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huskers
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Member # 42168
Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Filed Legal Sep Friday. He will be served today after a month of separation and drama. He's already an angry hot mess, since I am the bad guy in all this, exposing his whore, changing the locks, moving money. But nothing has changed. He is not willing to work on marriage. He is still with her. Not looking forward to the explosion when he gets served at work, because he won't give me a home address.

[This message edited by huskers at 2:04 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)]


Posts: 101 | Registered: Jan 2014
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

((((huskers)))) Is there someone who can be with you today? Stay safe, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25521 | Registered: Aug 2011
WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Let us know you're OK, please?


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 567 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

(((huskers)))

Hope you are okay.

If you can block his number, dont speak to him. If that is not possible have a response prepared "you can speak to my attorney about that". If you are in fear of your physical safety is there somewhere else you can stay or a brother/male friend who can stay with you?

Hope he is all hot air and bluster and you are safe.


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 740 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

((( huskers )))
I agree with the previous posters.
Try to find someone (supportive) to hang out with and do not answer your phone.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6459 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

You ok?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
huskers
Member
Member # 42168
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

I am ok. Sorry didn't mean to disappear. He sent a nasty text. Then he texted our teen son and said 'mom is trying to get sole custody of you. Sorry if I've disappointed you'.

Nice put your issues on to him. Son replied yes he is very disappointed. Husband says we can talk about it. Son says no. You're the one with the issues not me. Wow. Who is this kid? Lol. My mom says he got his strength from watching me be strong through all this.

And yes... Some friends were also worried about his response and threat to get a locksmith or bust door down. He can still legally do that . One staying night tonight and the other tomorrow. I am truly blessed with a lot of support and all of you.


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nekorb
Member
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Be strong. We are with you in spirit!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Shockleader
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Member # 36827
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

But nothing has changed. He is not willing to work on marriage. He is still with her.

You did EXACTLY the right thing! Buckle up, and expect a very bumpy ride. I experienced the same parental alienation crap; these POS cheaters are such pathetic WEAK COWARDS, using their own children as fodder!!!... Do not be afraid, remain resolute, and let the power of your conviction carry you forward.

We are all wishing you the best of luck, and hope for a much better future.


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
Xcheater 44
One DD 19
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...


Posts: 652 | Registered: Sep 2012
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Thinking about you huskers and sending you strenght - stay safe.

And, yes, your son is amazing.

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Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4562 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
huskers
Member
Member # 42168
Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Thank you all for the strength and good thoughts . There will be plenty of time to worry and have the roller coaster of emotions. Tonight I am at peace I did the right thing and will focus on my sons and moving forward. Because dammit I'm worth it

[This message edited by huskers at 9:56 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)]


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