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blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

...and I wanted to post that I am sad. I feel like a little boy that needs a hug. Yes, this post is me looking for attention.

In the past I would seek out unhealthy means to feel better....starting with denying that I felt sad in the first place.

About this time last year I chose to turn away from porn....to sit with my feelings, to examine them, to expose as much of the roots of motivations within me as I could.

It has been time and energy well spent. It has come at a cost....I look and feel much older than I am, I still spontaneously cry, anger is much less part of me...and I kind of miss it as it did make me feel better but it, like porn, was a temporary band aid that prohibited real, permanent growth to occur.

But the price of NOT doing this would have been much greater. My M would have limped along at best, my family would not have reached the potential I see for it, and I would have remained blind to feelings that needed healed.

I have always been an out-going, life of the party, funny guy....still enjoy being that guy. But I see a new part of me coming into the light. A guy that desires real connection...both with himself and those I choose to interact with.

I see real value in honest fellowship......both virtually here on SI and in real life with my wife and a very close friend.

Thank you for the support and comfort you have regularly provided me.


God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:39 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
MrsDoubtfire
Member
Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)


Happy Birthday and enjoy this sinless cake

I hope your WW comes up trumps and you have a great day.


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†

Posts: 1583 | Registered: Jul 2009
olwen
Member
Member # 39759
Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday! Hope you have a good day.

It's my 36th tomorrow so nearly birthday buddies lol

[This message edited by olwen at 7:44 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


Together 19yrs
me BS 36
him WS 41 (silent lucidity)
ea 1 facebook flirting with an ex 2011
ea/pa - co worker 6wks feb to apr2013 pa for 1 wk with sex one time
too much tt to count = latest tt 30/7/14

Posts: 804 | Registered: Jul 2013
Crushed15Feb13
Member
Member # 38846
Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday, Blakesteele!

And many happy returns of the day!


Me: BH, 54
Her: WW, 54 4 yr LTA
Married 31 yrs, 2 college age boys
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - LTA 2008-2013
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - ONS, same AP 2007 - turns out it was a 5 yr LTA
Trying to understand

Posts: 251 | Registered: Mar 2013
deena04
Member
Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday! Mine was yesterday and I felt sad most of the day, so I hear you on that. Enjoy your day and many more!!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1070 | Registered: Dec 2013
byefornow
Member
Member # 41992
Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday! I hope the year ahead holds many blessings for you!


BW- me
WH - him
married over 25 years

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
1owner
Member
Member # 41157
Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday Blakesteele!!!

Your posts are always very insightful and I enjoy reading them.

I know what you mean about looking and feeling older, this infidelity crap does take it's toll, that's for sure.

Happy birthday and many happy returns!


Posts: 205 | Registered: Oct 2013
bionicgal
Member
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

I have always been an out-going, life of the party, funny guy....still enjoy being that guy. But I see a new part of me coming into the light. A guy that desires real connection...both with himself and those I choose to interact with.

I admire you BS. And, here is a virtual hug ((Blakesteele)).

What a great b-day present to yourself. How lucky are you that at the (young) age of 40-something-ish, you were able to figure out what many spend a life searching for? Living an authentic life. . . that is a gift. It is a gift to know it is possible, and to strive for it. It is a gift to be self-reflective and aware.

I recently celebrated a birthday too, and it was bittersweet. I am both better, and more hurt than I have ever been. I think this is the year (or two, or five) that I am most fully living the human condition in all of its flavors. We don't get these opportunities that often: to have a crisis that rocks us to the core. I have already lost a parent, and I have actually learned far more from this.

I am grateful to be alive, and looking forward to more ups than downs in the future. Hoping for the same for you as well.


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 2058 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Sadmumma
Member
Member # 42192
Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday. Hope it's a great one


On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
ItsaClimb
Member
Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday {{Blakesteele}}

You're such an inspiration to me. Hope your sadness lifts and you can enjoy your day to the full.


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1022 | Registered: Oct 2012
creativecat
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Member # 41728
Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday, blakesteele! You deserve tons of attention!

I send you the gift of gratitude, for all the wisdom you have posted on here.

God's blessings to you today and always!


Posts: 89 | Registered: Dec 2013
openedupmyeyes
Member
Member # 27871
Cool  Posted: 7:58 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
petite71
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Member # 36475
Content  Posted: 8:01 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!


1st DD 03/24/2012 2nd DD 07/13/2012 TT A. in 2002 same girl when we were dating.
Status:Getting Stronger...we can get through this & are healing together
BS(me):41
WS(Husband):40
LTA 10 yrs EA/PA 9 times. friends with benefits.
Us..Together 12 yr

Posts: 126 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
StillStanding1
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Member # 40144
Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!!!! I hope the sadness will dispel and that you can find joy in the littlest things. I always enjoy your posts and keep you in my prayers as we all weather this journey.


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 711 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
stunnedin12
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Member # 38141
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013
PinkJeepLady
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Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Congrats on giving up porn! I appreciate you standing up against it.

