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BAB61
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Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Things I want to say to my STBX - but won't waste my breath because I know in his foggy POS NPD mind he's re-written the past.

You had a good marriage that you were unwilling to work on to make it great!

You lied and cheated not only me, the person you VOWED to love, honor and cherish, but your children as well.

You don't know what honor is.

You don't know what integrity is.

You have no fucking clue what it means to really love someone. To put them first, to take the less than perfect and accept it as it is.

You hurt me more than you will ever understand because you are too shallow and self-absorbed to ever have the depth necessary to empathize.

I will never be your friend, I will be civil, but if you fucking think I am being 'amicable' you, with your English degree, do not have the least understanding of the word. Use the damn dictionary! dick

When the divorce is final and the papers are signed I do not ever want to fucking see you again. If your daughters ever want to see you it will be in a neutral place. Not my fucking house you asswipe!!

If there are future events that involve our children and THEY want both of us there I will be civil. Do not engage me in social, polite conversation. I will throw your cheating ass to the wolves.

You have killed all the love I had for you. You devalued the one person in your life that did not look at you and see a meal ticket. You think that is how I saw you because of your FOO filters. Not my fault.

You cheated. Not my fault.

You expect people to listen to you whine about me. Was I perfect? No. But then again, neither are you!

You are a waste of space!

Thanks for letting me vent .. I feel ever so much better!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I wish there was a clapping icon. This will have to do !!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2180 | Registered: Oct 2012
lilacs40
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Member # 31314
Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Well said.


I wish I could just stop I know another moment will break my heart too many tears too many time too many years I've cried over you

Posts: 298 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: IL
Must Survive
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Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Excellent Bab61. You said what I feel!

Hitting the like button.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 737 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I've actually said 90% of those things to my stbx at one point of another....and yea, nothing but a waste of my breath.
Good decision on your part.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7994 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
scarednbroken
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Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I would like to give you a standing Ovation! I feel the same about my WH... He wouldn't listen either, or think he did a darn thing wrong.


BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
jackie89
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Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, February 21st (Friday)

That was great!

I've said many of those things to my STBX in voice mails, in person, and you're right, wish I HADN't, he didn't get it.


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 477 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, February 21st (Friday)

I've said many of those things to my STBX in voice mails, in person, and you're right, wish I HADN't, he didn't get it.

DITTO!


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5547 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
careerlady
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Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Well said! Glad you posted it here!

GOD I hate waywards


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I'm trying to learn not to waste my breath asking WH to stay anymore. It's hard.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
myowndystopia
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Member # 41340
Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

You lied and cheated not only me, the person you VOWED to love, honor and cherish, but your children as well.

Amen sister! I had several other points I needed to amen but finger hit the submit button instead of enter! So Amen Sister to the whole post!

[This message edited by myowndystopia at 8:04 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)]


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


Posts: 408 | Registered: Nov 2013
sleepless34
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Member # 40274
Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Love it and I could have written it myself.

I agree that it is a waste of breath.

I will never understand that THEY can not understand how hurtful what they did was. You are right, they don't have the depth necessary to empathsize because they are so busy worrying about themselves and the impact to them.

Do you ever wonder why you didn't see it more clearly before?? That is what I am struggling with....where the hell was I when I was apparently married to an insensitive, selfish, dishonest and allegedly unhappy husband?


Me BW- 40ish, awesome
Cheating scusband 40ish
2 kids, elementary school age
Bomb dropped Aug 4 out of nowhere...

Posts: 443 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Hell
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