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User Topic: Hearing I Love You is a trigger?
ncharge
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, February 14th (Friday)


WH and I had a wonderful day yesterday - it was a snow day from work. He has been trying to be the husband he should be, though he doesn't communicate enought. But, that is another post. My problem is twofold. He doesn't say I love you much anymore (not since the EA started, actually). He said it yesterday and I heard the sincerity in his voiice. But, it triggered distrust and anger. How can the one thing I most want to hear trigger me? I'm worried that this will really slow down the R. I mean, if that phrase triggers me, how can this M recover?

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unfound
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, February 14th (Friday)

Hearing I love you was a huge trigger for me for a long time. Even though it was a trigger, I wanted to hear it... crazy, I know !

When I started to truly believe that he knew what real healthy 'love' was, I was able to slowly accept the words.


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

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ncharge
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, February 14th (Friday)

Thank you! I thought I was crazy!

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UneasyFeelings
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, February 14th (Friday)

My Ww told me I love you, everyday for over a month, while fucking some other guy. Wait, I guess she said "I love you too", since I'm pretty sure I said it first every time for that month.

Bc of this, I love you from her doesn't hold much weight in my eyes. But she's been trying hard to say it and show it. It was originally making me angry and rolling my eyes. But I'm at my 4th week from d
day and I'm finally starting to believe her. Or I'm just a fool.

[This message edited by UneasyFeelings at 9:11 AM, February 14th (Friday)]


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