Wayward Side
User Topic: Another step towards moving forward
Member # 35566
Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, February 8th (Saturday)

So I guess this is progress. I hate that it is progress in letting go of my W, but it is progress.

I celebrated a birthday this week, and last year, even though we were S we went out as a family to dinner. It was awkward, uncomfortable, stressful, for both of us. But I thought it was the right thing to do, and a year ago, I still thought we had a chance to patch things up.

This year I am a better place. I. I had the boys that night anyway, and decided to go to dinner with them, and then go see a movie, a nice guys night out. I didn't think it was even an option for W to join us, and you know what, it was really nice. I didn't spend the entire night thinking that W should be with us. I accepted the situation for what it was,and was ok with it.

Now don't get me wrong, I wish things were not the way there are, but I am have gotten to a much better place.

Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D

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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, February 8th (Saturday)

That's REALLY important, badchoice. It's not about who we can get to fill the void, it's about eliminating the void by being more comfortable in our own skin.

Thank you for sharing your healing step. I know it hurts, but working towards being healthy and strong for yourself and your kids will be the gift that keeps on giving.

Happy Birthday, by the way.

"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18273 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 42111
Default  Posted: 3:46 AM, February 9th (Sunday)

That's great! It sucks too but it's an important step so well done.

Happy Birthday.

Me - 27
Him - 27

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.

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