I'm having a really hard time detaching and doing the 180.
I made another post called living a lie that gives more back ground. Basically my husband turned forty, had a friend die of cancer and decided he could no longer live a lie. He told me he has been cheating on me our entire marriage and that he has never loved me and on and on and on.
I have kicked him out of the house. He took all of his personal stuff and moved in with his parents. The reason I find the 180 so hard to do is because we are completely dependent on him financially. Also we have four children. So anyway he is coming home after work wanting to know what's for dinner spending the evening with us, helping put the kids to bed. On the weekends he popping in and out. He is still wearing his wedding ring.
He is still adament that he wants a divorce and he is still chatting, hooking up with women, etc all while under his parents roof.
Anyway I have tried to detach and I'm trying to get a life. He makes it very hard by coming over some nights not others, coming different times of day etc. I'm afraid if I try to set boundaries he will cut us off financially and I can't support myself and four kids. I feel like as long as he is still putting his paycheck in our account I should just lie low.
Any advice is greatly appreciated! I just don't know what I should be doing not doing. I have an appointment scheduled with a IC but it's not until March 6th.