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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

So DD showed up tonight from the Gnat's house with some cupcakes Hello Kitty made. DD decorated a couple and did one just for me. She was so excited and wanted me to eat it right away. I told her my stomach was upset (which is true), but there's no way I'm eating anything that dumb whore made. I also really resent her playing susie ho maker with my DD.

Bitch, this isn't your child and you'll never be any kind of mother to her.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

So inappropriate. OW knew it would bother you, and used your child to do it.

Beotch.


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

Fuck, I hate this shit...
Vent it out here...

And if DD has her heart set on it...eat that cupcake. Split it with her and make a fun little tea party out of it. And remember, while she was over in unicorn fartland, DD was thinking of you.

(((newlysingle)))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

One time, just before going over to ex-shat's, Teslet made a pie with apples he had gotten from a school field trip to the apple orchard. He wanted to take the pie over to ex-shat's so he could share it with dad.

I knew this was a bad idea because stripper whore was not going to be happy that a home-made pie from the ex-wife shows up at her place.

Sure enough, pick Teslet up and he's very upset. Asks what I did with the pie. I told him he took at with him to his dad's, remember? Teslet says that the pie disappeared, he didn't get to share it with his dad. He was very upset about it.

Don't let the cupcake just disappear.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

This goes on All. The. Time. at Rotting Acres. This weekend, there were heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast, special rice krispie treats with sprinkles, Valentine's candy and cards sent to school for the kids, blah blah blah.

CommandOwife is working overtime to be Mommy of the Year, and XWH is being led along by the nose as he's forced to play Involved Daddy as part of their enforced Brady Bunch scenario. Sometimes it used to make me mad, but you know what? I don't get mad anymore because I know that I don't have to go overboard playing Betty Crocker to make my kids happy. They love me because I'm me, not because I make them heart-shaped treats and make a big to-do out of every holiday. On the other hand, CommandOwife has to continue dancing frantically to impress them and working hard to keep up her sparkle. Poor dear, that must be terribly exhausting.

You are her mom. You don't need to engage in phony bonding activities with her-- whatever you do with her, whether it's push her on the swing at the playground or read her a story before bed, that's genuine and more meaningful to your DD than a whole box of cupcakes. Let Hello Kitty keep dancing the frantic sparkle substitute mommy dance. She'll either wear herself out eventually, or your DD will get to the point where cupcakes no longer hide who Hello Kitty really is.

These shithead remorseless cheater parents are going to get theirs. It's so easy for them to impress right now when our kids are young. Just wait until the pre-teen/teen years kick in...

(((newlysingle)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

Thanks, everyone. There are days I'd seriously lose my mind without this site. None of my real life friends really understand what this is like to go through.

You're right, Tesla. I'm not going to let that Bitch win. I'll eat that damn cupcake with my DD and tell her she did a fabulous job decorating it. If DD goes back and says I didn't eat it and threw it away, she'll think she "won" again.

Yeah, I know they're life isn't sparkly and I have to keep reminding myself of that. Last week, when the Gnat was over here dealing with the plumber and doing repairs for me, it was clear he was lying to Hello Kitty about where he was. He was super agitated and anxious while he was here and kept looking at his watch. I also noticed he didn't have his phone on him which NEVER happens. I think he may have left it in the car, so he wouldn't have to hear the multiple texts inquiring about his whereabouts.

Hello Kitty doesn't appear to have a real job. She somehow just makes money from home (internet porn star, maybe?)so I'm sure she wondered where the Gnat was and why it was taking so long to pick up the kids. Something tells me he neglected to tell her he was paying the plumbing bill and fixing some items for me. Oh, well.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

Couldn't you just "accidentally" drop the plate of cupcakes???

JK....well kinda.
But if you DID drop those cupcake, great excuse to make some of your own!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2181 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

(((Newlysingle))). Glad you decided to eat the cupcake. It''s about your DD and you. At least The white is being nice to her. Could be worse...


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 935 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

StillLivin' - Even if I dropped them my DD would probably try to eat them off the floor. She's a sugar junkie.

Careerlady - I know it could be worse and I try to focus on that. She is generally kind to them. I do feel though like she is competing for my children's love with her actions. I'm not worried though as obviously, she will never take my place. My DD was so excited to be home with me.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 823 | Registered: Mar 2013
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, February 16th (Sunday)

Whoops it auto corrected me or something. I was saying "at least the WHORE" not the white


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 935 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, February 17th (Monday)

Whore often autocorrects to white for me too!

Tryingagain - I'm still laughing that you call their place Rotting Acres.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 823 | Registered: Mar 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, February 17th (Monday)

Your DD puts lots of love into the cupcake and that is what counts.

Was it good?? Did your DD love seeing you eat it?


