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aero1122
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

So we have been planning to go visit a relative next week. It is a long drive (we are taking 2 days because of the kids) I don't know how I am going to handle being with him all day in a confined space with the kids who don't know anything. I am still on the roller coaster every day and don't know how much I can hide from the kids.
I am going from sad to pissed off constantly.

This sux

Any advice would be appreciated.


Me-35
WH-36
Together 18 years
Married 7 years
2 kids 14yo & 2yo
D-day 12-7-13
Both currently in counseling
Trying to R

I am a warrior!
I will survive and thrive!


Posts: 95 | Registered: Dec 2013
scarednbroken
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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

I guess I am a veteran at this part. I have been hiding it for many years. It is hard. The best days I manage to not take frustrations out on kids. The worst - he gets biting comments to knock is ego down a few notches.

How? Deep breaths. I also made a list of reasons why I can not blow up and out. What are the positive outcomes to keeping my cool. And the repercussions if I do not.

This is new for you and the pain is fresh. If you feel yourself about to let go - take 10 slow deep breaths, the count backward from 20. And envision your list (or read it). And see if you are calm.

I also ask for exercise breaks. Get out of the confined space and walk about. Breathe.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
momentintime
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Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

Play a audio book to keep everyone entertained.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

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Livingalie2014
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

So sorry to hear that. That's a lot of togetherness so soon after your discovery. Its totally normal to be on a daily roller coaster, my counselor said to just go with your feelings. It might be best if you sat together with your 2 year old, and have your 14 year old sit in front with your WS. Hope everything works out for you.


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