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ruby44
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Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I thought the in-person interview went very well, he was nodding his head and agreeing with all my answers. I spent hours at home doing aptitude tests and skills tests on my laptop, phone interview and everything went very well. The morning after the interview I get the thanks but no thanks email. I guess no one wants to hire a 50 something woman for a entry level sales position. His office was filled with young things.
He showed me a list of the duties of the job which was not at all difficult. He pointed out the last one
"do whatever X tells you"
I do not know if I would have accepted it or not but he tells me in the interview he will make his decision on the 21st and then rejection. Hurt worse then I thought.
It sucks trying to get back into the work force.
Time to send out more resumes and letters. Thanks for listening.


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
GingerAle
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Member # 33822
Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

Oh, ruby, I'm sorry. Rejection hurts, for sure. But, you will probably be glad this happened later, when you get an even better job! Be extra gentle on yourself today. ((((ruby44))))


My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014


Posts: 425 | Registered: Nov 2011
hexed
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Member # 19258
Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((ruby)))

I'm sorry you didn't get the job.

A dear friend of mine was in her 50s when both she and her H ended up unemployed. She did secure a retail sales position at a clothing store. The clientele of the store is mostly 30s and up professional women. She went in dressed perfectly and with a great personality but no sales experience. She got the job and has worked her way up to assistant manager and turned down a manager position at a different store.

You can do this. Reinventing your life will have some challenges but being in your 50s isn't an end and doesn't make you unemployable. You have to find the right environment.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8462 | Registered: Apr 2008
movingforward13
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Member # 38405
Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I was recently rejected from an entry level accounting positioning in the area I am relocating to. I ended up finding a BETTER position making more money (same field). They are even paying my relocation expense, where as the other company wouldn't have.
You will find a better position that will be a good fit for you. Keep positive and keep looking.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

((((ruby))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25845 | Registered: Aug 2011
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((((ruby44))))) I am so sorry. Be gentle with yourself today. Try not to take it personally. "do whatever X tells you" sounds suspicious. You probably would have turned them down anyway but it would have been nice to be the one to make that decision.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2284 | Registered: Oct 2012
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry. I'm also in your age cohort and have been unsuccessful at getting a job.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9858 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

(((Ruby))))

I am sorry you didn't get the job, but look at the positives here. You got a great practice run at interviewing, you have proven you are capable of doing the online tests, and you don't have to put up with a boss that would have been unbearable.

There is something better in store for you. Just keep trying. It will come.

I don't know if your a big music fan, but listen to OAR's Right On Time. It's about what we want, but not always getting it when we want it, but we always seem to get it Right on Time. It is very true. I'm not a really religious person, but this song resonates with me in many aspects of my life.

((((and strength)))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8744 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

ruby, I'm sorry you didn't get the job too. But if it helps, in my experience, it was always a blessing. I always found out later that it was a blessing in disguise because a better job was around the corner, or I'd find out later from another employee that the organization never would have been a good fit anyway.
Just keep plugging away. Make sure you ask questions too so that you will know if YOU want to work for THEM!
Good luck.
Oh, and don't forget to send a thank you card thanking him for his time and letting him know if something more suitable comes along to keep you in mind. You never know, maybe down the road something those 20 something year olds just can't do will come along!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:43 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)]


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2342 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
ruby44
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Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

I had an IC session this afternoon and caught her up on what has been going on. When I told her about the last task on the list she cringed! Though I know that it was not the right job, the fact that I got rejected so easily for a job I am over qualified for just stung a little. I am better now, I did send him a nice thank you for the interview and wishing him success in selecting the right candidate. Got that one under my belt hope more to come.
Thanks all for your support good thing I had a stash of Reese's PB cups on hand to soothe the ache.


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 277 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
myowndystopia
Member
Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

It was the dress rehearsal for your future great new job.


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
mamazen
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Member # 42137
Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, February 12th (Wednesday)

sorry ruby you're feeling down about this. It sucks. (50's suck.). Hope you get what you truly want and deserve, soon!


mamazen


me 56
WH 57
married 19 years
separated since 8/2013
D FINAL! Sept 10 2014
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 15 and 12
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on many years (I was clueless)


Posts: 76 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: canada
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