Me: BS 44
Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat
Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
Heading for Divorce
3 kids: 15,17,19

Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart, wait for The Lord.


Posts: 1721 | Registered: Aug 2013
kg201
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, February 17th (Monday)

What's the male version of this? I can't picture my STBX's prize making baked goods with my kids.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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sleepless34
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, February 17th (Monday)

Hi Newly Single,
That sucks, just what you want is a cupcake (a ho ho would be more fitting) that your DD made with the byotch that home wrecked her family. And you have to say "oh honey, that is so great, it is delicious, thank you" and you feel like puking.

I am sorry. All this is right around the corner for me I am sure and I am bracing myself for it by seeing what you all are going through. It is the worst shit sandwhich served up in the infidelity divorce process isn't it?

It is like psychological torture to send your babies off to spend time with evil stranger STBX's and their ass crazy OW's. SO UNFAIR.



Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

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cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, February 17th (Monday)

Hi All,

Hate to be devil's advocate, but all I see is the AP has already "won" if they create that much emotional response.

Instead of focusing on "them", focus on your children. Their world has come crashing down too and hold on...

They don't feel venom for your WS. They're still mom/dad.

Take my word, you must take the higher ground for your kid's sake. The AP is in their life, could be in their life for awhile. They will also influence your WS on his relationship with their children.

If that relationship sours, you have not won, your children have severely lost.

Yes, your WS is ultimately to blame, but if you act like an idiot whenever WS&AP are brought up, your kids won't think "Mom's right, dad is an ass".

Like or not, life has to go on. If its a LTR with the AP, they will be an influence. It sucks, but you will always be their first choice, not the AP.


Me: BH (43) Her WW 41

R'ing going,going..gone!!
Divorcing!

She no more will have that power over me. I can make, and will make, my own happiness. We we're a good team at one point, but I am great as an individual!!


Posts: 197 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NB Canada
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Gotta love these OW.

"I helped rip apart your family. Have some baked goods. You can tell I really care because sprinkles."


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣


Posts: 10999 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, February 17th (Monday)

cvs - I get what you're saying, but I'm not ready to take the higher road like that yet. I can't help it, but emotionally I still get hurt over this stuff. However, my DD doesn't know it. I do not let her in on how I feel. When she brought the cupcake home, I said how nice that was. I never speak badly about either her dad or Hello Kitty to her. So, I will one day reach "meh" and be able to not be bothered by what they do, but I'm not there yet. I'm just being honest about it.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 823 | Registered: Mar 2013
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Holly - Exactly!


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 823 | Registered: Mar 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Wouldn't those actually be Ho Ho's?

eta: Oh, sorry, I see that sleepless already made that observation.

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 2:19 PM, February 17th (Monday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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LearningToRun
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 17th (Monday)

CommandOwife is working overtime to be Mommy of the Year, and XWH is being led along by the nose as he's forced to play Involved Daddy as part of their enforced Brady Bunch scenario. Sometimes it used to make me mad, but you know what? I don't get mad anymore because I know that I don't have to go overboard playing Betty Crocker to make my kids happy. They love me because I'm me, not because I make them heart-shaped treats and make a big to-do out of every holiday. On the other hand, CommandOwife has to continue dancing frantically to impress them and working hard to keep up her sparkle. Poor dear, that must be terribly exhausting.

This is my life too. OW works her a$$ off trying to win over my girls. Its still hard to swallow those cupcakes, but swallow we must. My friends said "well, be glad she isnt mean to your kids" sigh. They had teeth pulled and she sent so much chocolate. (and yes, i ate it, yum - free chocolate)

My relationship with my girls is good and sound, and i'm far from sparkly. You are their mom, this isn't a competition.

ETA;
I will never look at HO-Ho's the same way again.

[This message edited by LearningToRun at 2:56 PM, February 17th (Monday)]


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Oftencheatedon
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, February 17th (Monday)

I am older and have see countless OW try to compete to be MOTY. NEVER once has this worked.

Be glad that she is kind to the kids - beats the alternative.

No matter what she does she will NEVER EVER EVER come close to replacing you in your child's eyes.

A close friend of mine is just not domestic. OW became wifetress when the children were very small. She cooked, she baked, she made homemade costumes, etc - she did backflips. The children are now adults - they tolerate their SM but adore their mother.

Let her compete and compete - she will never win.


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cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

newlysingle

I understand and I should have said gently before going on a rant.

And if it makes you feel any better, I saw the OM a few weeks ago crossing the road and had to fight the urge to run the POS down. I get the urge to fight the higher road.

[This message edited by cvs2kkids at 2:11 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)]


Me: BH (43) Her WW 41

R'ing going,going..gone!!
Divorcing!

She no more will have that power over me. I can make, and will make, my own happiness. We we're a good team at one point, but I am great as an individual!!


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