuff and left to my cousins. I can't believe one month ago, we're as happy as can be, and then some older guy with a gf comes in between us and ruins relationship for good :'( This is how it was supposed to happen..

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

not*

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry hurt123. So so sorry. Detach yourself from her so you can get better. Take care of yourself first and foremost. I will be thinking of you tonight.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

There may be times when you want to reach out to her. Times when you question yourself. When those times happen think about this...
then I ask her if she was with him, and rudely says here we go with the 20 questions
This woman came home and treated you like she was put out by you. There was no shame, no embarrassment. No sense at all that she sees her behavior as remotely inappropriate.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

As a practical matter, make sure and return that ring.......it doesn't have to be awkward at all, for all those store people know, you found one at another store that you liked better....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

As terrible as you feel now, be thankful that she showed you her real self before you had children together.

If you are close with her parents/friends write a simple small email stating that you are moving on because she has a new boyfriend. No bitterness, no negativity. Wish them well with their lives etc.

Find yourself someone who truly loves you.


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BrooklynLove
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, February 4th (Tuesday)

Hurts123,

Do not get married to someone that is already cheating and do not bring children into this. It just makes a complicated situation worst. Read my story because I'm sure you don't want to end up with a jackass wife that cheats and doesn't respect you .


Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on


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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 5:31 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I tried to fall asleep early so I didn't have to put up with it, but now I'm up really early. I just can't believe she was so cold about it. This is not the girl I fell in love with 5 years ago. This is NOT her :( I just can't believe this is over

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)

She texted me "I'm sorry.." this morning as she got to work. No reply, 180 yes?

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sudra
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I can't believe one month ago, we're as happy as can be, and then some older guy with a gf comes in between us and ruins relationship for good :'

No, the older guy didn't ruin the relationship: she did.

And yes, the 180 is in order. Time to move on and try to realize (I know it's hard) that you have been given an opportunity. If I could go back and be in your shoes rather than find out at age 51 that my husband was "engaged" to another women, I would do it in a heartbeat. Run while you have the chance.


Me (BW) (54), Him(SAWH) (57)
Married 21 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)

'I'm sorry' is so woefully inadequate that it makes me angry for you. Actions not words. Don't respond to her. Don't buy her attempt to patch this over.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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RealityStinks
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Man, you asked for advice, so here it comes: Leave her. Take the ring to a pawn shop, and move on. You have been spared. Count your blessings that you're not married and move on.

With my WW, I got "I'm sorry I hurt you" Sunday and Monday morning, and then I caught her with the OM Monday night.

I'm going to punch the next person that tells me "I'm sorry" in the face. "I'm sorry" is a waste of breath. Have you ever heard "Actions speak louder than words"? It's true my friend. Her actions speak for themselves, and "I'm sorry" doesn't mean anything.

I am truly sorry (no pun intended, and I just punched myself in the face ) that you are hurting and dealing with this right now.

Last bit of advice: If you love her and just can not live without her, whatever you do, DO NOT MARRY HER ANY TIME SOON. If she loves you the way you deserve to be loved, she'll understand, she'll stick with you, and she'll EARN a proposal when YOU are ready. Otherwise, you can do better, so move on.

Hang in there brother.


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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Does she need to know about this 180? I was going to tell her last night when she came home, but I got so mad that I just left. I'm not sure if not talking to her at all is what I have to do, or if I can just tell her I'm not speaking to you unless OM is out?

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Regardless of how this ends…please go return the ring. Please get your money back. If you are able to work it out, do you really want to put that ring on her finger anyway? You can always buy a new one later.

She is feeling guilt, and not remorse. Those are two different things. She is also nowhere close to ending it with the OM if she is defending herself. "The 20 questions…" is defending herself.

Do the 180 to protect yourself, not to "win her back". It will take a little time to pull away and see things more clearly.

If someone wants to walk out of your life…let them. IF she wants to be with you, she will SHOW you. Right now, she is SHOWING you who she really is.

I'm sorry.

Go return the ring.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Does she need to know about this 180? I was going to tell her last night when she came home, but I got so mad that I just left. I'm not sure if not talking to her at all is what I have to do, or if I can just tell her I'm not speaking to you unless OM is out?

cmego is right. The 180 is not about winning her back. This is about you getting better and strong. Walking out was perfect. Do not answer any of her texts. Do not let her know about this 180. She doesn't need to know about it. It's for YOU. Not her.

