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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

DD6 went missing for 45m today.

She is gone by the time After School Care (ASC) arrives. They report it to the boss and she recalls a permission slip from me saying DD6 could go to Art Class instead of ASC (never happened). They look for it. They call the sad clown. He says he knows nothing about it. He doesn't call me. He should have.

These two errors (one human, the other - I don't understand) meant 15-30 min gap before ASC boss realises she got the kids mixed up. Calls me apologising - tells me other kids said she went with other friends mum. She and I realise DD6 is missing.

My spider senses go off with this friends mum - I never let DD6 be alone with her. I let her go with her once on Halloween with a parent I do trust - never alone.

I call her 10 times no answer as I'm heading to my car. If DD6 is there I will tear shreds of this mum. The mum calls me and says no - she's not there. Her DD hasn't been to school today because she's sick.

My mind goes to terrible places. I will rip her house apart looking for my child. I will kill her if she is hurting my child.

I'm driving like a maniac trying to get out of the tightest, biggest, busiest carpark in Sydney.

As soon as I have phone reception again I call the sad clown - he still thinks I've made arrangements on his day. I haven't. He realises she is missing. He is on his way.

I call ASC and they say they will go to friends mums house to look for DD6. They're checking the school grounds, the local parks. Everywhere.

Driving fast and trying to be safe and calling every parent I can. No-one has her. I call the police. Terror is setting in.

There's been lots of media lately about the Daniel Morcombe case here - a boy who was kidnapped and missing for years. It took them years to find him. The guy who told them where the body was is now claiming he didn't do it so lots of media. Horrific.

A pedophile attacked two little girls in a park 1 kilometre from my house recently. A million other news stories are going around and around in my head.

Please be OK. Please be OK. Please be OK.

I then do a second call asking them to call every parent or carer they know. On this second call to BFFs mum I ask her to ask her DD if if she knows where DD6 went. She says "OK, I'll call my babysitter.". WTF? Why didn't you say that when I first called. CALL HER.

I'm upset and trying to stay calm but I can't stop shaking.

I get to the school, see the cop car and right then BFFs mum calls to say babysitters husband has confirmed DD6 is with babysitter. This is 30-45m AFTER being told she was missing.

I get out of the car and fall down on the grass bawling my eyes out and screaming with joy/relief/fear. Scared all of the ASC kids. Then a full blown panic attack (the 4th of my whole life - first one was DD, two others in the months after, never before or since).

Cops and carers run over - it takes me a few mins to blurt out she's safe because I can't fucking breathe. I finally say she's safe and spend 15 mins trying to locate her (they're out for a walk - old lady babysitter doesn't have a mobile. FML).

DD6 and her BFF have convinced this babysitter that DD6 is allowed to go back to her place.

Cops are lovely and want to know if I'm OK to drive. I'm apologising for freaking out - I'm still shaking like a leaf. I just want to hold her RIGHT NOW.

I find out they are home, I rush over there and grab DD6 - I'm crying and kissing her and she is scared "Daddy said I could". I yell: NO HE DID NOT. DO NOT LIE and tell her she has scared the hell out of me and her dad, her nonna, ASC and everyone, I was scared that she had been stolen, she has scared everyone, everyone is worried sick, police have been looking for her. She starts crying and I'm hugging and kissing her. I never want to let go. Ever.

I could have handled it better - I scared my little girl.

I then lay into the old lady babysitter in PG words. DO NOT EVER TAKE SOMEONE'S CHILD UNLESS AN ADULT TELLS YOU ITS OK. WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU THINK THAT WAS OK? She's trying to say sorry and I'm telling her to jam her sorries - I could have killed myself on the road or someone else. I thought I lost my child forever. I thought horrible, awful things.

NOT OK. Thank you for keeping her safe. I'm so happy I could die right now but you can NEVER do this to anyone ever again. NOT OK.

I feel a bit bad about it - it was an honest mistake but... Jaysus. She won't be making that mistake again.

The sad clown shows up. He is concerned but calm and isn't being a fuckwit. For that I am grateful. I realised I didn't call him as soon as I knew she was safe. He was in hell for 15m longer than necessary. I apologise. He is gracious. Again, I am grateful.

I debrief him on what happened - we also agree to inform each other when we make arrangements outside of the status quo (it is a part of FRR but I didn't inform him for that hour on Halloween, he didn't inform of several instances).

I hug my girls and sit in my car wailing and trying to compose myself. I drive off for the 2m trip home and have to stop a few times to compose myself. The adrenalin has well and truly taken over.

