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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Wow! A man came to my door. He is selling meat door to door. It is very cold out. 12 degrees. He asked if I was interested, they are selling steaks for less than $4.00 a steak. Filet mignon. Yum. I said maybe.

He goes to his vehicle to get the box of meat. He comes back. He asks if he can come in my house, I said no, I don't know you. He said, "I don't know you either and it is cold out here, but whatever." He starts showing me the meat. I have to buy the whole package and I ask where the meat is from. He doesn't have a uniform on or ID. I didn't ask for ID either, stupidly. But the meat looked legit. He said he was US Beef Company. Or, something like that.

I asked "How much for the package?" he said $1000.00 dollars but was joking. So then he says "Since you haven't ordered from us before" and starts showing me an official looking pamphlet, but he is doing this through my closed glass storm door that I have open just a crack so I can hear him. He wants to open the door more so he can put his arm in or something with the pamphlet and then he says "What the fuck", because he is frustrated, I guess, and cold. No gloves and just a hoody. I closed the door in his face.

Now, why do I feel bad? Here is a guy trying to make a living. It is cold outside. Not comfortable with having a door to door salesman in my house. I don't even like having repairmen that I called in my house when I am alone. I believe I did the right thing, but now I feel like a bad person. *sigh*


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, February 24th (Monday)

The only meat/seafood that I know of that goes door to door (in my area) is Schwanns (or something like that).
A guy in a hoody with no ID or uniform? Was he even driving a "company" vehicle that was marked with a company name? The whole thing smells of stolen goods to me.

Thank goodness you didn't let him in your house.
His entire attitude was sketchy. If you DID buy some, please don't eat it. Who knows how it has been stored or where its been before it ended up in his trunk.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 2:19 PM, February 24th (Monday)]


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strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, February 24th (Monday)

A guy in a hoody with no ID or uniform? Was he even driving a "company" vehicle that was marked with a company name? The whole thing smells of stolen goods to me.
Thank goodness you didn't let him in your house.
His entire attitude was sketchy. If you DID buy some, please don't eat it. Who knows how it has been stored or where its been before it ended up in his trunk.

All of the above!

Don't feel bad Sister! You did the right thing. Most people have some official looking jacket/name tag/ANYTHING to identify them.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, February 24th (Monday)

They have their own trucks clearly decaled with their logo on them. I see them around town all the time. So if this guy didn't have the truck, I'd be suspect.

They caught my X, the salesman, at home alone and we ended up with hundreds of dollars worth of what I consider pretty sub standard quality meat. In fact, we ended up tossing most of it away.

As to his attitude, anyone using that kind of language wouldn't even get a second chance with me.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Yeah you can't miss those yellow monster Schwann trucks. There's another company that has a white vans with ribs or a ham on the side of the van as well. I don't like door to door salesman. As soon as I say no thank you or not interested, you should walk away don't try to convince me otherwise. Half the time I don't even open the door. Nothing against them personally but don't come bothering me at my home. I personally think you should call and report his ass to the police. If he's still in the area going door to door they will find him. If he's legit then he'll have paperwork to show them if not then they at least know who he is.

Yeah, I really don't like door to door salesman.


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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, February 24th (Monday)

This happened at my house once, years ago. We had just gotten my summer check for teaching (I opted to have my salary paid out evenly over 12 months). My then H bought a whole package. Over $500. The meat was in boxes and individually sealed in vacuum packs. I hated it. It didn't taste anywhere near as good as what I normally buy. I was so thankful when the last of it was finally gone.

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I wouldn't have even opened or answered the door.

I don't open my door to anyone but the mailman or UPS...

And I don't feel one bit bad about it.


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, February 24th (Monday)

SMS!!!

He was selling meat out of the back of his car...you know better!

I am glad he swore and made you slam the door, that is some frightening stuff!

Who sells filet mignon for four bucks??

Cripes, keep the door locked!

I am glad you are ok.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, February 24th (Monday)

There is a company here that has trucks that have a freezer in the bed and they are painted like cows. (Clever huh) They came to my door one time, and the dude was less than professional, and since I had two kids that were yelling at each other, and great dane that didn't like him he didn't hang around long.....And he never came back.

DO NOT FEEL BAD. I WOULD NEVER ALLOW A SALSEMEN IN MY HOME. I don't care who is there and isn't, he doesn't need to be in my house.

I did have to get rude with a book salesmen one time. He caught me on the porch with a glass of wine, on a warm afternoon, and thought he could rook me.
I finally said "Listen your a nice kid an all, but I discourage my kids from reading, gives em ideas ya know."
Yah he left.


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annb
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, February 24th (Monday)

ALWAYS be cautious!

Recently in my neck of the woods, a man with a uniform similar to the postal uniforms knocked on a door, the woman opened the door thinking it was a delivery, all of a sudden three more guys run up her driveway and storm into the house.

This woman was home with four small children, she was knocked on the head with a gun?. Her children were terrorized. Fortunately, no family member sustained injuries, but the emotional toll is yet to be seen.

Unless I SEE a truck parked in the front of my home, I do not answer the door....ever.


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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I've gotten so that I don't even answer the door if I don't know the person.


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mainlyinpain
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, February 24th (Monday)

"But the meat looked legit"

ROFL

What does illegitimate meat look like?


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I have a very clear "No Soliciting" sign on my door...and 4 dogs that make vendors think twice about opening my gate.


