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Smashedat58
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Revenge  Posted: 2:11 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

This will be the first year in over 35, that I won't get a valentine card or gift from my WH. It is sad, I know, but these are really just things, that in the recent past, had no real love or affection attached to them. It was for him, something you gave to the person you took most for granted. I really hate all of the advertising on TV, too.

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry. (((Hugs)))

I hate the idea that he will be giving OW a card. Although he will probably give me one too, even though he wants to separate. Idk. Maybe he won't.

Either way, I'm already having anxiety about it.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I'm doing the same thing I do every year for Valentine's Day. I'm going to buy myself some chocolate covered strawberries, the milk, dark and white chocolate kind.
Hell I may even go and buy myself a whole bunch of flowers too since they will be dirt cheap!
My STBXH never bothered to do a damn thing. So Valentine's Day is not a big deal for me.
I am sorry, though, that you are feeling bad about it. Maybe you can not watch TV until after the day has passed.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2237 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
gypsybird87
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Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I'm doing the same thing I do every year for Valentine's Day. I'm going to buy myself some chocolate covered strawberries, the milk, dark and white chocolate kind.
Hell I may even go and buy myself a whole bunch of flowers too since they will be dirt cheap!


Having a horrible, triggery time with Valentines this year.... it just sucks. I really like the idea of buying a sweet and some flowers for myself. Maybe I'll even get a card for myself. One that says I love you, and you're wonderful etc. Because I am, and WE ARE, all of us. And if ever there was a time to love ourselves, this is it.

Thanks for the idea, SL!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 823 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Smashedat58
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Wink  Posted: 6:48 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

Yes, it is a time to love ourselves. There is a singles group in our area that is going to have a dance. I think I might want to go to that and love dancing the night away with any men, women, or other humans that might be there. I am supposed to be loving myself. Rather than staying home with a vibrator, and chocolate strawberries, this sounds much healthier. Who knows, this might be fun. I need to hang onto this positive attitude.

Posts: 166 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Upstate New York
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