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Phoenix1
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Revenge  Posted: 9:49 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

and my response was a great big NEGATORY! Oh, and this was right after he asked if he could use some of my air miles to fly back for an interview. Another "NO" response from me. And all this while he is asking for my advice how to handle twatbox and her paternity suit... When he asked why not a date (yes, he really asked that), I told him simply: You betrayed my trust and hurt me for 20 years. I don't date guys that do that. His response: You're right, I understand. We'll see if he really gets it or not! Don't care, regardless.

XPOS is truly fucked in the head and needs to go back to whatever planet he is from. Sick and sad.

Oh, he ended with a text that said: "I love you and miss you." HHHmmm...sure didn't miss me much when you were playing happy family with twatbox before she dumped your sorry ass! I felt absolutely nothing when he wrote that, no anger, no trigger, nothing. It just strikes me as pathetic at this point.

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 9:51 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

He's lost touch with reality.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

((((Phoenix))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

He sure has some nerve!! A date, air miles AND advice?!?!
I felt absolutely nothing when he wrote that, no anger, no trigger, nothing. It just strikes me as pathetic at this point.

Ahhhh ... smell that? That's indifference! Beautiful.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Feeny, you are living the dream! Nothing would make me happier than to have The Princess ask me for a date - so I could shoot her down. It would be amazing to let her feel some rejection.

Good for you!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

IT IS pathetic ... smh, NO, just NO must really be code for maybe ... at least if you're a POS lying cheater.


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
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Chippednotbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

BAHAHAHA Thren


Me BS 32
DDay July 13'
3 young kids

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

Love it, Thren! That's about what my face looked like when I was reading the OP.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9644 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

So asshole texted me to say that he is in transit back to my state (flying) for the interview. He only has enough money to get there, not return. The bad part? I am currently out of state on business!!! Had to give the girls a heads up that he is not allowed in the house. Told DD17 to stay away from the house (and with friends or her sister) while he is there so she is not put in an uncomfortable position.

Apparently he texted DS20 earlier and asked if he knew of any friend's houses where he could stay because he couldn't afford a hotel.

He desperately wants this job and the most they were willing to push the interview to was tomorrow. Says he only plans to be there a day or two, but it depends on how he is flying back. I think he will either try to hit me or the kids up for cash/air miles or try to get a tax refund cash advance, which was mentioned yesterday.

This wouldn't be an issue if I was there, but not being there makes me VERY nervous! The girls are going to keep the house locked up like Fort Knox. I do believe this is coincidental and not planned because he didn't know I was going to be gone when he mentioned this (I don't share any of my personal info with him).


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

So let me get this straight, your ex cheats, lies, has a child with the OW, leaves you for unicorn/rainbow fartland, hates on you for awhile, the OW cheats on him and leaves, ex calls you for advice and sympathy, wants you to "help" him with paternity/CS issues and then asks you on a date before the unicorn/rainbow fartland relationship is even cold and buried?
Can we please, for the love of all that is Holy, get a "What to expect when you leave your spouse and family for the gutter trash you are cheating with" handbook?


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
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gma56
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Shutup  Posted: 10:22 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)

I would be saying...Hell the Fuck NO !!!!!!!
Then start and say, You think I'm that crazy to go out with YOU ???
And I'm certainly not THAT hard up for a date either.

The air miles? That's a Fuck NO too !!


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

So let me get this straight, your ex cheats, lies, has a child with the OW, leaves you for unicorn/rainbow fartland, hates on you for awhile, the OW cheats on him and leaves, ex calls you for advice and sympathy, wants you to "help" him with paternity/CS issues and then asks you on a date before the unicorn/rainbow fartland relationship is even cold and buried?

That pretty much sums it up, except OW didn't cheat on him. She just up and left him when she realized what a loser POS she hooked up with...and I DID warn her, back in the beginning, through a letter I left on her door (before I found SI and knew what a waste of time that was).

Can we please, for the love of all that is Holy, get a "What to expect when you leave your spouse and family for the gutter trash you are cheating with" handbook?

Amen on that one!

XPOS is now back in my state, without me there. DD17 said he texted her to see if she wants to go to dinner tonight (he has not seen her since he left last March). She wants to go for the sole purpose of confronting him and releasing all her pent up anger. THAT should go well...

Now I have to come up with a way to get him out of there quickly. No, it is not my problem to solve HIS problem, but I want him GONE!!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Thren, that gif had me crying with laughter.

So right. So so right.

"If I had enough air miles to send you to mars it would be so ON like Donkey Kong!! Alas, I don't. Go fuck yourself."

[This message edited by SBB at 6:41 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Threnody nailed it. Now my is wholly inadequate.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
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