I just want to be home. I just want to hold my girls.

I will ask the sad clown to attend meetings with me, DD6 and the ASC boss and also meet with her teacher and the principal. I am hopeful we can all present a united front on this.

NC is great but because we don't communicate and its 50/50 custody there are gaps that my very smart 6 year old is starting to use to her advantage. First a few little things and now this very big thing.

He may start sharing important information with me after this. I won't hold my breath but I am still hopeful.

I cannot even express my relief. I'm sitting here crying for the Morcombe's and everyone else who did actually lose their children. I only had a glimpse of that hell and it was more horrific than I even imagined.

I'm crying because I want to hold her tonight. I want to talk to her and apologise for scaring her and explain that I was out of my mind in fear and that she must never, ever do this again.

I have seen some scary things but I honestly never been so scared in all of my life.

This is the best possible outcome for today.

Worst and Best Day of my life all in one.

[This message edited by SBB at 6:32 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:43 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Oh my. I just can't imagine.... I'm so glad your story has a happy ending. Terrifying indeed.


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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

What a nightmare. (((SBB))).

Good that the ex behaved like a human being through this.


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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Wow! I can't even imagine the terror you experienced.

So glad it all turned out OK.


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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

OMG. I am crying here.
How horrifying.
I'm so glad everything turned out ok.
Here's hoping that the sad clown will be a little more fothcoming in the future.

My heart is pounding.

This is every parent's worst fear.
I hope you are feeling a little better now.
(((SBB)))


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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

My oldest, now 13, did this when she was about 7. She wandered to a neighbor's house, then went on to another house, then another... It took 2 hours to find her. I remember the terror, and the post-discovery ANGER. Adrenaline is powerful stuff to begin with, but when a momma bear is jazzed up with it, all sorts of things get shredded. I'm impressed you were able to drive at all. I couldn't walk, but believe-you-me I could snarl.

Let us hope this horrifying experience brings about a new period of positive communication between SadClown and you. I suspect it might. It sounds as if for once he was putting ego aside and reacting as a caring father might. It's a good sign.

Warm hugs to you and your little Carmen Sandiego.


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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

So glad she is safe. So glad you are all ok.

I know this panic. I went through it a few years ago with my DD. I was rattled for days and had difficulty sleeping. Don't be surprised if it takes a while to shake off the after effects. (((((SBB & girls)))))


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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

The shakes have stopped but its almost 2am and I'm only now feeling sleepy.

I keep going over what happened.

Describing my beautiful little girl to the police was something I simply was not prepared for. Aged six, blonde, blue eyes, about 120cms tall (I think?), 25kgs, blue and white checked school uniform dress.

So normal yet it all felt so sinister. I thought I'd never see her again.

Let us hope this horrifying experience brings about a new period of positive communication between SadClown and you. I suspect it might.

I hope so too. I won't hold my breath but I'll still hope.

I also hope sleep comes soon.


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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

My husband did this to his father. Hubby was 13 years old, they had gone on a bike ride and husband biked ahead while his dad was helping hubby's younger sister. Husband went missing for 6 HOURS. His dad finally found him biking through a residential area, completely lost. Husband is not the type to ask for help, and he certainly wasn't going to then.

His dad told me when he saw my husband he sped up in his truck and skidded to a halt right in front of him. My husband was crying and he said "Dad, I thought I would never see you again!" My father in law was telling me this story because that was the last time he saw my husband cried.

While telling me the story my father in law burst into tears. Very heavy sobbing. Even over a decade later he said the fear he felt that day was still alive.

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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Wow. Just wow.

Your fear, your anger - as a mommy myself - so very palpable.

I'm thankful she's safe, though I still cannot get it out of my head that that sitter thought it would be OK to have her.

WTH???

(((((SBB)))))


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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

OMG, SBB, I am **so** glad you found her, and that maybe it will help make your X get on the same page w you.

When my son was in 2nd grade his school "lost" him during after school care. Kids are supposed to be signed out from class, supposed to go to X Y Z activities in X Y Z order, signed in and out. Kid is isn't in correct place, they're supposed to stop everything, notify principal, find kid. My kid left his class, but neither X nor Y nor Z adults saw him, none of them called the principal, none of them looked for him. OMG, I tore around that school...he was out on the playground (he knew where he was supposed to be, but wanted to do what he wanted to do ) with yet another teacher who should have noted that he wasn't supposed to be there, called the principal, etc.

