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bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Send your good wishes my way -- I have a raging case of PMS today, and will likely see AP tonight at a school function.

I hate, hate, hate that it that it will be polluted with her presence, but I will do my best to rise above. (Deep breath.)


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1858 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

sending you strength bionic gal. give yourself time to center yourself before the function, not to mention to assure that you look fabulous. deep breaths. living well really is the best revenge. not that anyone here ever wanted revenge.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1478 | Registered: Dec 2011
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Sending you positive thoughts!!!!!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 842 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I am certain she cannot measure up to your brains and class. She is invisible to you.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6351 | Registered: Jan 2011
Truly
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Member # 40715
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, February 20th (Thursday)


You'll be awesome; superior, smart, funny, gorgeous...and full of good, sweet, chocolate...I'd send you some but I need it ALL today


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Uhtred
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Member # 40392
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I have PMS everyday since DDAY! You can do it!


Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 588 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

You are on my specific SI prayer list...but will say a solo prayer for you and mr. Bionicgal now.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3594 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

If your pms is anything like mine... I hope the ow come out alive. nah!!! Lol. I hope things went well for you.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
rachelc
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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I'm saying this prayer, "God, please be with bionic gal as she needs you now. Please help her make decisions that reflect her values - kindness and grace. Give her some peace through this God, as these are trying times and she needs support. If there's any way she could feel the army of supporters she had on SI and IRL, please allow her to feel this in her heart."

Let us know how it goes.
You are a better woman than I..,,


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4696 | Registered: Dec 2010
bionicgal
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Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Oh you guys, you made me cry. And here's the thing. . .AP and OBS were there, and I simply acted as if they didn't exist. (It helped that I forgot my glasses at home.) There were a lot of people, and I knew they were there, but I enjoyed talking to my many friends, and realizing that I still have a community that I love. H was a little more worried about it, and had to steer me from actually running into them once. He is nervous about seeing OBS in particular.

And here's a snide karma aside -- The event was a Book Bowl competition for grades 3-5. Kids are on teams from their schools, and they have to read 10-20 books and answer questions on them as a team. I helped coach my son's team, and the kids worked super hard.

Over the years, AP (whose son was on another team) had always lauded how brilliant her son was, and made a big deal about what a great reader he is (he truly is.) I, a total book geek with a M.A. in Lit, always felt like my son (who is no slouch with reading, but prefers comic books to classics, and sports above all else) was kind of looked down on. She even said at one point, "well - maybe he is more like his (engineer) dad?")

Well guess what -- my son's team totally won first place! First!

Makes a momma proud. So see, it turned out ok. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts. Truly.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 8:55 PM, February 20th (Thursday)]


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1858 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Yay!!!!!!!!!


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 2:41 AM, February 21st (Friday)

yeah!


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


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