I feel for you hurt123. I really do. You are in a very painful fog and she has no idea what she has done to you. Be thankful you can get out. I don't want to make this thread about me, but apparently my mother pulled some shit sort of like this before my parent's got married when my dad was in Vietnam. Wanna know what happened? I just posted to Dealing with an affair 25 years later just below your thread here. I have 4 threads about it. If you want to waste an hour of your life, read them. Or even just the first one. Not that your fiancee is like my mom, but to me, kinda sounds like she is. There are thousands of stories here on this site where the betrayed spouse wishes they could have seen the signs more clearly towards the beginning of their relationship. Take a look around.

Again, not to scare you. But you do have a "gift" here in your hands where you get to make some decisions without A LOT more on your plate (kids, etc). I know you are hurting and it's hard. Get up off the floor and protect yourself. NC for yourself.

yop

ETA - added the word "wishes" above

[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 1:14 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)]


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I'm definitely returning the ring, no doubt about that. I won't be marrying her anytime soon. It's just the aftermath that I'm afraid of. I built a life with this woman, and I know I don't have kids or a marriage with her, but we did have a life together. We loved the same things so every time I go to the gym now, I'm going to be reminded of the my workout buddy and so on.. Our lives were very intertwined and now I feel like I'm paying the price for being so close with her :( I had a dream 2 nights ago, that we were fine and nothing had happened, and then I woke up with this huge smile.. then I remembered everything.. it's been so hard :( I understand that I have to find a way to move on, that these memories are just going to destroy me inside, and that I need to continue on with my life... I just wish I was continuing on with my life with her

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Uhtred
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Friend,

She just gave you probably one of the biggest gifts you'll ever receive and that is by not making the mistake of your life by marrying her. I know 2 years from you'll look back and say "Thank God".

I love my wife but wish like hell she'd have done this to me in the beginning before promises were made and promises were broken. I of course don't regret anything because of my two children whom I love more than anything in the world but they complicate a situation like this very much. Stay strong brother.


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Hey there hurts123. Thought I would check in to see how you are doing. Read the thread I Promise from movingforward13. That was just posted a little while ago. You could use it.

Hang in there hurts123


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Thank you so much for taking the time to check up on me. I am doing good for now, I haven't contacted her, and I tried to keep myself busy today with school and hw. I also cancelled my valentines order today. That was pretty hard. I also sold my George Lopez tickets that I was going to be taking her to see on Valentines day as well. I won't be needing those anymore. It still hurts a lot, but baby steps I guess.

That story gives me some hope, I just hope I have the strength to overcome everything!


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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

You are getting some really good advice here by others that have walked in your shoes, or maybe walked over the coals barefoot would be a better analogy.

It's just the aftermath that I'm afraid of. I built a life with this woman,

Quite gently here, you didn't build a life, you were dreaming of one with her. You were laying the foundation for that vision. And when push came to shove, she showed you how much she does not respect you. Sorry, I know this is harsh.

Be very careful, you are not in a position to see the situation with clear eyes. She will say things like she already has "I don't want to hurt you" or Oh, I'm so confused. You will nibble it all up and turn those words into what you need to hear. It's part of the process. We are traumatized and this protects us from the the dibilitating hurt at the hands of someone we trusted with our lives. I know it's cliche, but believe me, take it one day at a time if you want to survive.

I love the advice you are getting and it looks like you will have a very strong support system of men on this board who have been there, done that.

[This message edited by positively4thst at 7:48 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)]


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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Sounds like your progressing even if just a little. Try not to think too much tonight and get some sleep


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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hurts123
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

It's around this time that I get mad because she's been getting home late because she's been giving him rides home :/ so around this time at night I'm wondering if she's home, or if she's out with him. This is when I start seeing that this might not be worth it. Then during the day, I get caught up again and it's just a huge cycle. I do believe I'm getting better though, even if just a little, no more tears :) Still sadness, but like I said before, baby steps

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 4:40 AM, February 6th (Thursday)

Another thread for you to look at:

Bsos please feel free to post here by Stillstings

She posted this thread last night so should be around somewhere in this section for you to find.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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