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PhoenixRising88
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Member # 35214
Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, February 10th (Monday)

Could've knocked my ass over a little while ago... heard from Jay... He remembered my divorce hearing was scheduled today and was checking to see how it went.

He messaged me. Apologized for being a dink and going radio dark on me. I considered not answering for a moment and then decided to take the high road and at least hear what he had to say about WTH happened.

So he filled me in, and my gut was right. He's been getting his kids settled, but yes, he and Ex are talking off and on about getting back together. As he put it 'there's been so much shit that's gone on there that I'm not about to just go right back'. And I told him, as his friend, that yeah he needs to consider his kids, but also that he needs to do what is best and healthiest for him, both short term AND long term. Then I said that while he and I will always be friends, regarding any sort of anything other than friends between us? That ship has sailed. True, he didn't ask me for a second chance on that front. And I didn't offer one, and he now knows that I won't ever offer one.

I have my friend back. I'm good with that.


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 427 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Chippednotbroken
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Member # 40170
Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 10th (Monday)

But yay divorce final!


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

Posts: 303 | Registered: Aug 2013
PhoenixRising88
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Member # 35214
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, February 10th (Monday)

@ Chipped - OMG YEA Divorce final!!

Got to court 1/2 hour early; as it turns out my case was first on the docket anyway. It literally took all of 10 minutes and it was done.


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 427 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, February 10th (Monday)

So happy for you PhoenixRising And it sounds like you're handling the poofer situation well.

It's all up from here!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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