What does this word mean to you? I have spent the last year trying to explain to my fWH that we lack a strong connection in our marriage and we need to work toward this. He just looks at me blankly and says he doesn't know what I mean by 'connection.' I have tried to explain what it means to me, but he just doesn't see what it is I'm striving for.
Maybe you all have a different way I can explain it.
Me BS 51
Him fWH 50
Married 21 years
Me: BW 51
Him: WH 51
Married 21 years
Posts: 17 | Registered: Feb 2014
Simple Member Member # 18814
Posted: 5:38 PM, February 20th (Thursday)
Have you both read "the five languages of love"? I think that maybe a step to establish some "connection". It's a type of word that is better explained through experience rather than through words.Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.
Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Jls0320 Member Member # 41192
Posted: 6:11 PM, February 20th (Thursday)
Connection for me is wanting to be with that person, have deep conversations, want to tell them important things going on, being able to discuss feelings with them, feel close to them, think about them, attracted to them and to feel it backMe: 33 Him WS: 33, 2 little boys
Him: EA with coworker, porn/cam/chat site/Craigslist addict. Diagnosed as SA
Together 15yrs, married 6yrs
Dday 9/17/2013, more discovered 1/26/14
NC broken 7/28/14- pathetic piece of crap
Posts: 207 | Registered: Nov 2013
whattheh Member Member # 40032
Posted: 6:56 PM, February 20th (Thursday)
My fWH and I have a strong bond which is what held us together during the worst of this. Even though he cheated he wanted to stop right away and his greatest fear was losing me when I found out.
I guess this is a sort of connection but I don't use that word.
BW- mid 50's (me)
M 33 T 35
In R but I have PTSD...
Posts: 485 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
heartbrokeninaz Member Member # 40779
Posted: 6:52 AM, February 21st (Friday)
To me it is wanting to spend the rest of your life sharing with that person. Sharing new places, ideas, thoughts, and old. It is knowing that they are there for you no matter what. It is looking into their eyes and knowing that you are special to them. It is growing old together and still having fun after the kids are grown. Its about sharing dreams.BW 40 (me)
DDay 1 07/31/13 ONS with horseface
DDay 2 05/09/14 inappropriate texts
with another OW
One last shot