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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Will he drop checks off at my lawyer's tomorrow? Maybe his dad and brother floated him a loan at the last minute?
I hate waiting.
I really hate not knowing what is going to happen.
It makes me anxious.
I hate being anxious.

When I picked up Teslet tonight, he was full of bravado. Kept calling goodbye to Teslet. "I love you Teslet. Be careful on the ice."

And as he's saying goodbye for the third fucking time, all I saw was myself bitch slapping that piece of shit. Sigh. I need the weather to get better so I can get out and run.

I also would like ex-shat to fall off the face of the earth. No, that's not true - I'd really rather see him in an orange jumpsuit.

Okay, deep cleansing breath. He'll either pay tomorrow or he won't.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Maybe he went over and above with the goodbyes because he knows that he is going to jail? Wishful thinking, I suppose. Chin up, Tesla, time loves to tell the truth.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, February 23rd (Sunday)

Naa. He went over and above with the goodbyes because he's an asshat, and wanted to show Tesla he isn't afraid of the courts threats, because no one would dare throw him in jail for not paying her. He thinks nothing will happen. He's an asshat.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, February 24th (Monday)


Naa. He went over and above with the goodbyes because he's an asshat, and wanted to show Tesla he isn't afraid of the courts threats, because no one would dare throw him in jail for not paying her. He thinks nothing will happen. He's an asshat.

No... He thinks he's an excellent lawyer, who will only have to waltz into the courtroom and the judge will bow down before his legal aptitude and skittle shitting unicorns will surround the perimeter while stripper whore dances just for him and Tesla begs for his forgiveness for misunderstanding the decree, and judges last ruling. He will then tap dance away to the land of rented housing and dog pissed on furniture.

Seriously though, Tesla... I hope he looks good in orange and stripper whore can make enough money to support her and the stripper spawn dancing the morning shift at The SparkleTits Palace, with that csection scar when he's locked up and she finds out it was a rental after all...

Oh wait! What's that I hear? Could it be?! Oh yeah, Baby! It's the Karma Bus and it's revving it's engines...


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Posts: 867 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, February 24th (Monday)

Exshat may come out of jail knowing how to dance a pole himself. They'll be a two stripperwhore income household. So Prec-ious!

Don't let it get to you Tesla. Whatever happens is going to happen and you're going to be OK no matter what. Breathe through the anxiety until it passes - do not feed it. I have a feeling you'll be around this block several times over the next 13 years. Do try to enjoy the view.

Time for my favourite NIK-ism "They know exactly which buttons to press because they installed the fuckers!!".


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, February 24th (Monday)

I'm getting impatient to hear, and it's not even my life!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3400 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
hexed
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, February 24th (Monday)

your Kracken needs a shot of caffeine :)


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Well, it's official. I'm pissed the fuck off.
No check and no court date to hold him accountable for it until...wait for it...22 April!!!

What the holy fuck? So he gets to 'get away with it.' The consequences are so far delayed, who gives a fuck? He gets to do whatever the fuck he wants like he always does. He gets to feel like he is bigger than the system.

He is stealing from his son and he is stealing from me. Where is the justice?

I have done everything right. Everything. I've always taken the high road with this fucker. Given him a shit ton of rope to hang himself. Trusted that the legal system is the rightful recourse in this situation. Trusted that the legal system actually gives a shit to right wrongs.

What have I got? Nothing. This pieceofshit owes me an ungodly amount of money. I am making it on a teacher's salary. By the time the court date roles around, he will owe me nearly a third of my yearly salary. I shit you not. One fucking third.

Can I take out a billboard on the highway advertising that this guy is a deadbeat? I bet that gives him some incentive to pay.
I am so angry.
Fuck it.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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myowndystopia
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, February 24th (Monday)

And rightly so.... You should be angry. Thinking of you and Teslet tonight.


Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain
Adele


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I generally don't like to wish "ill" on people, but I think this calls for an exception.

Dear Universe,
Far be it from me to tell you how to do your job, but in this instance, would you please make a special trip see Tesla's ex, bend him over, and treat him like the "Piggy" scene from the movie Deliverance? Hearing him squeal like a piggy would surely put a long overdue smile on Tesla's face.

Sincerely,
Everyone with a Heart

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 5:44 PM, February 24th (Monday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, February 24th (Monday)

((Tesla))

I want to nut punch him so bad for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, February 24th (Monday)

((Tesla)) I am so, so sorry. I swear the justice system gives way too many chances.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
jackie89
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, February 24th (Monday)

(((( Tesla))))

I'm so sorry, you know you are right, you want to believe in the Justice System, but this just seems so outright unfair to you and to Teslet.

You will continue to survive this, and his day will come. But how sad, why did it have to come to this?

Thinking of you tonight!


Separated/divorcing

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Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
hexed
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, February 24th (Monday)

((tesla))

I can tell you that after watching my SOs contempt case with his XWW go through the courts it was not fast nor was it fair. She owes him half of the equity of a house she let go into foreclosure. The amount should have been about a years salary. He will never see that money. Oh did I mention that she has a brand new house and after paying his CS he couldn't afford a 1 bdr apt? This shit sucks.

if it makes you feel any better, you know he's not going to pay you before april. if he does well shock of shock you got money. He will have consequences it will just take forever.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, February 24th (Monday)

See if you can get interest on the past due amount. I think in my state I might have gotten it, but we didn't ask the judge for it. An oversight I won't make again!!

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BAB61
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Not surprised, but totally disappointed ...


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BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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