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StillPositive
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Happy  Posted: 7:55 PM, February 17th (Monday)

I stuck to my 180! And i told my WS I was done and she needed to either be all in or i'm out!
And of course she didn't truly understand I was over the affair and time for a real change. So I told her a lil over a week ago time for her to choose.. And of course she said idk. At first then she said well, she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, so it's best that I be single. She even said I could take the kids.... Well, when she came home from work this weekend, she had no idea that I had the divorce papers written out and ready for her to sign... So we talked one last time. I explained my stance one last time. And she got her feelings hurt once again. And she got mad, ONCE AGAIN! So she blurted out: fine, then we're done. I quietly got up. Got the divorce papers out and signed them right in front of her and told her sign next to the other blank line. And walked off.
YES !!!!!! I followed through with the advice and support I got from SI... Thank you all for your support.
She truly was in shock!!!!! Cause I left and took a walk.... And my phone started to explode from all the texting. Lol!!! she's ready to work it out... One day at a time.
Most of my stuff is already packed. So we'll see no her follow through is over the next month or so.
I'm Happy, but not stupid and blind. Proud of myself. Let's see how things go from here.... Hopefully she's pulling her head out of her ass now...


Me 41: BS
Her 29: WS
4 children between us
Together 6 yrs: Married 19 months
EA/PA 15 months
OP 51: married with 4 children, close in age to my wife.
D Day#1 3/13/13
D Day#2 9/28/13
NC Letter 2/17/14

Hardship is a pathway to peace...


Posts: 33 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: West Coast
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Wow, I am so happy for you and I hope she does what she is saying shes going to do. THIS IS HUGE AND YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE HAPPY..... Allow yourself those happy moments even if they are small. This one is not small, its huge! But I am just saying even the small victories are something to be happy about..... CONGRATULATIONS STILLPOSITIVE

Gives me hope hearing these things........


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
norabird
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Way to be strong!!!!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4158 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
lilacs40
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Good for you!!


I wish I could just stop I know another moment will break my heart too many tears too many time too many years I've cried over you

Posts: 299 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: IL
Breezy150
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, February 17th (Monday)

Way to go!


I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo


Posts: 539 | Registered: Feb 2014
Jduff
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, February 18th (Tuesday)

Buddy, I would buy you a beer if we were in the same town! That was well executed!


Divorced - 5/23/14
Already in my New Beginning - :)

Posts: 488 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: texas
4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, February 18th (Tuesday)

WOW! You must feel great...and you should!! Great job! It takes real strength and mind power to actually realize you are worth more than how you are being treated....and actually do something about it!!

A victory for you, no matter what your WW decides to do! We are all proud of you!


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 31
WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...


Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Aceofbase
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, February 18th (Tuesday)

way to go! Stay strong.


DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.


Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
StillPositive
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Happy  Posted: 2:30 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)

Well...
Yes I am very proud of myself! And it shows already...
We woke up yesterday morning and actually had a peaceful morning... I told her, we have something to do before she leaves. In a very positive happy manner... When she was finished getting ready for work, I told her it's time for her to send the no contact letter... I showed her some examples. Told her it needed to be done now! (and my tone of voice changed and she got defensive)... She said she would do it later... I said okay. But no other communication with him today. And since he's been out of state for a few months. She had to send a group text message. And she kept her word !!!!!!!
She sent the No Contact Text !!!!!!! Wow! Another lil victory for us...
So I'm taking it one day and one prayer at a time...


Me 41: BS
Her 29: WS
4 children between us
Together 6 yrs: Married 19 months
EA/PA 15 months
OP 51: married with 4 children, close in age to my wife.
D Day#1 3/13/13
D Day#2 9/28/13
NC Letter 2/17/14

Hardship is a pathway to peace...


Posts: 33 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: West Coast
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, February 18th (Tuesday)

Good for you guyS!!!!!!!


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


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