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Spelljean
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Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

With my STBXH.

I take step backwards when he starts playing games and I allow it to happen, or when I give him any part of my attention at all.

Even after just a few days of zero contact with him, I already feel good again. Like I can take a deep breath.

Now if only I lived more than 6 hours away from this place, I would feel even better. Hate that all my family is here, otherwise I wouldn't have second thoughts about moving.

It just sucks that one has to hear things through the grapevine, or accidentally get a stupid text message meant for OW, that pours salt in one's wounds...and forces those backward steps.

Wish I could just beam him and OW to another planet.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

((((Spelljean))))

Even after just a few days of zero contact with him, I already feel good again. Like I can take a deep breath.
Don't let yourself forget that, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25765 | Registered: Aug 2011
Rebreather
Member
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

accidentally get a stupid text message meant for OW,

I bet you dollars to donuts that shit isn't on accident.

Shields up!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
nekorb
Member
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

WH is still living here and we haven't even really begun to separate.

I'm dreading NC. I know I will have to do it for my own sanity. But at the same time, he has been such a huge part of my life and despite his horrible behavior, I know I'm going to miss him terribly.

Keep reminding yourself of how good it feels!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Spelljean
Member
Member # 35624
Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, February 5th (Wednesday)

I think NC is something many feel very painful in the beginning. And often it fails miserably, and after much trial and error and multiple ddays...it see,s to be the one thing left that saves your sanity and allows you to decompress.


WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

Posts: 903 | Registered: May 2012 | From: California
Topic Posts: 5