Hey, the day isn't over yet.......you never know what might happen! I hope at the end of the day you look back and can say it was a Happy Birthday! Hang in there!


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 489 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1909 | Registered: Nov 2010
Loadsofchocolate
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Member # 40708
Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday blakesteele hope you have a great day!!


Dday1 - June 2013 admits EA
Dday2 - June 2013 broken NC minutes after agreeing to reconciliation - only found out 3 weeks later
Dday3 - July 2013 broken NC
Dday4 - September 2013 broken NC
Dday5 - January 2014 broken NC admits PA

Posts: 49 | Registered: Sep 2013
SoVerySadNow
Member
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Have the happiest of birthdays!
I think I remember you and your wife had the weekend away at Retrouvaille- what a wonderful rebirth there too.
Enjoy your day with your family.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
MovingUpward
Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52609 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
FightingBack
Member
Member # 34770
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

(((((((((((Birthday Hugs))))))))))))))


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 785 | Registered: Feb 2012
wert
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Member # 34478
Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday dude!



Posts: 1428 | Registered: Jan 2012
RipsInMyChest
Member
Member # 41166
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Hope you have a fantastic day!


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 261 | Registered: Oct 2013
sisoon
Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Hey! Happy Birthday!

Your insights are right on. Maybe the wishes you get from SIers and IRL will lift your sadness. It's OK if it doesn't, but it may.

I still feel like a little boy when someone wishes me happy birthday, which was great when my 3.5 year old GS sang it to me on my last birthday. I felt about his age. Which means that this year, he'll be older than me on my birthday....

If you do a little celebrating on consecutive days, you can make your b'day last at least week. Just sayin'....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10362 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Rebreather
Member
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!

I love birthdays! Even though my 40's haven't been kind to me physically (holy shit when did I start looking this old?!), there is still cake and presents! Yay! Cake!!

There is nothing wrong with a day all about you. Or a week.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
ziganska
Member
Member # 41690
Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Blakesteele,

Happy birthday to you and hugs, hugs, hugs!! Your posts always bring such inspiration to all of us so we all celebrate this very special day with you!


Me: 42
Him: 49
DD: 12/2/2013
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring

Posts: 123 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: New York
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Thank you all sooooo much!!!!!

I am feeling better.

Actually, after I posted this early this morning I went to my wife who was still sleeping. I snuggled up to her, expressed I was sad, and desired a hug.

She warmly held me and made calm sounds. (wife NOT a morning person....so it was really nice to hear peaceful sounds from her.). I enjoyed the embrace...made me just a little later than I wanted to get to work, but was worth it. Was still earlier than some managers...but felt the pull to get in extra early to get caught up on what had been missed while I was away at a week long conference last week then took a day of vacation yesterday following Retrouvaille weekend.

I see many folks who have been with me since my joining SI over a year ago chime in....and some newer ones too.

Fellowship with you all is healing and restorative in nature.

I am pleased I have offered the same report to some of you and will continue to make the effort into the future.

God be with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
LivinginLimbo
Member
Member # 35004
Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!!


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1046 | Registered: Mar 2012
itstoomuch
Member
Member # 42301
Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday! Today is my oldest son's b-day too! I'm new here but it sure looks like you have some great friends on SI! I hope you have a great day IRL today with those closest to you as well :)


While I'm "new" to SI, I'm not "new" to "Surviving Infidelity."
4+ yrs post-DDay
17+ M
R is long and hard.
'The cloudiest skies do make the prettiest sunsets'

Posts: 130 | Registered: Feb 2014
shatteredapart
Member
Member # 41978
Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday blakesteele! I hope your sadness lifts and you can enjoy your special day. You are such an inspiration to myself and others. I always look forward to reading your posts and replies as they are always insightful.


Me-BS
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
karmahappens
Member
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Have a wonderful Birthday!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3845 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
still-living
Member
Member # 30434
Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday Blakesteele, and wishing you well through the gates of wisdom.


BH(me)47
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.

Posts: 777 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
SadInNC
Member
Member # 42170
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Sometimes, holidays and birthdays get me down, too. Not sure why. It sounds like you have really come a long way in learning about yourself and fighting your demons. We all have them. You should be proud of yourself!

I hope you have a Happy Birthday!


BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person


Posts: 345 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: North Carolina, United States
hopeful18
Member
Member # 19234
Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!! It us my birthday too!! Just want to let you know that I do not post often but read a lot in R. Your posts often help shed light on many things for me! Thank you! I hope you have a very happy birthday and enjoy everything good in your life today!

Posts: 228 | Registered: Apr 2008
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday Hopefull18!!! You are welcome....glad my rather lengthy posts and responses have some SI members intriqued enough to read them and that they sometimes resonate with others too!

((((((to all))))))

I am a blessed man.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:14 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
still2suspicious
Member
Member # 31722
Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Sending you my birthday wishes too, BS.