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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I bought some steaks from one of those guys once. They were terrible. They had no marbling but a ton of gristle, they were rubbery and just thoroughly unappealing. You're not a bad person for not having a refrigerator full of sub-par meat.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Even assuming this was legitimate, it isn't your fault that he opted not to dress appropriately for his job and didn't behave in a professional manner.


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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Since I live in the semi-boonies, guys like this come around fairly frequently. I keep the glass storm door locked and if I see them coming up the front walk I just stand in the doorway and provide my answer through the door. Saves the hassle. I've had guys come around asking if I need any work that needs "doin" (No; I have a regular handyman); the unmarked meat scam (Why on earth would I buy unknown meat from a stranger?); and best of all, the driveway scam (Why would I let you put an unknown substance you have leftover from other paving jobs on top of my driveway?). As an older woman living alone, there is NO way I'm opening my door to somone I don't know or who is not scheduled to come to my house in advance from a trusted company - flat out.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, February 24th (Monday)

At times like this it was very helpful to have a mastiff. No one ever wanted to come inside my house.

Seriously I would never buy meat or seafood from an unknown vendor. I was even leery of fruits & vegetables, and people were always these on the side of the road in AZ.


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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Oops

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 4:31 PM, February 24th, 2014 (Monday)]


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, February 24th (Monday)

It's illegal to transport if not in a refrigerated truck (I don't care how cold it is out) and in most places all such commercial trucks must have sign ID on the door.


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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I have these guys come around to my house a couple of times a year.

It is usually a GREAT deal & any meat we have ever bought has been good.

They hire "kids" who can drive around & go door-to-door selling but do not have regular routes, etc. (I have asked them to return on a more regular basis & this was what the owner told me one time.)

JMO...but I did want to say that someone out here has had it happen & I look forward to when they come back, as you can get some great package deals from them!!!


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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Oh did I mention that I tend to keep a shotgun by the door, and nothing makes a stranger more cautious than a lab barking, and growling, and foaming at the mouth, and a semicrazed appearing middle aged woman answering the door, with her hand on a shotgun......

I too live in the country, and don't particularly take kindly to strangers showing up, but I also know some folks stop by to buy honey too.


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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I'm with tushnurse... I don't have a shotgun by the door but I have 240 lbs of dogs throwing themselves on the storm door. I've had girl scouts run crying away (I'm really sorry about that but hey there is a "no soliciting" sign).

I would never buy "meat" from some dude driving in a truck. What? Did he knock over a butcher shop? That just sounds fishy (no meat puns intended).


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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

We have those "men with meat" in my area as well. They have even stopped at the gas station when I was pumping gas trying to get me to buy stuff out of their vehicle.

Like some others mentioned - this is common in certain regions.

However, I have never bought it and have heard very mixed reviews from the locals.

Trust your gut and belly to suppliers you know.


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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

You did the right thing. I have a 110 pound German Shepherd who pretty much hates everyone (but me of course). When sales people show up at the door, I answer holding the monster dog by his collar. They usually don't hang around long enough to tell me what they are selling.

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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I too live in the country, and don't particularly take kindly to strangers showing up, but I also know some folks stop by to buy honey too
OMG! In a previous job I did field work for a utility company. This meant going out and walking through the woods and roads of some very rural areas. I have run into male and female variations of you Tushnurse. I learned quickly to always keep the company vehicle close, always have a badge displayed, always wear my hardhat with the company logo and ALWAYS announce my name, company, and reason for being in the area prior to walking up to someones house if they are outside. If I had to knock on a door I rang the doorbell then stepped off the porch so they could see me and pointed to my vehicle on the road as I talked I have actually bought some local honey from more than a few people as well.

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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

We have those "men with meat" in my area as well.

Something about this sentence makes me giggle.


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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

We have "meat men" here as well... they probably show up once or twice a year. I always tell them I don't have any money and they step off pretty quickly.

It might be legit but it still seems sketchy to me.


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I had this happen at my old house. Guy gave me his spiel about the meat, but I told him I don't have the space for all of that meat. Then he says that he will pack it in my freezer for me. No thanks.


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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

You did not order it. He came up to your door unexpected. He tried to enter and you denied that.

You should probably call the police and file a report as to what happened. He likely was trying to scope out your house or worse - look for dogs, a SO/spouse, etc. You need to tell the cops to increase patrols in your neighborhood. NOW.

Edited to add, I have 4 dogs and they go nuts when someone is at the door. 3 are Norwegian Elkhounds, one is a hound mix. One of the Elkies is a large bitch with a big head who is VERY protective of me. If anyone got past the dogs they get my choice of firearms drawn upon them. The closest one I could get to. At least one in every room.

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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

My Collie knows and obeys the command "Quiet". I never use that command when sales people come to the door.

I remember a Bible Thumper coming to the door. My Collie kept barking and barking while I held her collar. He said it's really hard to talk with the dog barking. I said, exactly and closed the door.


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Default  Posted: 7:11 AM, February 27th (Thursday)

We have those "men with meat" in my area as well.
Something about this sentence makes me giggle.

It gets better. I found my FB post last night from way back when this happened. Here is the details, I was pumping gas and some guy says:

"Psssst.....Hey lady.....you want some pork on a stick?"

Bahahahahaahaaaa - he was selling pork shish-ka-bobs.


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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, February 27th (Thursday)

Legit or not, the guy was not acting professional at all and I wouldn't have dealt with him either. He's not going to make a very good living acting like that. Try not to feel bad!


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