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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Not only does MH write out our weekly grocery list but its in order of us starting at the produce side of the store. I have my coupons organized by category (cold/frozen, Non Perishable, Home, Pets, Health/Beauty) and as we're making out our list, I tell him what coupons I have and he uses a highlighter for those items

A couple months ago I was standing at the deli area waiting for my order and a lady said "oh, you have such nice handwriting, your list is so organized" I told her that was my husbands handwriting and not only that, but check out how he highlights my coupon items She said "Oh my god, I really need to take a picture of that" LOL!!

And of course at check out time, we always empty our cart by category too

What about you?


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I don't make lists unless I'm shopping for a recipe. Usually I just stock up on whatever is on sale or running low and plan my menus as I go.

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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, February 21st (Friday)

If God has really wanted us to make and follow grocery lists, he wouldn't have invented mobile phones ... LOL

[This message edited by HUFI-PUFI at 2:08 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I'm a list freak (preferably in excel so I don't have to reinvent the wheel).

I reuse the same list week to week and just hide the rows I dont need.
Why not sort the unused portion to the bottom, you ask? Because the list is in sections/categories of the grocery store!

I too HAVE to start in the produce area of the store. My husband laughs at me, but I seriously get all thrown off kilter if we start in meat/deli (opposite side of store) instead.

My coupon organizer is categorized similar to my list and I try to go by aisle in the store, but I shop at a few different stores, so that isn't always feasible. When I know I'm going to shop, I pull out the coupons I'm likely to use and clip them to my grocery list.

At checkout, I always group things on the belt as well. I hate when my bread ends up under canned goods or when they mix fruit in with cleaning products. Like goes with like!!

I also have reusable grocery bags that I knit myself. I have a specific color that is for meat only, another color for fruits/veggies, a third color for cleaning products, and a final color for general goods.
I dont want to use meat bags on fruit (cross-contamination) nor do I want my fruit in chemical laced bags that held Raid or Clorox.

Hmmm...I never thought of myself as OCD, but after typing that out, I may have to rethink that stance!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, February 21st (Friday)

You plan your menu as you go? Oh my gosh, I could never do that!! We plan out all our lunches before we go shopping on the weekend (we're not big dinner eaters)...I guess I'm not much of a fly by the seat of my pants kind of gal


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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, February 21st (Friday)

My grocery store chain has a mobile app that I use. It has store floor plans, product locations specific to each store, customizable shopping lists, built in coupons, and lots more.

It organizes my shopping list by department and aisle. If I can't find something, I can ask the app using voice recognition, and it will locate it in the store for me. If they are out of an item, I can report it on the app. It is so cool.

I always start in the produce section and work my way to the frozen section.

I organize my cart into zones to make unloading and bagging like items much quicker.

I love grocery shopping. It's very zen for me.


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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, February 21st (Friday)

My list is in aisle order and I begin at produce. I know which aisle and on which side the things are I need. And if I think of something to add to the list, I have to make a new one.

Any of course everything is put in the cart properly, heavy stuff on the bottom, by shape and size. Then you should see me put in on the counter. It drives my girls crazy. One of them will try to put something out of order just to throw me off. Of course I catch it. Can't fool mom!

Now loading the trunk pisses everyone off because, again, I put the heavy stuff in first so it is on the bottom. I even place the paper towels/toilet paper around the eggs. They think I'm crazy but my eggs aren't broken, my fruit/veggies aren't smashed, and my bread isn't squashed.


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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, February 21st (Friday)

They think I'm crazy but my eggs aren't broken, my fruit/veggies aren't smashed, and my bread isn't squashed.
Amen!


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SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Life was different when the 4 kids lived at home but now that we are firmly in the empty nest, the whole shopping thing has taken a twist.

I ask LF each day if she has a fave she wants and then, each morning I head to the store to buy fresh produce/meat for the meal. Very little in the freezer and only staples in the cupboards.

I always let the specials at the grocery store guide whats on the menu for tomorrow... ie, if the chicken wings are on sale today, it will probably be on the menu tomorrow.

Everyday is an adventure day ...


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I too HAVE to start in the produce area of the store. My husband laughs at me, but I seriously get all thrown off kilter if we start in meat/deli (opposite side of store) instead.