I was NOT a nice person about it. I threw around words like LAWYER and SUPERINTENDENT, and spewed some very unpleasant personal remarks at all adults involved. Let's just say that they developed a new procedure and followed through on it after that...

Yeah. Just about killed me...I can't imagine having to call the police to give a description


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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I just cried and got dizzy reading your story. OMG HOW TERRIFYING!!!!!!!!!!

I think it's good you scared your daughter. She needs to see the impact of what she did. Her being scared and seeing her mother freak the fuck out is an appropriate natural consequence.


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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

^^^THIS!!!


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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I had a day like that one time. DS9 was six at the time. He was playing on playground equipment and then suddenly he wasn't. I could not find him. I knew what color clothes he was wearing and I could not pick him out of the other children. I asked a teen boy to check the bathroom. Would he have gone to the bathroom without telling me? I realized that there were too many cars, too many people ... baseball games on the fields behind the playground, soccer in front, and rugby on the very back field and so many people. If he'd been snatched he could be gone in a car and be anywhere. It was less than five minutes? Other than the boy who checked the bathroom for me I hadn't had time to get to the notify the authorities or even other adults at the fields. I spotted his turquoise t'shirt and his blonde head at the RUGBY FIELD. Right on the sideline. With a boy around his age that I had never seen and adult males related to the boy? By the time I marched up to DS my relief anger was full on. DS met me with "Mommy I made a new friend..." and the adults said something that I didn't even register as I snatched DS's arm and hugged him and yanked him back to the soccer fields saying all those things you say to the child at that point. I ramped up the degree of stranger danger stories. I scared him and his brother because I made it very clear that there was a very good reason for the RULES.

That is a horrible horrible feeling. It was compounded by the GUILT. I let him out of sight. I wasn't diligent enough. What if what if what if.

I can taste the fear and nausea now... That feeling NEVER completely leaves you.

(((SBB))) I am glad your story ended well. I am so sorry for the agony of those long minutes. I am glad you didn't kill yourself or anyone else driving.

I pray your sleep is restful. Be easy Momma. The next days until you get the girls back might be shaky.

(((more hugs))) my friend.


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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

((SBB))
Craziness....I'm glad DD6 is okay. I zip through that post OMG...so glad I can't even imagine.


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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

OMG this is horrifying! I teared up just thinking about it.

I have a question though....

The mum calls me and says no - she's not there. Her DD hasn't been to school today because she's sick.

So then how did YOUR DD end up with the babysitter of the friend if the friend wasn't even in school, and your DD was?


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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I''m so relieved all turned out well, SBB. Sleep well.


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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((SBB)))

So glad she is safe.


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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

OMG, you poor thing.

When my son was 9, I was pregnant with his youngest sister and on bed rest. I went to lie down and told him he could play in the fenced yard or inside. When I got up, his middle sister was watching TV and he was nowhere to be found. She said she didn't know where he was. We looked but didn't find him. We screamed his name. I looked outside. I called neighbors. I called 911. While waiting for 911, I checked his room one more time and noticed a lump in the top bunk. He was prone to bad migraines and had crawled into the bed and cocooned himself in the covers and went to sleep. He never heard us screaming his name even when I was yelling in the same room. I called 911 to let them know he'd been found but they still sent an officer to be sure everything was okay. My heart still races a bit when I think about it and my son is now 27.

I can't even imagine how terrifying it must have been with your daughter not at home, knowing she was in someone else's care. Add the news reports and confusion and you deserve a day at a spa. I'm so glad she wasn't harmed.


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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((SBB)))

I would have reacted the exact same way. I'm so very glad that your DD6 is safe.

Hopefully this is a day that she and sadclown remember and try to not repeat ever again.


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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Girl, STOP it. You have me at working crying like a baby!
Damn I'm so glad your little one is safe.
I did a stint with law enforcement. The WORST cases were when we had to tell the parents their kid really was missing....or worse, the body was found.
Uhhhhggg. I cried every single time we had one of those cases. Not in front of the parents, but later in the car writing the report. My partner told me I was too soft for those kind of calls.
Hug your baby for me too....even though I don't know her!


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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

OMG I was SO freaked the FUCK out just reading that so I can only imagine how it was living it! I''m so neurotic that my heart jumped when I got an amber alert to my phone yesterday and had to check on DS with the nanny!

That is SUPER scary. I''m glad DD and sadclown both got a fright. Hopefully they will both be more careful and responsible. Also WTF to BFF''s mom and the school!!!

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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Oh god. This is my worst fear.
Worst. Fear.

