User Topic: Not a big believer in karma but .....
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

If I was I would say it found him

Been awhile since I have really posted on here, but I do lurk daily To update, the last time I posted it was to wonder why the idiot sent ALL of the papers he was served back to my lawyer without doing anything....he just put everything he was served in an envelope and mailed it all back to my attorney. Because of this I was awarded a default judgement and given everything I had asked for. Just had to go through the 90 day waiting period.

During these last 3 months he told me that he and OW called it quits and he had moved out....almost a year to the day of him asking for a divorce....she was tired of him not helping with bills and other things and the job he had didn't pay very much and he barely had enough to send what he did for me and the kids Funny thing is, is that up until that month I had been paying all our bills, right before their break up I had forwarded the ones to him that he was to be responsible for. I do think he is still trying to get back with her but her stbxbh told me he heard through her 2nd ex that she is dating 3 or 4 guys I can say that I am at 99% of not caring.

If they are together it won't last. Her stbxbh told me she is all about the money, and my ex doesn't have any, and what little he thinks he is hiding from me will be gone soon also, as the bus is turning around.

Divorce is final today (not totally okay with that but getting there ) The part I am okay with is that I get everything I asked for and he has a judgment against him for back SS, education expenses for our kids, and the cost of the divorce. I also get an increase in SS as my kids graduate from school, and the thing that will really piss him off is that he has to bring me back his bike...I get that too

He has been whining to me about how broke he is for the last two months and has not sent me a dime, but CS will go through the state now...and I think my SS might also, at least until my last kid graduates.

Oh, and because he defaulted I wasn't obligated to let him know about court today and that everything is now final. He will find all of this out in a couple days when he gets it in the mail. Hope he found that happy he was looking for.

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012

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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Ahhhhhh how I love hearing a happy ending for a BS.

*raise my wine glass*
Here's to bigger and better things for Darcy3!

Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6672 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

I know you didn''t look to end up in this place, but it sounds like the beginning of a happy ending. Congratulations on getting what you want!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

I do have to say a big THANK YOU to SI and all the people here. I know that without having this place to come to I would have had a much harder time of dealing with today.

I have cried and been depressed for most of the day, but I know it's because I am mourning the end of what was. Thanks to SI, I also know that tomorrow is a new beginning, and I will be ok.

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012

Posts: 45 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, February 19th (Wednesday)

Just goes to show that people DO sometimes get what they deserve!

I am not looking forward to that final D decree either ...always thought I was married for life ....c'est la vie.....


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 9995 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

((Darcy)) Welcome to the first day of the new life of Darcy. It will get better.

If I were you, I know what would make me feel better......A RIDE ON MY NEW BIKE!!!

Sorry, I just couldn't help myself.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7810 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 33822
Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

Yes! Today is the first day of the rest of your fabulous life!

Nature_Girl, lol Good one!

My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014

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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, February 20th (Thursday)

(((((Darcy3))))) Sending you hugs because you are about the divorce being final. Like the others have said, you are on your way to a fabulous new beginning!

P.S. I'm going to start wishing for a default judgement!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Thank you everyone for the support. Feeling much better today...climbed back up out of the dip. Thank god they do not last as long as they use to.

Dmari all you need to help you get that default judgement is a lazy ass ex who doesn't like to deal with anything.

Me = BS
Him = WS
3 teenagers
Married 24 years
D-Day: Nov. 10, 2012

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