This is soooooo me. I plan my menu two weeks at a time. My list isn't organized by grocery aisles, but by day of the week - that way I know if I need to change my plans or if I can come back if they're out of something or if the quality looks bad. I place items in my cart so that I can maximize space usage and the courtesy clerk can rarely get everything back into one cart when I'm finished (I shop for a family of 5). I actually really love grocery shopping and, on the rare occasion that someone keeps my boys for me so I can shop alone, I find it to be rejuvenating and invigorating.

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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I have no clue what order the aisles are in the grocery store!

I do put them on the belt as I want them bagged but the idiot cashiers don't seem to understand how important that is... of course, they are all teenie boppers that have probably never had to put groceries away


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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Seriously, I do feel better knowing I'm not the only one.

My husband used to get upset about the multiple pieces of paper (of lists) I had laying around the house. I have to pack the groceries. If he does it, it's chaos. Cans stacked on top of produce. WTH is that all about???

I'm a master packer. It puts my Tetris skills to good use. If I don't use the self-serve lanes, I judge the cashier's packing abilities.

There was a time I categorized and made a list of all the foods in the freezer to know what food was in there. You know, buried at the bottom. Problem was we didn't adhere to the list and cross things off when they were used, so it didn't stay organized.

I've learned to let a lot of things go.


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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, February 21st (Friday)

My peeps! I have found those like me. I too love to grocery shop. I find myself at busy times acting like I work there as I direct those around me in their searches.

I have my list and coupons in aisle order. I have compared the online circular and pre determined menu suggestions, reviewed the pantry to know what is low (though I keep a list of anything as I use the last of it). People that know me IRL do this at me when they see it.

I tend to shoo the baggers away as I want my bags in like item order and it is quicker and easier to do it myself. I have a couple bags that are specifically for cold items and it makes me when a bagger throws a can in there.

I do not have issues....


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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 21st (Friday)

List Makers UNITE!!

I have an on-going Home Depot list that I keep in my drawer in the coffee table. I also have a list of all the parties we've thrown (big, major parties) and who came and what specialty cocktails we served and what the food was.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I'm a master packer. It puts my Tetris skills to good use.
Totally Tetris!


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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Oh DS, my sister in lists!

I keep my Thanksgiving menus each year with who was there and rate the recipes. Lord when I die and somebody cleans off my night stand and desk, it will be a field day.


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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, February 21st (Friday)

YAY Pentup!!!!

Ask some of our SI Elves about my yearly spreadsheet I have for all the members that participate in the Christmas Card exchange. They were most impressed with my notes when I pulled out the SI Christmas Card file


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Hey DS, do you have pre party lists that are for shopping, prep, cooking, cleaning? Then I have my count down to party list on the last day. I do not show those to others. They remark about how everything is always done and ready, etc. My H did tell one person, she is not doing it for you, so you can enjoy, she does it to keep you out of her kitchen! I had to remind him we don't tell that to others.

I never thought of myself as OCD before, but I may be a bit structured.


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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Hey DS, do you have pre party lists that are for shopping, prep, cooking, cleaning?

Absolutely!!

Right now, we're planning two parties next month. SI's St. Patrick's Day party and my 50th birthday party So I have several lists going.

SI = Food & drink list, cleaning list, guest list, activities list.

50th Birthday party = food & drink list, guest list, cleaning list.

It takes a lot of work to put a party on

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:13 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, February 21st (Friday)

SI = Food & drink list, cleaning list, guest list, activities list.

50th Birthday party = food & drink list, guest list, cleaning list.


Don't forget:
Christmas Gift Lists (broken down by person, budgeted amount and actual spent)

Birthday Gift Lists (same break down as above)

Camping/Kayaking List which, of course, is different than the Vacation List....

I also have a list of Birthdays/Anniversaries for friends, family, their kids, spouses, etc...

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 3:16 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Gaby...

I have a Christmas folder that has all the past years Christmas lists and gifts we gave to friends and family.

I also keep individual file folders for all our vacations which includes, but not limited to hotels, types of cars we rented, places we ate and visited and all the fun little souvenirs like tour receipts, etc.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, February 21st (Friday)

*sigh* I feel so validated by this thread.


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Isn't it wonderful?!!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, February 21st (Friday)

If fWS and I go together we don't make a list but if either of us go alone we make out a list IN ORDER from bakery, through produce, meat, then the non perishable aisles, etc all the way to the frozen food, milk, cheese, bath products and finally drugs.