Kudos for telling your W what you needed this morning, and she came thru.

Eat a piece of cake for me! (I'm suppose to be on a diet )


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1304 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Kudos for telling your W what you needed this morning, and she came thru.


Thanks Still2Suspicious. I was still unsure of what to do...started to make a case to NOT do that. Dang....it seems like such a simple thing, but I struggled with it. 'course, I was wanting to retreat due to my saddness this morning......

anyway...not out of the woods but it is DANG NICE to have support from others like ya'll.

My wife easily accomodated my request...not grumpy about being nudged early in the morning....only showed kind comfort to me. I would have missed this experience had I put my work boots on and left. It is scary how simple the healthy choice can be at times....and how easily those opportunities can be dissolved.....

Some of the simplest encouragement can make tremendous differences.

Peace.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:20 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
ionlytalkedtoher
Member
Member # 39802
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

happy birthday.

I was depressed when it was my birthday after the A as well. I will be 43 later this year as well. We would have been in the same school year.

But, you are very strong. You need to give yourself more credit. Maybe you don't feel great but you survived so much trauma. You inspire many people to continue on through their troubles.

Go celebrate your life.


Posts: 264 | Registered: Jul 2013
ILINIA
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Member # 39836
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday Blakesteele!


Entering R slowly and cautiously...

Posts: 492 | Registered: Jul 2013
AML04
Member
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!! I hope your day continues to improve and I'm glad you were able to push your fears aside enough to go to your W. Sometimes when we are vulnerable they really come through.

I know your posts lift me up so I hope seeing all your SI friends sending you well wishes lifts you up too!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
steadfast1973
Member
Member # 24719
Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
catlover50
Member
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday friend! Hope you have a nice evening.



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1752 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

happy birthday brother!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2987 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
VeryUncertain
Member
Member # 37845
Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy birthday, Blakesteele! I really hope the sadness lifts.


BS (Me): 38
WH: 43
2 beautiful, precious daughters: 4 & 2
Found out early Aug. 2012, separated 2/4/13, in R (?) since 7/2013.

Posts: 164 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: MD
LA44
Member
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Well Happy Birthday blakesteele my friend!

Remember....Youth is fleeting but immaturity lasts forever!

Thank you for sharing yourself with us. You are a kind person with a good heart and I wish well.

LA

And Happy Birthday to you as well hopeful18! Best wishes!

[This message edited by LA44 at 7:46 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2450 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17839 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Lord.....help me return the favor to these folks for all of their kind well-wishes and support they offer to me. You know how much pain they have and are enduring and working through....and they still find the energy to help me up as I stumble. Words in this post will not suffice....so I pray I recognize other opportunities as they arise. Amen.

Goosebumps.....that is what I have as I read even more posts to me.

My sadness has lifted....started with snuggles with my wife, then ya'lls support, then friends at work, then my favorite meal prepared for me by my wife, handmade gifts from my girls, then more posts here!

I want to hug all of you!

Such kindness.....such support. A real blessing.

Humbly yours,
Blakesteele

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:07 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Skan
Member
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday To You!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Thanks Skan.

It is wonderful you and Mr Skan are volunteering at an upcoming Retrouvaille. Having real life folks, such as you guys, finding the courage and motivation to assist is a key component of this effective program.

I will say specific prayers as you take on this challenge.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Arnold01
Member
Member # 39751
Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

I'm a few days late, but I'm wishing you happy birthday regardless! Hope your sadness lifts, and in the meantime know how much all of us on SI appreciate your openness and counsel and wisdom.

Wishing you all the best!


D-Day: June 2013 discovered two-month EA/PA
NC established: August 2013
Reconciling

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Thanks Arnold01....was so nice of you to chime in.....was nice to recieve it! Your comments are TOO kind...but it IS my birthday and I thank you for this present!

[This message edited by blakesteele at 2:28 PM, February 13th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
finallyfree2011
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Member # 37998
Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Happy Birthday!


Me - WS
H - BH

D day - July 2011 after a 4 year relationship with OM

Reconciled and renewed our vows on our 22 Anniversary in June 2012


Posts: 64 | Registered: Jan 2013
Hannah25
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Member # 42198
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Happy Birthday!


ME: 35
WBF: 44
Together 11 years
DDay: 1/12/14
DDay2: 3/28/14

Posts: 64 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Ohio
cl131716
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Member # 40699
Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Happy belated Birthday! I'm sorry you were sad. I hope you feel better today!

BTW, my birthday was yesterday.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

BTW.............HAPPY BIRTHDAY cl131716!!!!


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3981 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Happy Birthday


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Morhurt
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Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

And happy belated birthday from me as well! I'm glad you ended up having a nice day, you deserve it!
:)


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 947 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
lovedmesomehim
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Member # 25743
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Happy Birthday!!!! Happy Birthday!!!

You are well thought of, Blakesteele!

Lovedmesomehim


Posts: 467 | Registered: Oct 2009
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