I'm so glad that she's okay.
And don't beat yourself up too much over your reaction when you saw her. She needs to see that. She needs to put that together with how you feel and care about her.

And also, I was wondering what sparkysable was wondering.

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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

The mum calls me and says no - she's not there. Her DD hasn't been to school today because she's sick.

Sorry, that was the weird mum of her second friend. She was with her her BFF's babysitter. BFF goes to ASC once a week and is picked up by a babysitter the rest of the week.

I did end up sleeping. I hadn't thought of it but you are all right - it was appropriate for DD6 to see how much she scared me. All I kept thinking when I was giving the babysitter a serve was "don't swear in front of the kids" and "don't punch the old lady".

I do wish the girls were with me though. It was surreal handing them over after such an ordeal. In some ways it was a good thing because I did need some time to fall apart. DD6 was calm and happy at the goodnight call a few hours later.

I never want to go through that again.


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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry that happened.

I've gotten that phone call. Mine was missing for a few hours. I only knew about it for about 1.5 of it. It didn't turn out well. They finally found my DD16 lying on a bathroom floor at school after locating her and tracking her on the security footage. She had overdosed at school. (She is still with us! Thank God.)

I'm thankful yours is safe and sound.


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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

That is absolutely terrifying.

I can totally relate. I similarly had my son go missing when he was six for about 30 or 45 minutes. He was at a birthday party at a small local amusement park. The birthday boy's mother had said she would take over watch of him while I picked up my younger daughter from a friends. She insisted so that he could stay longer because I was going to take him with me. When I got back with his younger sister, the mother was gone and did not have my son with her! It took me 30 to 45 minutes of scouring the park to find him with another child from the party who playing mini golf with that child's parents. I was freaking out and getting irate with the stupid teenagers who were in charge of the park who did not seem to understand that they needed to shut down the entrances and exits and get every available person looking. Anyway, I know I freaked him out when I broke down sobbing when I found him. I've never been so terrified or felt so much helplessness panic and dread in my entire life.

Not meaning to thread jack here but did want you to know that I totally get how you felt while trying to locate her. I'm so glad your daughter was similarly found safe.


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I keep thinking about this and wonder why, in this day and age, the babysitter didn't text you right away that she had your child when this is not the normal course of events. And why on earth would she trust a six year old with changes to the plan?.

Now I'm getting mad on your behalf.


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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I did a stint with law enforcement. The WORST cases were when we had to tell the parents their kid really was missing....or worse, the body was found.

Oh man. I couldn't handle that. It really is a vocation. Bless you, bless them all.

I tell you what I've always loved cops but I could have hugged and kissed them for how kind and empathetic they were yesterday.

I was apologising for freaking out and not making sense and not telling them immediately that I knew she was safe - one of them told me he had 3 little girls and he completely understood. They stayed until I had an address.

I'm sure they see this all the time but I'm glad they didn't make me feel like I had wasted their time or that I had freaked out for no reason. They seem relieved right along with me.

I'm going to write them a thank you letter.

I do feel a bit funny about going back to ASC. I'm not one to fall on the floor screaming my lungs out, usually. I hate to think of the terrible things I would have said had I not got the call that she was safe as soon as I got there. I was ready to knock down doors and demand to go into people's houses looking for her.

Hugs to everyone who has been through this. My girls aren't runners but I've lost sight of them for a minute or two before and it was that feeling but turbo charged the longer it went.

@ nekorb, That just gave me chills. I am so glad your DD is OK.


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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I keep thinking about this and wonder why, in this day and age, the babysitter didn't text you right away that she had your child when this is not the normal course of events. And why on earth would she trust a six year old with changes to the plan?.

OMG, me too!! BFFs Mum said the same thing - why didn't she call her to tell her she had someone else's child too. When I was ranting at her I asked how on earth she thought it was OK to take someone's child without permission or INFORMING anyone. Stupid, stupid woman. Maybe this happened all the time when she had kids but the world has changed. She doesn't even know me.

I'm also kind of mad at BFFs mum for not calling her right after speaking to me the first time. It was only when I called her a second time and asked her to ask her DD if she saw who DD6 went with that she mentioned a babysitter. Our girls are joined at the hip so I hoped her DD might know something.

If someone called me saying their child was missing I'd call my mum, the sad clown and anyone else who went to the school just to check and to inform them so they could call around.

I told DD6 that unless she had permission from me or her dad she had basically gone home with a stranger. She KNOWS she isn't to do that.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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