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luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I've been MIA on SI recently because I've been struggling with my break from XSO back in November. This has been the hardest breakup I've ever experienced and I've just been no good to anyone, even myself.
I decided I needed some quality time with my close girlfriend so came to Florida for the week. I had a wonderful time and feel like a lot of healing has taken place. But right now I'm waiting at the airport in Tampa, flying home from vacation a day early because DD needs me.
I got a call from her H on Thursday, she had a seizure and had seemingly lost all memory since her last seizure 22 months ago (caused by hormones from her IUD). She was very upset seeing her now 2 yr old child and was very confused by all the changes in her home. She slept most of the day but had some periods of wakefulness in which her memories were very sporadic but she was piecing things back together. She had another seizure last night and when she woke she didn't recognize her H, her home, her dogs...nothing. He took her to ER and called me on the way, she sobbed "mommy, I'm scared, who's going to take care of me?". I calmly told her that her H loved her very much and he would take care of her and I would be there ASAP.
She had another seizure in the ER, which expedited them through the 3 hour wait time. They gave her anticonvulsants and sent her home with instructions to follow up with neurologist.
She is 14 weeks pregnant, her H has been researching and thinks the seizures are hormone related. He seems to be holding it together pretty well and I know I can't do anything for her but I have to be there to hold her and calm her fears. She may be 29 but she's still my baby.
So, prayers and mojo are much appreciated.


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, February 22nd (Saturday)

((((luvbug & DD))))

Sending strength and healing thoughts your way. This is a lot to deal with.

((((luvbug & DD))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

((((luvbug and DD))))
Sending prayers, mojo, and hope.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Sending all my prayers for healing!!!

Seizures are truly scary!


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

(((((luvbug)))))))

She has already been thru so much, and now this??!!

Try to stay calm. You will be home in a few hours and then you will be able to hold her hand and make her feel safe.

Sending major prayers and mojo your way


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

(((luv and DD)))

Sending prayers


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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mysticpenguin
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Omg - I'm so sorry, I can only imagine how scary this is! (((((Hugs))))) I hope the docs have answers soon!


Betrayed

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Sending prayers and mojo for you and DD.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Scary. Sending you all good thoughts


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1587 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 11:24 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I went straight to my daughter from the airport, spent all evening helping her piece the last 8 or 9 yrs of her life together. She is very lucid and you would never know anything was wrong with her except for the missing memories.
I got back to my apartment at about 10pm after being gone sine the 15th and my apartment was broken into. I'm at my mom's for the night. I'm a wreck, I don't know how much more I can take.


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


Posts: 1027 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
really trying
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

(((LUVBUG)))

I'm so sorry.


Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08

The future's so bright - I got to wear shades

Plant Seeds of Kindness


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

How terrifying. Sending prayers for your whole family.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

((((luvbug & DD)))) Sending healing energy for you both....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

How scary! I hope your DD is quickly on the mend, luvbug. Sending strength to you, your DD, and SIL.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

wow ... lots on your plate .. many prayers and much mojo ... (((luvbug0915)))


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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roseguide
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

((((((luvbug0915)))))) Prayers


D final 12/3/12 6 months and 4 days from D-day
My only missteps were; 1. Listening to lies because I didn't want to see the painful truth, 2. Letting it go on this long, 3. Being capable of love beyond all reason and condition - Eumenides, SI member

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

((((and mojo, an strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, February 24th (Monday)

((HUGS)) I'm so sorry!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, February 24th (Monday)

(( luvbug family ))

so scary. lots of good thoughts for you all!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

((((luvbug)))) Sending healing and peaceful thoughts to you and your family.


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


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luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Thought I'd post an update and more info on DDs condition, it's the strangest thing.
Her personality is 100% in tact, her sense of reason and logic are in tact and to talk to her you would never know anything is wrong except for the fact that she doesn't remember most of her adult life.
She knows that she has been with her husband for 11 yrs, she knows that she loves him and trusts him and she would not have married him and had children with him if she didn't. She just doesn't have 11 yrs worth of memories with him. She doesn't remember her wedding but remembered a ring that her H gave her on their first anniversary and when prompted was able to come up with the details of where they went and how romantic it was.
She remembers giving birth and the first few months after but nothing of her 2 yr old after that. She is amazed by how smart he is and that she actually taught him his numbers, shapes, colors, etc...
She remembers cousins but not their children, she remembers a dog I had that died but not the one I've had for 6 yrs.
She doesn't remember that she spins her own yarn, knits her own socks, quilts, bakes, makes her own soaps, detergents and deodorant.
I've heard stories of similar situations from a couple friends, one got his memory back after just a week, the other took almost a year.
SIL got referral and paperwork from ER yesterday and is waiting on call back from neurologist. We're hoping to get her in this week.


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Thanks for posting an update. I was just looking for your thread to ask. Continued good thoughts!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, March 14th (Friday)

I am happy to report that it has been 3 weeks since DDs last seizure. Unfortunately she has been sick with one thing or another almost the entire time. Once the postictal headaches and sleepiness wore off she almost immediately had a crohns flare up, and now she is fighting strep throat. Poor thing can't catch a break during this pregnancy!
For the first 2 weeks her H and I tag teamed to make sure she wasn't left alone with the 2 yr old. We recruited her cousin to come sit with her when we were both needed at our jobs but she quickly became resentful and didn't want any more "babysitters". I had a heart to heart with her and her H and she conceded to let him install a nanny cam so that we could both watch her from work. It's gone very well for the past week. Now mind you, I was with her on Saturday, her H was off Sunday, Tues and Wed. I took a long lunch yesterday to take her to the Dr then I dropped my GS at my nieces so DD could rest. So in actuality she has only been alone with him for an entire day twice since her H put the camera up last Wednesday evening. But, it gives us both peace of mind knowing that we can check on her and GS throughout the day without having to blow her phone up all day long.
Her memory is starting to improve, she has what she has described as memory bursts. The more we talk to her about people, places, things, etc... the more familiar they feel to her. I am hopeful she will recover a lot more of her memories, I just hope she doesn't remember that she doesn't like me very much. LOL!


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, March 16th (Sunday)

Glad to hear of the improvements! Hope you are dealing ok with all the stress and uncertainty. (((luvbug)))


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


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