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Member # 42399
Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

What kind of physical pain do you have? Mine have been:
neck and shoulder pain (so bad that I couldn't lift one arm)
Tingly out of body feeling

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

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Member # 42160
Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)


Me - BS 39
Her - WW 34
Kids - 3 & 1
Married - 9 years
Status - FUBAR

Posts: 211 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I have had a cold lingering since November - not a simple one - coughing aching, migraines, chest pains, teeth hurting, etc. October was when I found out that he was seeing multiple hookers. I have been to the doctor they say its stress related. When I read messages between him and his OWs, I get very nauseated.

Much of this can be accounted to stress, grinding or gritting teeth, low appetite so low nutrition. I think that's why the best advice I got from here was eat well, exercise, drink lots of water. Because if you don't you will get sick.

BS: Me 44 WH: 50 Kids: 13, 15, 17, 28 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 417 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
Member # 42140
Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I have constant headaches and dont sleep much. Constantly tired and trouble concentrating on most everything. When i think of the A i get a physical pain in my chest n stomach. Anxiety i think.

BH-46 (me)
First Dday-2/09
Sec Dday-1/14
Married 17 yrs. Together 26

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NJ
Member # 37451
Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Trouble sleeping, mostly waking very early, 4am, for over a year now.

Grinding teeth in sleep, clenching teeth.

Back pain, never had this before, it is constant now.

I vomited every day after dday #1, now it is only when I get very stressed.

Poor appetite.

Concentration, focus, that is a struggle, it is a conscious effort.

The physical is easier to take than the emotional.

My IC showed me a technique called tapping, it helps.

"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie


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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

sometimes my heart aches!

BS me
WS him
OW my former friend and neighbor
Dday 1 2/20/11
Dday 2 3/08/11
Two little ones
Married 19 years
Together 26 years

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Member # 42399
Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Oh, and how could I forget, my hands shake and twitch all the time.

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

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Member # 42356
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

unfortunately I do get literal chest pains
severe anxiety
unable to eat, leading to stomach issues
dehydration as well
muscle aches
parts of my body hurting that I didn't even know could hurt

"A tree falls the way it careful which way you lean"

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Member # 42356
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Also grinding teeth so much when I sleep that my jaw hurts all day long, sometimes difficult to even open my mouth to take a bit of food.

"A tree falls the way it careful which way you lean"

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DOH!  Posted: 8:56 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I have had sleep apnea for years and had a mouth appliance. Since D-day, I have TMJ disorder from grinding my teeth. The TMJ is exacerbated by the appliance so I can't wear it. Now I am grinding my teeth and waking up all night and falling asleep at my computer at work. Thank you, STBX!

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Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

Stabbing aching stomach pain, nausea
"digestive issues" we'll leave it at that
throbbing pain in my chest, all the way down to my hands and feet
neck/arm pain with symptoms down to my hand(tight muscles/stress)
shaking at times

My IC remarked on how much severe emotional pain can be felt physically. It gives me a new understanding of "heartbreak". It literally feels like something in your body has broken.

I am so sorry for all of us who have had to deal with this.

Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 512 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

I've been losing a lot of my hair.
Chest area hurts
Stomach hurts

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Member # 41407
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, February 22nd (Saturday)

When I first had conversations w/ WH my body trembled. Lack of sleep, interrupted sleep, and nightmares.

Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo

Posts: 485 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Florida
Member # 41800
Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

I have insomnia and because I have a newborn it just makes it worst. I am 1 year out from DDay and haven't had a good nights sleep in that year. During my pregnancy my Midwife had me take unisom but it doesn't work anymore (only work the first couple of times).

Will never be naive again...

BW - Me (28)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (33)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (3) and DD (5 months)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on

Posts: 110 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: USA
Member # 42541
Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

I get severe anxiety when I think about the affair... my heart races and I can't concentrate... I also feel nauseous a lot too...

if I get super super nervous, I get the poops (tmi sorry!) haha but it's the truth....

DDay ~ 2/23/13

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Member # 40379
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Same ↑↑↑

Hair loss
Periods of being unable to eat and nausea.
Physically sick a few times (the worst being right after I installed the keylogger - what had I become, having to do that???)
Worst and for which I am utterly ashamed, I cut myself for about four months. This "isn't me" and I will never allow myself to get so low again. Nothing and nobody is worth that.

Ooh! I'm all pissed again! Good job he's not here right now lol.

Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995

Posts: 232 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
Member # 42365
Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Can't sleep
Dry mouth
No appetite
Can't focus for long

And WH: chest pains, dehydration

[This message edited by ncharge at 9:07 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)]

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Member # 38173
Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, February 23rd (Sunday)

neck and shoulder pain
no appetite

"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 42421
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Neck pain, severe chest pain, shakes, tingling, sore jaw, headache, throwing up. I was burning myself for a week or so, but quit that and got a new tattoo to try and get the emotional pain out into physical pain. Can't sleep even with pills, and finally on some anxiety medicine that helps. Had my restless leg syndrome under control with meds but now it seems worse.

I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.

BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo

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