I cannot even think any other way. And when the bagger screws up the items. Well... it is not pretty.


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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, February 21st (Friday)


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, February 21st (Friday)


[This message edited by HUFI-PUFI at 3:44 PM, February 21st (Friday)]


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, February 21st (Friday)

PurpleJacket joins the List Makers Group!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I also keep individual file folders for all our vacations which includes, but not limited to hotels, types of cars we rented, places we ate and visited and all the fun little souvenirs like tour receipts, etc
These are sub-lists, categorized under the main lists of course!


*sigh* I feel so validated by this thread.
We're not crazy...everyone else is!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I buy cheese, crackers and wine. It used to be much easier in AZ & TX when I could buy my wine in the grocery store now it''s an extra trip for the liquor store. Oh, the agony...


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I don't write a list. Remember the old Family Circus cartoons where Billy goes all over the place to get from point A to point B? That's me shopping. And then I get home and figure out what I've forgotten.

I know. If I had a list this wouldn't happen. But it does because I always miss something on the list too.

It's even better when I run to the store for something quick only to get to the check out and realize I left my wallet on the counter back home.


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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Add me to the throng of highly organized grocery shoppers. This is indeed a validating thread!

Unless my eye skipped a line, no one's mentioned the overly-helpful baggers who want to help unload the dadgum cart. I, too, want my grocery bags to have some sort of logical order. I don't want to find my canned tomatoes with the chips! Parmesan cheese with the breakfast cereal! This disrupts the flow...

I don't quite need a nerve pill but sometimes it does rub my fur the wrong way...especially with some of the more insistent Helpful Harry's.


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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, February 21st (Friday)

OMG I'm home here!

Don't forget:
Christmas Gift Lists (broken down by person, budgeted amount and actual spent)
Birthday Gift Lists (same break down as above)

Camping/Kayaking List which, of course, is different than the Vacation List....

Then there's the college dorm list, the college apartment list, the week at the beach house list...

A couple of weeks ago WH did the grocery shopping. I went to make dinner and a key ingredient was missing from the fridge. When I asked him where he hid it, he told me he didn't buy it becuase it wasn't on the list. A few miniutes later he sheepishly told me it WAS on the list, but it wasn't grouped properly with like items so he missed it. I had no idea he even realized the list was laid out to match the store aisles!


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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Ah, you people with your lists. I betcha dollars to donuts that at this very moment, NIK is making a list of people who belong on her list of people who use lists.

It would seem that there exists but a single man in this dauntless world who believes, in his heart and soul that there is a certain joy and specialness in a life that is built on extemporaneous spontaneity!


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Camping/Kayaking List which, of course, is different than the Vacation List....

We have a camping list, jeeping list, boating list, vacation list.

But most importantly, we have a beer consumption spreadsheet broken out by attendee and how much we think they will consume for breakfast, lunch, dinner and nighttime. We NEVER run out of beer and we NEVER bring home more than about 5.


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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Hufi - I'm all for spontaneity, too. But there's a happy balance necessary between order and chaos. I just happen to have a little more order than chaos in my equation.


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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I have found OCD heaven!!!!!

Ok, what I didn't know, I have now learned and will implement as needed, like highliting the coupons I have on the grocery list!!!!

Not only am I super organized with the shopping, but I've trained both DSs in how I want things. We are like a well oiled and highly synchronized team. The baggers are not even allowed to touch the groceries for fear of the "Mama" looks I give. While I put the items on the conveyor belt how I want them, one boy opens bags and gets them prepped while the other boy put the items in properly. No bleach with my fruit, thank you, Sir!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, February 21st (Friday)

highliting the coupons I have on the grocery list
This really IS a great idea and I'm stealing it too!

Hufi Pufi - I love being spontaneous when it comes to "fun", but I need order in the day to day things. Combine my swiss cheese memory with the number of people/animals in my home and the various schedules, etc chaos would reign without my trusty lists!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Oh you compulsive obsessive compulsive people make me smile ....

I'm still struggling with balancing your statement of " But there's a happy balance necessary between order and chaos. I just happen to have a little more order than chaos in my equation" and StillLivin's statement that she found OCD heaven!!!!!


Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I have a grocery list organized by food type on my ipad. I use a different color to mark an item for each store that I go to that has an item on sale or is the cheapest with the price on it. I also note the quantity and whether I have a coupon for the item (and how much it is off.) I take the ipad with me and cross off the item when I put it in the cart. I am rarely surprised by the amount I spend, and impulse buys are kept at bay, bc I go in to the store, get what I want, and get out. I do have a little cushion in my budget for "unadvertised" specials. I have almost every "cheapest regular price" memorized. (Yeah, bad, huh?) I have shopped like this for years. Every one is shocked at how I keep my weekly bill below $250 for a family of five - mostly athletic teens - and have lots of fresh veggies, fruit, and protein on the menu. LOL


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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I HATE grocery shopping - but that's why I make a list - I put everything in order according to how the store is laid out moving from right to left as I'm entering the store. I want to get in and out in as little time as possible. I also want my groceries bagged with like items. I put them on the belt that way, but some checkers mess it all up.

Now that I live with SO, it's all gone to hell. He doesn't like my grocery store, so sometimes we go to a different one and I don't know the order of the items in that one. So the list is willy-nilly and we circle back and forth through the store. Plus he just likes to shop so he likes to go up and down every aisle looking at everything - it takes forever! I must admit I become impatient.

I have tried to get him to shop on his own - he is retired and can do it any time, but he likes me to come with him - I suspect it is so he can torture me with his unorganized slow-moving shopping.

I used to be a coupon shopper, but I haven't done that for some time. I used to make the list and then go through the coupons to put them in the same order as the list. But I became lazy when I started shopping for one.

NL


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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, February 21st (Friday)

People pleas. Lay down your lists and step back calmly. With so much organization you will never understand the joy of going back to the store a third time because you forgot(again) you were low on vanilla extract. Imagine the enlightenment you can obtain while making a casserole in the middle of the night and realizing you need to run to a 24 hour WalMart to pick up cottage cheese. Embrace the joys of an age addled memory and the pleasant smirks of the grocery clerks who know you on a first name basis.

Btw, should obsesive cumpulsive be hyphenated?


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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I read that SPF thing you are talking about today and honestly thought "Doesn't everyone write their list by aisle? It just makes sense".
I am nowhere near as organized as MH, but I do make menus from what's on sale in the flyers, my lists from the menus, and then categorize it by aisle. Of course, it wasn't until very recently that I managed to bring home bread that wasn't squished so my packing skills can use a little help. I don't mind shopping but I loathe the packing it up and then putting it away part.



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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, February 21st (Friday)

When I run out of something, I just add it to a list on my phone. My phone is always with me, so whether it is toothpaste or dried mustard, I just enter onto the list ASAP.

Then, when I go to the grocery store, I generally just buy staples, check to see what is on sale, then check my list for anything "odd" I need.

No coupons because I buy 90% fresh ingredients. Works for me!


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, February 21st (Friday)

you will never understand the joy of going back to the store a third time because you forgot(again) you were low on vanilla extract.
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Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, February 21st (Friday)

No coupons because I buy 90% fresh ingredients

cmego...

over half my weekly coupons are for fresh produce, meats and cheeses We don't eat junk food or pre-packaged meals. So if I have an in-store coupon for $1.50 off Boars Head deli cheese and a .50 mfg coupon for Boars Head deli cheese...I just saved $2.00 on a pound of good cheese

I usually average $60.00 - $70.00 a week in savings by using coupons. It takes a bit longer shopping but half the fun for me is to watch our bill go down at check out


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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I write a list based on things that we run out of and need. It's in random order. Not everything makes it to the list. I'll see things on sale while I'm shopping and I buy that too. I have an app that has coupons for the store I shop at, but I usually forget which ones I clipped. It's exciting when I discover while checking out that I've clipped a coupon for something I bought!

The store I shop at sells household items as well as groceries. I usually start on that side and work my way over to the food. Produce is last since it's right by the registers.

I do use lists more often in other areas of my life. Mostly to do lists.


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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I always start in the produce section and work my way to the frozen section.

WHAT?? I am exactly the opposite. Starting in the produce section might actually cause me to break out in hives, lol. I have a good reason though. If you start in the produce section all of your beautiful veggies get smooshed. Go there there last and they sit on the top without bruises or wilting.

