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deena04
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Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, February 14th (Friday)

I want to say thank you to you all for being supportive. I am sending good vibes for today. I am treating myself to lunch and a salon/spa day. I told my hubby I didn't want to celebrate and he's upset about it, so we will see if I change my mind.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1000 | Registered: Dec 2013
karmahappens
Member
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, February 14th (Friday)

I didn't want to celebrate and he's upset about it, so we will see if I change my mind.

He's upset?

Go enjoy the spa day and think about YOUR needs!!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3822 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
sudra
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Member # 30143
Default  Posted: 6:45 AM, February 14th (Friday)

ICR. Our first V day after Dday, my husband brought home wine, a card, and a cake. He was so mad that I wasn't appreciative that he smashed the wine and cake on the garage floor and threw the card in the trash as he left the house. For us, V days is also the anniversary of when he drove 350 miles in a snowstorm to have sex with his AP for the first time, so it was a REALLY bad day. That was four years ago today.

Luckily he's gotten much better since then! But I'm still unable to do anything with this day except wish it didn't exist...


Me (BW) (55), Him(SAWH) (58)
Married 22 years, 1 son (19), 1 stepdaughter (27)
DDay #1 January 2004
DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)
Working on R

Posts: 1479 | Registered: Nov 2010
IamDyingInside
Member
Member # 41054
Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, February 14th (Friday)

I had to start psyching myself up for v day about a week or so ago. He took me out to dinner, had 18 long stemmed roses delivered, blah,blah,.blah. I enjoyed it to a point and was glad he made the effort, but, I would have much rather have spent the $100 he spent on flowers buying him books to read or us as a couple. I didn't want to spoil what he was trying to do, but at the same time, I would have loved and appreciated it more if he would have told me he was ready to dive into the books I already have.


Me: BW (41)
Him: WH (41)
2 Daughters - 20 and 16
Married 19 years, together 24 years
DDay - 09/08/2013
NC - 10/10/13 Broken 10/11/13
I feel like we are both trying R but I am just so skeptical of everything!! Hell, I don't know much right

Posts: 71 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Lost in USA
spond
Member
Member # 41686
Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, February 14th (Friday)

We went out for dinner a 2 weeks ago. A nice dinner at a place we hadn't been at downtown and then went back to the house and watched a movie.

We have always done something early for vday... because its such a mad house to go out on the 14th. Today she is surprising me with something. She said she would text me the address later. Excited.


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 408 | Registered: Dec 2013
bionicgal
Member
Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, February 14th (Friday)

We are (hopefully) going to Retrovaille. The family who is taking care of our son has had upchucking kids, though. So, ya'll cross you fingers for no viruses, and that we get there, please!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 2004 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
atsenaotie
Member
Member # 27650
Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, February 14th (Friday)

FWW got up from a warm bed 2 hours early this morning to drive me to work so I did not need to bike in the 45 F degree temperature this morning. I understand that 45 degrees sounds balmy to some of you in the North right now, but to us in here in Paradise it is painful, especially with the wind chill from pedaling 15 - 20 mph.

This was a truly heartfelt and appreciated gift from her. I think she gets raspberry cheesecake tonight.


FBS 54
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4132 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
lostcovenants
Member
Member # 40637
Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, February 14th (Friday)

Go him a loving card and DVD set . He got me nothing. Do I look surprised? Why did I expect ant different? First VD after DDay supposed to pretend like it didn't happen. (I wanna type FTG but don't even have the emotions left for that - it would take anger and I only have pain and sorrow left)


BS 60; fWH 59; 2 children, 1 grandchild; Married 37+ years, he is my only; D-day 7/8/13; Married OW, PA 2009-2011; sexting with same MOW 2012-2013. Broke it off about a week before I found out.

Update-Sexting on cheating forums 14 YEARS. Idiot me


Posts: 162 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
deena04
Member
Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, February 14th (Friday)

He wants to do this romantic night and I want to have a night alone! The kids and him can stay home and I will have a quiet dinner. Ha. I will probably do something; just not sure what yet.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1000 | Registered: Dec 2013
Topic Posts: 9