New Beginnings
User Topic: forget me yet? whazup people?
Member # 26894
Cool  Posted: 1:08 PM, February 24th (Monday)

hey, stretch13 here, just checking in after many moons and months to say, "hi" and "yay, life is good!" it's hard to believe that things could be so twisted-norman-rockwell-perfect in this here fBS's world. but it is.

DD turns 5 in a week. holy bigger shoe size, batman! she was just 10 months old when i lost my soul and found SI. i'd never be where i am without this site. peterpan and i are swimming in love, respect and happiness. one little couples retreat this last summer melted away the last of our defensive habits, both of us, and our relationship is easier than i knew was possible. i love having my life and his and then ours to share. we have the happiest little family.

anyway, i can't spend too much time catching up, at least not today...but i've been meaning to drop in for a while and clap for everyone a little, motivational and congratulatory claps both, for anyone here who needs them.

next? the day after tomorrow, i'm going to learn how to snow ski. no doubt littlebean will be better than me by noon on thursday. wish me luck and soft landings for these ever-more-crackly bones.

i think of you guys all the time. i'm still trying to remember who recommended Bon Iver to me so long ago. i was skeptical but have fallen in love with that voice. soon my archives will be open to me and i'll hunt that down. i feel scared to go back and read my archives. not sure i'm ready for that, but i surprise myself lately with how things don't trigger me when i expect them too.

happy feb 24th everyone. i love you all!


life must be rich and full of loving--it's no good otherwise, no good at all, for anyone - j. kerouac

Posts: 3929 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: east coast
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Hi, honey! So Good to "see" you.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Hi Stretch! (waves)

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Member # 27544
Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Hey stretch...

Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2260 | Registered: Feb 2010
Member # 3903
Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Hey I certainly remember you! Thank you for an inspiring post. So love is possible. I do not doubt it. Someday!

There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1670 | Registered: Mar 2004
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, February 24th (Monday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17530 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Hey stretch! Glad little one is doing well too.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4609 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 26894
Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

turns out my archives made me feel proud and forgiving of that devastated girl more than four years ago. no triggering at all (not at what i picked through so far).

and by the way, thank God my saints won the superbowl in the months after dday. i think back to those first weeks of hell and sorrow and laugh at what kept me in touch with any kind of life (besides DD). then i almost cry with thanks for those moments. they are some of the only ones i remember where i felt anything like whole, even if only for a couple of hours. that was truly a personal gift to me from the Universe.

[This message edited by stretch13 at 4:40 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)]

life must be rich and full of loving--it's no good otherwise, no good at all, for anyone - j. kerouac

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