User Topic: My birthday
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, February 21st (Friday)

My birthday today. Equal parts "yay" and "blech".


The sun came out for a little while.
I got a sweet card and gift from my BFF and she treated me to a yummy lunch out.
My father called first thing this morning.
Zero contact from XWH, not that I really expected any but I was a little nervous.
Going salsa dancing tonight with friends.


Keep thinking about this day last year.
Got an obvious last-minute/zero-thought gift from XWH.
Got a sappy, romantic card from XWH.
Got on a plane that evening and flew to visit my parents for the weekend. I now know that OW was camped out at my house the whole time I was gone.
My mother still hasn't called me today.
I'm older.
I'm grayer.
I'm tired-er. (is that a word? It should be.)


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin

Posts: 1000 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Happy Birthday! Enjoy the dancing!

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 9999 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, February 21st (Friday)

HaPpY bIrThDaY!!! You forgot to add that you are stronger, wiser, and still fucking awesome!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2298 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Happy birthday! Mine is in 3 days. I don''t think I got anything from the Snake last year. Whatevs. Hugs on your mom though what''s up with that?

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!

Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Happy belated birthday!

How was the dancing?

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Yay for salsa dancing!
Happy Birthday

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Happy birthday! I hope the yays ended up winning out.

I recently had my 44th birthday. My 42nd was spent in the psych ward after my suicide attempt. It was when I was posting about that that I coined the phrase that later became my tag line: "The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!"

And you, my friend deserve fucking fabulous. Each year you will continue to get fabulouser!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!!!

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Thanks for the birthday wishes!

Salsa was fun. I go with the same group every Friday and its usually the high point of my week. I'm really glad my birthday (and Valentines) fell on Friday this year.

Headed out with some other friends tonight for dinner, and more dancing. This time it will be country and some West Coast Swing. Sometimes I'm still amazed at how much fuller my life is now that XWH is not in it!

When I got home late last night there was a voicemail from my mom. Not sure why she delayed calling all day, but at least I can stop worrying about her now.

It is a gorgeous, sunny day here today. Will probably take my little dog for a walk. So far the first day of my 45th year has been alright.

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin

Posts: 1000 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Happy Birthday!!!!!

Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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