User Topic: An unlikely turn of events
Member # 25700
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I have been through hell and back and so has my wife. I cheated on her, then her on me, have been separated and living apart for 3 1/2 years!! we have dated other people, relationships, the works. After all of this and reaching the depths of dispair, on the edge of executing divorce papers...we have found a way back to each other. We are in conseling together and dating and it's going really well. For the first time since all this happened we are on the same page together. Its been 4 1/2 years. We are taking it slow but I am probably going to move back in the end of March. No way in hell I thought this would happen. No way. I know we will be OK. I am older smarter and have been through enough therapy to choke a horse.
It was like one day we both looked at each other and realized what each one of us had. I really believe this will work, i still love my wife.

WH 45 turned into BH
BS 39 turned into WS
dday 7/8/09
3 awesome kids

Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: NY
Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I remember some of your early posts. This update from you made me smile, ear to ear. I'm happy for you both.

Wishing you both the best!

“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Member # 21773
Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

That is wonderful, congratulations!

Me: 41 BS/WW/BS
2 kids 9 & 11, 3 steps 20, 8 and 3
BS 1st DDay 10/14/08, 5 mo. PA w/ MOW
WW 2nd D-Day 3/22/10, my exit A with HS BF
Separated 4/19/10
Married H #2 10/8/11
BS latest Dday 12/28/13 - PA w/ single COW

Posts: 2207 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 40715
Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, February 20th (Thursday)


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens

Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

well d n d

That sounds pretty awesome!

Good luck!!

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3846 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

That's awesome, I hope it all goes perfectly!

Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, too much too list, drowning in his sex addiction
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
NC broken 7/28/14- pathetic piece of crap
Separated, divorce filed, he loves his whore lol

Posts: 455 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

That's wonderful!!

Posts: 35933 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 25700
Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

Thanks for your well wishes. It's still a long road with a lot of twists and turns ahead. I'm thankful to have made it this far. What a crazy journey this has been. all those long nights of no sleep and desperation I'm sure many of you know the same. Sometimes I look back and wonder how I got through to this point. I will not fuck it up this time.

WH 45 turned into BH
BS 39 turned into WS
dday 7/8/09
3 awesome kids

Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: NY
Member # 39667
Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

I guess this really proves a statement I read on some blog that as long as two people are still alive, there is hope for reconciliation.

BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 910 | Registered: Jun 2013
New Member
Member # 42503
Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, February 20th (Thursday)

This is really good news! I am very happy for both of you! It def. gives others like me more hope I wish you two the best for luck and pure happiness!

Me: WS (29)
Him: BS (31)
Together 12 years; Married 10 years
3 Children: 9, 6, 3
D-day: Jan. 16, 2014

Posts: 13 | Registered: Feb 2014
Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, February 21st (Friday)

This is good news. Keep doing the work. I wish you happiness.

D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou

Posts: 1479 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:01 AM, February 21st (Friday)


My heart is smiling.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4038 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Member # 42458
Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, February 21st (Friday)

way to go.

DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.

Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
Member # 42458
Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, February 21st (Friday)

way to go.

DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.

Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
sinsof thefather
Member # 29295
Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, February 21st (Friday)

I remember seeing posts of yours from time to time too, so I'm very happy to see this one. It's great that things are going so well for you and your wife now and I wish you both all the best as you continue to move forward together.

...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1883 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
Member # 35004
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, February 21st (Friday)

Congratulations!! I'm friends with a couple who divorced for quite a few years and eventually remarried. They couldn't be happier. I wish you all the best.

BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1052 | Registered: Mar 2012
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