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User Topic: OW invaded my dreams ....... again
soconfusednow
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Member # 40078
Default  Posted: 2:00 AM, February 8th (Saturday)

OW invaded my dreams tonight. In my dream he put her first again

I told him I had a nightmare & asked him to hold me. He did.

When I said I dreamt of her, “What brought that on?” he asked half asleep.

I know he doesn’t control my thoughts & dreams. It would be nice though, to hear him acknowledge that I wouldn’t be ‘going there’ if he hadn’t had an A & apologize for that.

We’ve been in a good way the past couple days. Now he’s asleep and I’m on the computer looking for a distraction. I guess that’s why we call it a roller coaster.


D-Day January 2013
prior EA in the 90's
me 50
WH 52
NC-several
last broken NC 7/2013 (hopefully)
Married 29 years
2 kids
Want to believe it's over, but is it really? Will I ever trust again?

Posts: 317 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
somanyyears
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Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, February 8th (Saturday)


..OM invaded my dreams... from the grave!!

..In 1987, I caught my wife of 15 years in her A with best friend.. she told me then that it had been going on for 2 years(several meetings for bj's)

I believed her, we had 2 children... we rugswept her A and I stayed to keep our young family together.

In 2009 I had a vivid dream about the bfOM and in it, he told me that I didn't have the whole truth. The next morning I asked my W to tell me again about her A and she told me that it actually had begun way back in her first year of university, while we were going steady(HS sweethearts) and the A had lasted 18 years.
I have been a 'basket case' ever since

Now, 40 years of marriage has turned out to be a lie. All of our time tainted and now knowing this best friend was never my friend.

I was completely blown away with this news, wanted to find him and kill him!
Googled his name, only to find that he had died of a brain tumour 3 years prior to the exact day.

..this was a dream I will never forget!!!

..undeniable proof of God's ultimate justice.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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