Shopping is an experience that we need to set aside a good portion of the day. I sit at the table with cookbooks laid out in front of me. As we decide on our meals I write them on a pice of paper with the page number. On a separate piece of paper I write out all of the ingredients we need for each recipe organized by category in the store (meat, produce, etc). HT runs around the kitchen to check if we already have the items or if they need to be added to the list. I then go through the coupons, load the e-coupons on my app and away we go with our reusable bags in hand. HT is pretty systematic in how he puts the groceries on the belt. The system continues with is as he always puts the dry goods away and I put away refrigerated items.

I hate shopping alone. But somehow when we go as a team it's an outing.


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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I hate shopping alone. But somehow when we go as a team it's an outing.

This! Dh and I have a system. When I go alone I get stompy when it's time to bag everything and then put it away. It messes up the whole system



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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, February 21st (Friday)

If you start in the produce section all of your beautiful veggies get smooshed.

Not if you put them in the section where a toddler is supposed to ride!
If you start in frozen, all your ice cream melts before you're done shopping.


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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I may not be a list person but I grocery shop at BJ's. I group everything the way I need it packed and become VERY upset if self checkout is closed because I either hover while the cashier is packing or I unpack everything and repack in a way that makes sense. Seriously why would you put my food with the roach spray and why is my bread and fruits packed against the meat getting squashed!?


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WalkinOnEggshelz
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Not if you put them in the section where a toddler is supposed to ride!

That's where my purse and reusable bags gently cradle our Starbucks!!

We stopped buying ice cream but used to make a special trip to the freezer section at the end of our trip when we did!


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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I don't typically *do* grocery store lists unless I need something specific for a recipe that I don't keep around all the time.
I *group* my stuff on the conveyor belt and I ALWAYS put raw meat as the very last item so that the cashier doesn't smear any errant meat-juice all over the rest of my stuff.
All of my grocery stores use baggers.......but I have kick.ass packing skills


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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Oh thank goodness for you guys...after I saw that in SPF, I thought that I was on the verge of being a wack-a-doodle....but, I see I am more normal than originally confirmed!!

I grab the Meijer sales paper...then, I make a two week menu based upon what's on sale...then I make the grocery list...then I go back to the paper to add anything that I want that isn't on the two week menu...then I reorganize it based upon the isles...starting with the produce......

Then I go shopping, and at check out...organize everything on the conveyor belt....soft stuff on top of the cart...heavy stuff on bottom....

Then that's when it all falls apart...I get out of the store...it's snowing like hell, I pop the trunk throwing all the shit in...racing home, to find everything all over the trunk!

But again....it's good to know I'm normal!!


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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Oh! My dear, sweet, grocery list and sorting goods out angels!

Come rest your sweet, organised heads on MrsDoubtfire's ample, padded bosoms you good children!

I too write a list that is aisle oriented and I too go through the aisles in order.

If MrD tags along he might say; "Oh, I will go get the dog food and try to steer the cart to that aisle and I admonish him and say; "NO! Dog aisle is last sweetie! We need to do food and then cleaning goods before we even think of going there!"

I too sort out my shopping in order of bags it needs to go into.

One time I almost ripped the head off of the checkout girl who started to check my groceries and bag them by shouting (manically and OCD-ily) "PLEASE- do NOT touch my groceries until I have finished unloading them onto the conveyor belt as I need to put the cans and bottles to the start and I can't do that if you've already started sending stuff through! Also- I want to bag my own items as they need to go into ordered bags just how I like them"

No way can cleaning solutions go with foods or dog food with human food!


And one other anal retentive thing I have?

Do NOT fold my newspaper! I need my magazines and papers to be in a seperate bag thayt lies on it's side so they stay flat and unwrinkled and so the 'spine'stays straight so I don't open a skewed broadsheet!!

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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Wouldn't it be fun if all of us went shopping at the same time at the same store, and as we each got our turn at the cashier and unloaded our things, in order, then bagged them. Then the next group went up and did the same. The cashiers would look at each other and wonder if they were suddenly thrown into a twilight/stepford wives opposite galaxy. Oh the looks on their faces!

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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I use a list. It gets things added as we run low or out. I shop from the side of the grocery store I enter. Usually it's the deli and produce section first. I do the aisles, then the outside of the store.. so I end up almost where I started. I use coupons if I can. I also buy mostly unprocessed whole foods for which there are rarely coupons. I do check the circulars.

