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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, February 21st (Friday)

So on my way back to my home state yesterday, XWH asked if I would meet up with him for lunch so he could see his son. Since I had a 6 hour drive, I told him to meet me on the turn pike I would already be on and we could coordinate a meeting. (That also involves work on his end as he would have to drive to said location about 30- 45 minutes and pay the tolls.)

He arrived early and notified me. Then he took us out to a restaurant. Well, the meeting was damn near an interview. He was asking about my new job, mainly my new apartment and how was I moving. He was surprised with my straight forward answers, including how many people were helping me with this move. One of my current co-workers is driving my UHaul truck to my new apartment for me and XWH asked "Why would he do that. That is a very long drive. Are you dating him?" My response, "No, he is a married man who cleared it with his wife. He wouldn't cheat on his wife." It went over his head at first but then I think he got it. Then he tried to make side conversation about himself and his life. Told me he was putting our son on his insurance plan, would be down often to pick up our son during his time off and gave me a card he was holding that had money on it for shoes for our son (like a store credit). Asked me about grad school and gave me some advice on clearing up my face with some product he tried (I have acne). Then he made the remark that I seem calmer... Maybe because I divorced your cheating ass and now am taking your money for child support.

Blah, blah, blah... I mainly smiled at our son and answered all business like. Then we left and he place my son in his car seat and was sad to let him go. Thanked me for bringing him, etc. Then texted me all the way home as I am required to give him my new address. Do you know he looked up my new address to see my new apartment. He was jealous when I told him that it was a 2 bedroom/2 bath room. Said it was very nice but expensive... Excuse me? He really went to go look up the address and figure out how much I was paying in rent.

I don't know if him and MedGirl are still together but wow... All this focus on me? I think it finally hit him that I have started a move on in my life WITHOUT him. Maybe he is jealous of where I am going... Bigger Metro area than where he is and more to see and do. Sounds like there are problems at his job. His monthly salary isn't paying his bills and I am daring him to try to cut down my child support. His "six-figure salary" isn't bringing in as much to splurge on now that his student loans have come due.

After my meeting with him yesterday, I am "betting" I get that regret phone call soon. I was looking great, besides my acne which there were only two spots off. I gained weight in the right areas. The waitress complimented me at the restaurant. He does miss his son. While he is an incompetent father, he does love our little boy. And it is killing him that I am moving.


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Posts: 638 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:09 AM, February 21st (Friday)

Too bad for him! Awesome that you're moving forward.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
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Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, February 21st (Friday)

There is a lot to be happy about in this. You are amazing, and it sounds like he is surprised by it. Funny how this is what it takes for him to notice what was in front of his face for years!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Good job movingforward13!

Strength for when that regret call comes.


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