I have farmers in my family so I have a freezer chock full of meat that is processed by actual humans.

I'm with HufiPufi on the spontaneity tho ... I will deviate without a thought!! Even with lists I sometimes miss an item. I shop at 4 different grocery stores and BJ's. Each one is laid out slightly different. Not to mention that some items that are in one section in one store are in a completely different section in another. That is crazy making!


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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

The grocery store chain I frequent has an online list generator and you can customize it to the store you shop at...

So it puts it into order for you by aisle.

Also, you can shop their weekly circular online and add items right to your list from their.

So, they do all the work for me.


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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

You people invented the spread sheet didn't you?

I make a list. It makes me feel good to scratch things off of it. When I am in line, I look at my list so I know what to put on the new list at home that I forgot.

Now, how about closets? By color, material, occasion? Do your hangers match the color of the item hanging on it?


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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

My closet is by type (pants, workout wear, short sleeved t-shirts, long sleeved shirts) that's as good as it gets.

One or two dressy things on the other side.

Mostly it's just shoes in there.


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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Oh I'm OCD about my closets. My dresses have a section. Then my pants. Then my shirts. Then they get separated by dressy, club, work, everyday, cleaning. My pajamas are separated by warm or cool then by comfort levels. Underwear gets the same treatment.....hmmm thought I wasn't OCD.


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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Oh I'm OCD about my closets. My dresses have a section. Then my pants. Then my shirts. Then they get separated by dressy, club, work, everyday, cleaning. My pajamas are separated by warm or cool then by comfort levels. Underwear gets the same treatment.....hmmm thought I wasn't OCD.


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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I have two closets in my bedroom. One has dresses, skirts, and pants, organized by season, and then by color. The other closet is tops, blazers, and sweaters, all organized by season and then by color.



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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Oh, well...forget the closets...the closet are for hiding stuff at a moments notice...

I always say a prayer before I open the bi-fold doors..

"Oh God...please don't let anything fall down and kill me before I get these doors shut again!"


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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Closet - My cool weather tops are in one closet, separated thusly: 3/4 sleeve, long sleeve, 3/4 sleeve sweates, sweaters, jackets, coats. My other closet has jeans, Capri denim, black slacks/capris, gray slacks, brown/tan slacks/capris, camisoles, tank tops, short sleeves (separated into casual and work wear), skirts, dresses. I used to arrange each sub-section of tops into colors according to the rainbow, but gave that up when I had kids.

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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

My closets are pretty darned organized too.
I have the current season in the closet in my bedroom and move the out of season gear to the spare bedroom closet.
My clothes are organized dresses in one section, skirts, pants, then tops (sorted by long sleeve, short sleeve, then sleeveless).

ETA:
My dressers are slightly less neat, but there is still organization. Top drawer is bra and panties, second drawer is socks, pantyhose, and scarves, third drawer is loungeware/nightgowns, bottom drawer houses "around the house" teeshirts and shorts.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 10:09 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Ya'll ain't right.

You go to the store for two things you need. You leave with twenty-four none of which are the original things you went after. You see about a dozen people you know while you are there and talk about everyone and everything. Its a social occassion. Which is why you don't mind having to go back.

But since it took so long, you don't have time to cook when you get home, so you call Papa Johns or Dominoes for pizza.

That's how you do it.

And the closet - well, clean clothes go there. Dirty ones don't. That's as organized as I get.

[This message edited by mandala at 12:49 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Mandala, your post just gave me hives.

Closet, I would invite you in to see my closet!
All categories have a subcategory by color. So all pants are together, grouped by color. Dresses have their own section, grouped by color and from (typically) left to right going from casual to dressy. Blouses/tops are grouped by color with long sleeves to the left progressing to sleeveless to the right.

I decide what color I want to wear and the temperature and then I have just a few choices.

I find being organized with daily tasks like dressing and food shopping gives me time for more wool gathering, belly button picking and cloud admiration. I would like to think I am using the time for something more useful, but can't think of any place I am making a big difference (like Einstein who purportedly had multiples of the same outfit).

All that party organizing leaves me free to enjoy the get together with my guests. So to me it is a balance of sorts.


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